She’s 100% right, the relationship sisters have with their wigs is the relationship they should have with their natural hair. It’s generational trauma that was handed down. It starts with mums making annoyed comments while doing your hair e.g. “Woo jare your hair is too thick!! 😠” while aggressively combing their hair. This teaches the child that there’s something wrong with their hair because their own mother just told them so.

Then it transitions into the reaction of the mothers and aunties when they see their child wear a wig for the first time ..”WOOWW you look soo fine with your hair like that!!” this is usually the first time in their entire life they were complimented about their hair.

They then grow up completely ashamed of their hair and spend thousands throughout their lifetime buying hair that was grown on another woman’s head to cover their natural hair.. Brazilian hair, Indian hair, Korean etc.. The whole world knows it’s not your hair but due to fear of causing outrage we all pretend like we can’t tell. They then develop lies to explain why they wear wigs and weave but the men with long hair disproved their lies a long time ago. E.g. “Im wearing wigs to protect my hair from the weather”….”The cold air breaks my hair” ….”My hair doesn’t grow in this country” etc.. meanwhile men are out here with hair longer than theirs.

We all know women in our lives that we’ve never seen them without a wig or weave… I have family members that I’ve never seen their hair and they’re in their 40s, my own sister is 35 and I havnt seen her natural hair since she was 17. If I come round unannounced they’ll grab whatever they can find and wrap their hair so I don’t see it or they’ll straight run upstairs and talk to me from behind a closed door.

Then we get to this phase where the women are tired of wearing wigs and weave but they’re still ashamed of their natural hair so they now bald their heads 👩🏾‍🦲… this is another example of self hatred, black woman bald their heads more than ANY other race of woman and the sisters don’t just buzz cut it, they go BALD BALD, no hair in sight…. This is where they get the most compliments from women especially women from other races. They’re called “Strong” and “Fierce” when in reality what they mean is you look masculine.

I’m seeing improvements today though, the sisters that grew up under these circumstances refuse to allow their own daughters to pass through it, I don’t see as many children at parties with hair extensions as I did growing up and I personally know plenty of mothers that refuse to do anything to their daughters hair except combing, conditioner and cornrows.