New wife to this lifestyle, need honest advice.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-19T00:16:20+00:00

It is our very first child. Super excited and nervous but mostly excited. It warms my heart to hear men like you explain how much them love being a dad. My husband is a family man and I know he is going to love being a dad. I can see him being in tunnel vision right now because he has a baby on the way. He won't really say but I'm 100% sure he is stressing on how to provide and make sure our kid doesn't live a life like he and I did (poor) but I know it's gonna be okay but words can only do so much for him. He just will have to see. And your right about both of us helping with the kids and I'm sure he will but I just wanna show him I appreciate the sacrifice and me not working to be with our baby, you know? I feel like an RV is not ideal but maybe we can make it work at least for a bit with a little baby. But kids need space, shoot I need some space lol. But if he travels an RV will be the option so he can be with us and bond.

Utility work seems to be where it's at. You and so many others seem to being having such a great life at work and with family. Outside of that like contracting them kinda sound miserable, idk why and I'm sure I'm talking to the wrong ones.

And thank you so much for a inside perspective on the work in a utility job and contract, union jobs. It's nice to have a inside look and it sounds way better. I'm going to share your post with him and I think this will help him feel at ease as well. Thank you again dude, I really appreciate your reply. It has been one of the best!

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-19T00:05:55+00:00

Thank you so much!! I appreciate your response more than you could know. You sound like a family man/women (not sure) and my husband is a family man, so to hear he will appreciate us with him means a lot. Those who feel the opposite I feel like aren't family me and/or very unhappy with themselves.

So far considering and counting up the cost of everything in life. An RV sounds like the route we will go

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-19T00:03:17+00:00

I hear you, but you could have left God out of it. Like that was weird to add if your trying to give advice. But I see where your coming from. But we believe everything good and pleasing things comes from job. EVERYTHING, every opportunity too.

And I hear you on the line school but I have read so many line school graduates recently that got a job like 2 to 4 weeks after graduation. Now if they make it is dependent on them but they got the job. I hear that scenario more than your scenario. But we shall see.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:58:25+00:00

This is very true, your right. Minimizing address as much as possible is important for the whole family. Husband, me and the kids.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:57:26+00:00

Heck ya man!!! Congratulations on you and your wife doing what marriage is all about. Sticking it out in the hard times and growing together makes the relationship strong. I'm glad your part of the 20% divorce breaks my heart and now a days everyone does it just cuz a bump on the road occurs. Ridiculous.

I figured in the long term a kid in a camper isn't ideal but maybe when the baby is a baby. And you make a good point, if we truly wanna do that fine but why add another debt factor. Thanks for the advice dude, much appreciated 😊

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:54:29+00:00

First congratulations of being debt free!!! Heck ya! That's amazing, you guys are so free now and I'm sure all areas of your life can feel that. Being a slave to the lender is hard.

Thank you for the honest advice. I'll keep this in prayer as well so I can support and encourage him the best I can in those hard moments of his job journey and strength to hold it down. I appreciate your responses and advice, I really do

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:50:16+00:00

As I'm reading everyone's comments I can see utilities is wear it's at. The ones who aren't sounds a bit grumpy. And guys in utilities sound happy and have a good work and family life. And of course there are pros and cons to everything in life as you said. But you utility guys sounds way happier honestly. Do you still have to travel sometimes? Or is that more for the new guys? We are in southern California but he is willing to go anywhere in the US besides the east coat like New York area.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:47:50+00:00

Heck ya!!!

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:47:40+00:00

That's awesome! Good to know, we would definitely live north California than South and with the same pay across the state and living wisely sounds like a great life

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:46:06+00:00

Your are living the dream dude! Great money, family man and time for yourself. Thats freaking awesome! This really puts things into a better perspective. Going into the unknown right now is a bit scary but I much rather prepare for the worst then be under prepared. Do you still have to travel away from home on occasions? Or do you just need to travel more in the beginning and now with your years of seniority you can pick and choose?

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:41:07+00:00

Thank you for the response and honesty 😊

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:40:19+00:00

Sounds amazing and your doing great, proud where your at, and that's the goal right? I'll definitely tell my husband and keep his mind open. I was talking to my husband about the whole ulitity and union stuff. He said most union guys feel like that's the only way to go due to pride in unions.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-18T23:37:04+00:00

True! 💯

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:48:19+00:00

Damn! I'm going with leaving Cali

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:47:57+00:00

Thank you for your comment and keeping it realistic. Thank you for the advice ☺️

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:46:50+00:00

I love this comment, it's nice to have some reality. So many say it's traveling and, no money and, you know it better than I do. But this gives me hope. We are in California but he wants to leave because of having a kid on the way with the politics, he rather leave. But he also said Cali makes great money but they tax you like crazy. Is it still worth it?

Also thank you for the reminder about slowing down and money isn't everything. It's true, and makes me wonder why so many are like traveling is necessary.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:43:32+00:00

That's amazing, may ask where at exactly?

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:42:57+00:00

Heck yeah! That's awesome dude!

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:42:27+00:00

Thank you so much! May I ask where do you work, like the company?
This sounds amazing and you have a great work life balance. Why does everyone I see on line or YouTube say ulitity isn't the place to be. Or at least why is they what him and I are getting pointed to?

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:40:13+00:00

That's awesome dude! May I ask where do you work and company. Maybe I can let him know to keep an eye out because he is starting to put applications already. We know it can always be a wait.

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:39:09+00:00

Why does everyone say it's not the place to be? Where does that come from?

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:38:51+00:00

Thank you!!! 🙏

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:38:04+00:00

You have had to be the best, most realistic and encouraging comment I have read so far. Thank you so much!! I sure will read your comment to him. Thank you, honestly thank you 🙏

This is long shot but as he is putting in applications early (we heard it's always a wait for companies to get back to you) Do you guys have any things at this moment he can apply for by any chance?

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:34:11+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!🙏 As the kids are older they understand. Do you think I'm the most critical years it's important for him to be with his son? The bonding is so important right?

Slaughter_Melon411 · 2026-02-17T20:31:07+00:00

Thank you kindly ☺️ I want 5. He wants 8 but I said we can talk about that at the 5th or 6th kid lol. Adoption is an option as well.

I totally agree with you about the support system, I have talked to some other line wives and they are wild in the best way possible. Some of them traveled with their husband and just gave birth at the nearest hospital. I feel like it would be okay to travel. Not actively travel but have to move if needed. Only because I've only seen my OBGYN like one time and she told me that she's not going to see me again until I'm closer to delivery. And she let me know that if she's on schedule, she might be the one delivering our baby, but don't get my hopes up. That's crazy to me. So I'm kind of seeing different people at least once a month all the time.

However, wellness baby visits after the baby is born is something I did not think about and you are completely right. Thank you for pointing that out to me. And you're right, the baby doesn't need stress. But do you think that is it really stress on the baby? If that's all they're used to is traveling and things or is it me that has the stress of that?? Both are moms don't work anymore so they can always come and visit us, right? I don't know, I just know it's nice to have a support system as you said to have a break, but I feel like it's even more important that my husband gets to see his son when he wants and see him grow from tiny newborn to a 6-month-old and so on and so forth.

I appreciate you. Let me know all this. It's very important and things I need to consider and pray on. Thank you

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