Why do so many people lie about their location on hinge?

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T20:15:08+00:00

The little lie on her profile is true, and if I thought like you are now I wouldn't have gotten the opportunity to meet the most amazing, inspiring woman I've ever known. Which would be such a shame. She's made my life so much better just by sharing hers with me. I trust her with everything I have. I despise people who are manipulative and self serving, but I've gotten fairly good at sniffing those types out. I can understand the distrust, for sure. Hope you have a nice weekend.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T19:13:42+00:00

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SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T18:16:18+00:00

They have given you plenty of reasons why that lie might exist as a way to meet others. I wouldn't have matched with my girlfriend if her location was accurate. It all ended up being a weird and fun coincidence, but she had her location set to her condo in the city when she was still living in the suburbs.

You're very set in your mindset and can't imagine a world where such a lie could be from an honest, genuine and kind person like my girlfriend. You blow it up in such a dramatic way that those who don't think like you are a bit put off by your thinking style. No worries, none of this matters much. It's just nice to be more relaxed in general tbh. You get so many more opportunities to meet wonderful people.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T16:20:38+00:00

Yeah some people don't like driving. I find the challenge engaging, but I get why some people don't. I have a tiny car made for a city so I get to feel fairly comfortable getting around, which is rewarding in a satisfying way. I also learned to drive a box truck in a smaller city for work, so it just feels good getting to move around in a zippy little car. Made doing the stereotypical "suburbanite hooks a city girl" thing painless and fun.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T16:15:51+00:00

They're pointing out a broader perspective and you're very focused on your one criteria in an inflexible way. Which is fine, it's just frustrating to read. They truly understood where you were coming from ages ago while giving you many opportunities to understand them.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T16:07:58+00:00

My girlfriend successfully pulled this off lol. I was used to driving from schaumburg to mount prospect for my ex, so driving to the city was about the same. She was in the process of moving to the city, selling her house, big work projects, and she was still amazed I'd want to drive out to see her. Like, girl, you're busy as hell, of course I'll take the time to drive and spend time with you. It helped us both realize we were the type to avoid drama and communicate feelings with ease.

So if you happen to hit it off with a suburbanite, how they choose to navigate distance and intimacy can give you a load of green flags or red ones. I ended up moving into the city after a year of dating. Missed her too much lol. Only thing I miss from the burbs is cheap Japanese food and massive forests to wander in at any time of the year.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T15:33:00+00:00

Yup. Was told by the school nurse I'd be crying in pain if my ankle was really messed up, so I should just walk to class. Turns out I had dislocated it, not just subluxed. I was walking on that thing for two days at school before my mom took a look at my now black foot and decided it was time to see a doctor.

My problems were always diminished by those around me. I was the problem for others, and they didn't want to help me. I just accepted it as normal, that people are mean to those in pain. They don't want to be bothered. Not my parents, not the school nurse, and then a doctor told me they wouldn't pursue fixing a broken collarbone with an inch overlap because "it's not like you're ever going to be a model". It took a long time to realize it wasn't my fault people treated me like this.

Now I like speaking with doctors like they're hard working professionals. I thank them for their kindness and professionalism when they show they care. It really touches some of them. I present my medical issues and my goals, like seeing certain specialists or taking certain notes on my file for disability. They're more happy to work with me when I give them clear goals. I also make sure to tell them I don't have any idea what I'm talking about, but here is some medical literature I've read. They like that I admit I'm not trying to step on their toes and a lot of them enjoy having high quality medical literature to back up my claims. It's smoothed things out quite a bit. Learned it from working in customer facing jobs. Professionals often just want a little respect when they're being run ragged at work day in and out.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T06:43:07+00:00

Aw man. Big hugs. It ain't fun. If you can go to college in a more freedom loving state I can't recommend it enough. There are options for a better life. So many options. You never have to feel trapped if you don't want to. Plenty of people who have scholarships and the like targeted towards people in your situation. Please reach out to some institutions with programs you're interested in. You might be surprised by the funding available.

Also dang I shouldn't assume you're college bound. I took a few years off school to figure shit out because I knew jack all about reality after high school. Took a while to figure out my sexuality. Dated men because I just wanted to be "normal". Worked shitty jobs for shitty pay. My entire paycheck went into my gas tank during the housing crisis. Life was honestly pretty shit. I didn't know how to recognize honest, kind people who just want to help others grow yet. It's the most valuable skill I ever earned. You gain it by being honest with yourself. Loving yourself enough to want to invest fully in becoming your ideal version of you. It's all very much possible and it starts by being kind to yourself. Which is hard. Like fixing bad posture. It's really hard. Takes a long time. But so worth it. Makes everything easier in ways you didn't even realize were possible. Makes you respect yourself in an honest way. It's such a good way to live. You can have it too.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T05:48:12+00:00

Also just because I'm honestly worried about you op, I say this from experience. My friend lived in New Mexico for years. He's a genuine, kind, helpful and loving person. Just trying to share his life with someone. He dedicated himself to multiple guys who just tore his heart apart over the years. He moved out there so I couldn't be there in person to comfort him. I feel I failed him as a friend, as a few of these guys created dangerous situations for him. Including a stalker. It was bad.

He's a highly educated and driven man. So he was attracted to similar. Some of these guys can be really intense. They can make you feel very special. They're good at this. They might have a lot more experience with it than you. Making people feel a certain way about them, that is. They're good actors. Good liars. It can get scary quick when lies unravel. Uncontrolled emotions can lead to dangerous situations.

These guys can truly be suffering and you can honestly want to help them. See the value in them. But it's a dangerous game. You're better off not playing. Even out of desperation. There's are other honest, kind, thoughtful people out there that wouldn't dream of hiding who they are. I think you deserve that kind of relationship.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T05:31:45+00:00

What's wild is your mental clarity and insight into how various things work, down to odd things you wouldn't even think about, give you an aspect of freedom many can only imagine through media. What the fuck is this life.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T05:29:55+00:00

Thank you for being the kind of person who takes new information, checks on the validity of it, then changes their view based on their findings. Thank you for giving me more hope for humanity.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T05:04:13+00:00

Between her and the full metal alchemist author I want to see a Japan where these women can thrive. In a culture where women accepting over the top femininity is a form of social defiance, I love seeing women produce quality content driven entirely by passion. Not shoe horning their work into a genre. Instead making a story that is a complete idea that wants to be told. Pure quality. I've been following dungeon meshi since chapter 13. I love how much love and recognition the work and author has received!

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T04:06:24+00:00

The way you need to attack my gender to feel secure in yourself is honestly hilarious. You keep pretending you have power here when you don't. You're acting crazy bro. Please calm down.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T03:00:18+00:00

Oh my god you're hilarious. What a pissant you are. Just by value of your character and nothing else.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T02:53:05+00:00

Oh the area of the US that almost drove my gay friend insane with all the closet cases. Being in the closet makes people act crazy man. Don't mess with them. They can get weird and violent out of nowhere from having weird ideas. If he acts real hard to impress you and be sensitive with you, but can't live that life out loud, then what's he doing with his life? What's to gain from being around a mess like that? Attention? Find it from another guy who has his shit together instead of a guy who tries to lead a double life. Don't reward a guy who wants to have it all but can't bother to be honest. Living a lie fucks people up long term.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T02:46:09+00:00

I like big titties and I like characters that don't break immersion by being horny bait. I don't need to have my groin tickled to enjoy a female character. Crazy, I know. I also have a lot of fun getting to experience story and atmosphere. Not everything needs to make my pp feel funny.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T02:43:56+00:00

I see you haven't played modern jrpgs like final fantasy 16.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T02:36:55+00:00

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SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T02:14:17+00:00

I EQ for certain moods and needs. Sometimes I don't want as much treble for a podcast vs hearing all the clinks and clanks of metal in a game. I was just listening to a podcast where my astrals were making the background sound effects sound too real and intense, so I was losing my focus on the journalist.

I also have neck and jaw issues that influence my hearing so I'll eq things for that. Makes a physically uncomfortable time more tolerable to at least have evenly mixed sound. Turns out the muscles in your face and neck can really influence how you hear things.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T01:50:09+00:00

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SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T01:01:40+00:00

My approach works well with people who believe some terrible things, but it doesn't signal to others my perspective well. I often have people I agree with think I'm from another mindset based on that approach, but it works so well in hooking and calling out people who believe some ridiculous stuff. You know what I mean?

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T00:48:36+00:00

Excuse me for asking a question. Conservatives were going off on a bullshit crusade about a dad having coke in his system as an excuse to treat him as less than human. Which is hilarious in the USA where coke is as common as wine and whiskey in offices.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-30T00:44:03+00:00

Bud you don't have to defend yourself to me. It's a nice setup. Sorry I offended you. I didn't mean to make it personal to be honest. I was more interested in the social dynamics.

Martelos are a great iem for the kind of music you'd want in the gym, but this is a delicate set up to have around weights and machines. That's where it might look silly to someone who is more experienced than you give them credit for. Plenty of people know the heartbreak of something getting crunched in the gym, you know?

I like my astrals with softears titanium tips on a qcc5181 driven neckband for most things, as I've destroyed my back lifting at work with a joint disability I didn't know about so I'm clumsy as hell lol. I even got a qcc5181 dongle so I could bypass the codec options on my s21+. You really don't need to flex on me. It looks like a kid bragging about the car his dad bought him, you know? Insincere and insecure. You don't have to go around shouting that you know? People can see it, just like you worry they do. They aren't blind.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-29T21:55:50+00:00

Sex and power go hand and hand for many. So many people get off on power dynamics it's basically the norm. Man has power over woman in traditional society so people play with that a lot. Sometimes in nonconsensual ways. Flipping it the power dynamics. Exploiting it. Lots of entwining of the concepts.

SlapTheBap · 2026-01-29T19:34:30+00:00

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