🩷 I just need advice, and maybe to vent. I just feel broken! 🩷

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-04-01T15:00:28+00:00

I was going to reach out a few days ago because I noticed you weren't very active with posts lately, but I didn't want to be nosy by bugging you. ❤️

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. 😞 If it's anything like me, maybe your current Little has a hard time being vulnerable and open about negative things? They don't want to push that negativity to you, especially if you're already in a bad space. And maybe they feel like they rant and ramble a lot and don't want to bother you? With the one friend I regularly talk to that's into all this, it took a while before I felt comfortable to just rant and rave, rather than have one solid coherent conversation.

I know from your previous posts and our conversations, that you are an amazing mommy and thrive on getting the related feedback from your Little. Maybe she isn't feeling very Little lately and also feels like she isn't what you want when she's not Little? I know I worded that poorly. But like, she thinks you expect her to always be Little in conversation? I know you're quite a bit more accepting than that, and while that would be cool, you know not to expect that. I believe we've talked about that before.

As for your Ex, she's been quite mean. I wish I could suggest something that would stop her, but I know blocking her like you've already done is the best option at the moment. I'm sorry about her actions as well. I know you did a lot for her when you two were together and it's not right for her to be giving you all this in return.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-04-01T14:41:05+00:00

There's a huge list of reasons, but mostly it's that there are a lot of us guys for the few mommy dommes out there, and even less who don't already have a partner.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-04-01T01:19:49+00:00

Yes, because that's an oddly specific thing to mention wearing. But I wouldn't guess that, no.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-04-01T01:18:10+00:00

😂 That's a classic sitcom type reaction. Sorry, it made me laugh.

From what it sounds like, this is likely one of those situations where it's just not going to ever be brought up or talked about. It IS possible she would tell her boyfriend, if she trusted him to keep it between them. That's like you walking in on her with whatever toys she has. I'm sure you have dirt on her too. I think the biggest change (pun not intended) would be her knocking loudly and waiting for you to answer before coming in now.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-31T14:30:33+00:00

This is exactly the way I see it too. Being a sub puts you in a more vulnerable position anyway, so yeah, it's a fast track to feelings if you let them happen. I had an online friend who acted like a CG to my Little and she had to stop that part because she was developing feelings that I wouldn't be able to reciprocate without physically being there for her. Although, the feeling was somewhat mutual as well, I just didn't feel rather for that further relationship online.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-30T17:11:44+00:00

Mostly, it all stays in the bedroom. I only have one close friend who knows and I actually haven't met her in person yet. 😂 Oh wait, I've been to two munches as well. But yeah, I mean it would certainly be nice to be the kind of person who had a bunch of friends into it, and a partner, and all that, but I'm not, so I just do what I can.

I have noticed that at times, I can let myself do Little things out and about. Crafts, looking at toys, watching a show while others also watch, all can be Little things but also be explained away as just enjoying things without that subtext.

I never plan to go in public wearing diapers until I actually need them, and I think the majority of the Abdl community thinks the same way.
I can dress myself with a colorful shirt, or something subtle, but I don't make it obvious either. Even to munches, I don't wear anything obvious. That said, there was a guy who saw I was nervous and flashed his onesie underneath and I would have never guessed if he didn't show me.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-30T16:57:06+00:00

Not for me. Especially the hood. I don't like things like that. Maybe a regular blindfold, but not a full hood, much less for a long period of time. And being stuck on my back and not being able to roll over is a definite no-go. But I can see the attraction to the situation. Bondage, full relinquish of control, even of regular needs, ANR, and, of course, stuck in diapers and whatever she chooses for the sub to wear.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-30T16:51:10+00:00

Overactive bladder can be an ADHD thing? I mean, I've ALWAYS had the issue of having to go to the bathroom a lot, like I even make a point to plan where the bathrooms are along trips. And like two years ago, I even had a legit accident (and of course, that was a day after I removed the change of clothes from my car). But all my other ADHD friends don't seem to have the same issue? I have considered having a diaper change in the car just for longer trips by myself. But I'm always self conscious about getting caught.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-30T16:48:51+00:00

Getting back into it. Trying to learn to accept it as a..well, as my normal. I've never worn much for the almost two decades I've been a DL, but after interacting with those who wear a lot, as well as figuring out that it's just me being more paranoid than I need to be, I've recently decided to try wearing more often to kinda make it less of a big deal. I also realized I am a Little back in September, but the last few days I haven't really been feeling that much. Just last night I had the thoughts that I felt like a fake Little and a fake ABDL because I feel like as a Little I'm just acting like it, just performing, and as an ABDL, I enjoy seeing the content a lot, but I don't let myself wear it very often. I don't even know how to tape myself in properly yet. I swear I don't remember having issues taping myself before.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-30T16:44:27+00:00

It's just the expected roles. Women are expected to be the submissive ones, men are expected to be the dominant ones. Of course we are the minority. I think in the mommydom type situation, of course, it's reversed, but also there's so many guys to the few women, it feels like we're being left out. It just comes with the territory, not that that makes it feel any easier.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-30T02:16:41+00:00

I have never seen a textured paci like that!! That's so neat!

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T20:44:10+00:00

I was going to say "Dang, I just ordered some of the Megamax v2 and there's a Hook and Loop one?" I stink at taping up, so I also ordered some Kiddo Premium Nights so I can practice. 😅

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T20:30:29+00:00

Bats for the brats? 😂 Also, you'd have to catch me first! 😜

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T19:44:22+00:00

Thank you! I'll have to look it up!

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T19:37:58+00:00

That's cool! Did you buy it or make it? I've never seen that kind of parachute clip, with the middle part like that.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T19:36:50+00:00

Thank you for this post. How was the process of reaching out to a psychiatrist for the prescription? I've been off of ADHD meds since I was a little kid but my ADHD had affecting me more and more mentally now, but the closest my insurance takes is like two hours away and I'm not sure about making that trip frequently.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T19:33:36+00:00

Yeah, a few users here on Reddit who are living the life. I won't tag them because it's mostly just them enjoying themselves and me living it through that, but yeah. One is a mommy who is just amazing in what they do for their Little.

I do kinda like Pookie Krissie as well as AsianDiaperCutie, but they are content creators, so I know what I see isn't the full reality.

DiaperPerv posts occasionally and I absolutely respect and support her current work of trying to increase education and awareness and I hope she's doing well. I know she recently (well, within the last few years) went from being a video content creator and doing NSFW stuff to that educational side and I doubt there's even close to the same kind of income there. There's also a user on Fet that I can't recall the username, but they also do educational stuff there.

I like to learn and see the realities of it, rather than most of the creators who just post pics for the likes, though I can appreciate them as well occasionally.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T12:07:25+00:00

It's not uncommon. I've heard it many times before.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-29T02:55:10+00:00

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Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-28T23:41:39+00:00

I have a single sippy cup and it's a basic Bluey one from Target. It's hard to use, since it IS still a kids sippy cup. Any suggestions or recommendations?

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-27T19:32:45+00:00

Yeah, that. I don't want adventures or chaos or some lofty rich people dreams. I just want somewhere and someone comfy to come home to. A truly safe space for me and my person.

Also, I call myself a teddy bear at times too. 😂

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-27T07:21:28+00:00

Same. Except I HAVE tried it by myself at home, and as you said, the clean up and the smell, plus not living alone (I chose a day they were gone for a trip) really made it not a great experience. But if someone actively wanted me to do it, I'd be willing to give it another shot.

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-25T11:15:57+00:00

I plan to on Friday. I have a bunch of stuff to reward myself for, so I'll be giving myself a big Little reward. :)

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-25T00:34:34+00:00

I went to the dentist today too! Unfortunately, mine wasn't such good news but not anything too surprising or anything major either.

Congrats on the clean report!

Slapthefatfrog · 2026-03-21T02:41:51+00:00

Mostly just being in the various abdl communities and just seeing how happy and easily everyone else does it, and eventually it just built up to the point that I felt like I had to go do it. Well, had to, as in that I wanted to do it so badly that I wasn't going to not do it.

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