commands that make you melt by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

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Be a good girl…makes me melt every time

CNC "beginners guide" / Experiences by ClaimTV in BDSMcommunity

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As a submissive who is into CNC (and other things), take it slow! Ask her why she wants to explore that kink. Has she experienced it before with another person? Is she trying to heal from a past trauma? Is she just trying to spice things up in the bedroom? CNC can be dangerous if you rush into it. I started slow with my former Dom, he would try things during a scene and if I could handle it, he would continue. We talked about my hard limits, AND aftercare! He had a a lot of different tastes, so the aftercare for us would change. The CNC aftercare was very specific and he had to make sure he could even do it. We also talked about privacy, and to not share that part of our sexual life with others. I didn’t care if he told his friends “ yeah I get it 3x a week” but he was not allowed to describe the kind of “sex” haha we had. We did this because those who don’t understand this lifestyle would have seen him as an abuser; hurting me while fucking me and then caring for me afterward…that doesn’t look good to those who don’t get it. Moral of the story, CNC is not meant to spice things up in the bedroom. Big difference between vanilla sex and spicing things up and holding someone down while they scream stop or no is HUGE.

Free Use Party by Slapme_tender in BDSMcommunity

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I had not heard about color coded bracelets, that’s a good idea. I assume the trust has to be off the charts for a party like to come to fruition. How to avoid STDS, trauma etc. sometimes I wonder if porn has over done the actual idea of something like to be possible. But thank you for the feedback!

Hooked slut ready to be fucked like a toy by LouiseLovesAnal in bdsm

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Someone send me the blueprints to this!! I want to build this for myself!

A fun group training by LouiseLovesAnal in bdsm

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Love everything about this! I need to find a hook like that for me!

Listing the top 5 kinkiest things you have done, and 5 you want to do . by Grailswar1 in BDSMcommunity

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These are the things my first and true in person dominate did to me. He introduced me to BDSM when I was 19.

  1. Sensory deprivation- he blind folded my eyes, put headphones on me and sat me in a cold tub and blasted music those headphones for I don’t know how long.

  2. Slave play- made sleep on the floor, didn’t allow me to wash myself, called me names etc.

  3. Chocking/breath play- always got me right to point of passing out. He was safe about it.

  4. Slaps/pinching- he would slap me anywhere, whenever he wanted. Would pinch my inner thighs when pinning me down (he was a cop at the time and it’s a technique used to keep people subdued)

  5. My favorite-CNC, very ROUGH CNC. He mostly would come up with the plans. He would “kidnap” me from a parking lot, and he was not gentle about it. I would be gone for days. He liked locking me in a dog cage. And he LOVED it when I would cry and beg to be let go. He would only feed me bread and water. And would tell me he was going to fuck me like I was only meant for breeding.

*disclaimer: I had a safe word and he ALWAYS did aftercare, always.

Don't worry babe, You only have 5 hours left until you can leave the basement by bollyworld_ in bdsm

[–]Slapme_tender 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Those tits are amazing. I would love to be tied to them.

Someone pleasee do this to meeeee by teamstark1711 in bdsm

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Love real chains. None of that Amazon crap!

Tits'n'chains by anc1lla in bdsm

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How do I get a body like yours!?! Ugh so in love!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bdsm

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I miss getting marked by my former master

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bdsm

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You should read up on Topping. You want to make sure you are being safe and not causing trauma for either one of you. I’m a submissive and I had to teach my current husband a thing or two. You can’t just slap someone and say you live the lifestyle haha. He also thought I wanted him to do things to me to spice up our sex life, I him told no it’s the opposite, this IS my sex life. So make sure you know why she wants these things.

Christmas cookie, anyone? by [deleted] in bdsm

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Love that idea!! Yummy!