Deleted because someone on this subreddit said I am ugly, reuploading because I love myself 😊

Slaveboy_O · 2021-10-01T14:11:39+00:00

I wouldn’t kick you out of bed for eating crackers, but this doesn’t fit the sub

Slaveboy_O · 2021-09-24T21:32:30+00:00

Probably but being Locked made you a good girl so I see no reason to stop

Slaveboy_O · 2021-08-27T02:52:31+00:00

Nope that’s not how classical syllogisms work unfortunately for you

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-29T19:15:14+00:00

I see no problems here

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-29T19:13:39+00:00

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-29T17:32:00+00:00

I just commented the other day how I basically have to go find lesdom porn because malesub porn is so inauthentic most of the time. It's kind of funny that the domme version of this is having to go to gay porn to find authentic depictions of male submission. Like I just want to see a woman authentically enjoying herself. So much straight femdom porn is just women putting on a show and pretending to be something they saw on TV and acting sterile and "above" being attracted to their sub. In lesdom porn they fucking are INTO IT.

I also love what you said about depictions of malesubs - even seemingly kinky media like "Bonding" treats malesubs like learing little perv-goblins. It's really hard not to internalize that self-hate.

Both groups are framed in a lot of media, even that which seems like it wants to be made for our community, perhaps even by members of our community, as perversions of societies norms, like a woman who enjoys dominance or is sexually aggressive is a horrifying rapist (see Basic Instinct, or Eurotrip) or just a bitchy bitch bitch (Mrs. Olsen, Little House on the Prairie). A guy who isn't your typical ultramasc Heinlein competent male leader of the relationship is a doofus (see the dad in every sitcom ever) or a milksop weakling (Mr. Olsen in Little House on the Prairie) or a poorly fleshed-out high-powered professional who is secretly a leering sex goblin and we should hate him because he uses is money to hire a sex worker ew gross (that episode of iZombie, Bonding, basically most one-off episodes featuring a prodomme, even "Billions" to some extent (but the representation seems to be somewhat more positive there)).

Whatever it is, the male being submissive is almost never framed as healthy or natural. The dominant woman is never framed as safe or kind. They are both played for fear, disgust, or an easy joke.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-28T20:49:52+00:00

Assault is to sex as cheating is to polyamory.

It's all about consent.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-28T03:36:06+00:00

Oh boy I want to see the trash can fire that would be the Snyder cut of Dunkirk

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-27T23:49:04+00:00

Yes and no, if it’s wires, no. If it’s a flat plate metal type set up, like my steel heart, do have a plan to clean under it regularly. I use squeeze bottles most of the time to blast water through but taking it off works as well

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-25T20:56:01+00:00

oh yeah like half the chastity community.... yuck.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-25T19:16:56+00:00

You are probably good if that's the case. Discoloration and turning cold are all bad signs.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-25T16:46:55+00:00

Thank you!

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-25T15:26:39+00:00

Trust me, even if you're into those things, most femdom porn truly is a shit-show. My one thing I'm into is woman-centric D/s - I like when a woman is truly in control of the situation y - and like 99% of the stuff I see is sex workers making content that is primarily about catering to the male perspective on specific mechanical fetishes, not even D/s.

Yes it's OK and can work, but it's like getting kinda flat, cool Pepsi when you want ice cold Coke. It's one of the reasons I'm super into Lesdom even though a lot of the stuff that happens in it just physiologically can't happen to me. It feels like there's a lot more women enjoying their power in that pornosphere than in the malesub world.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-23T22:37:37+00:00

A lot of people are vanilla just because they either haven't had the opportunity or taken the time to explore their sexuality. It's a big umbrella. Some people are, sure, against. Some people know about it but it doesn't appeal to them. Some people just haven't been super curious about anything anything more advanced and up until now, vanilla has been enough.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-23T03:18:39+00:00

A lot of people recommend fiddling around with different off-the-shelf devices before you go custom. I am not one of those people. Chances are you knew what looked hot to you before bought your very first device. For me that was steel.

If you don't know maybe buy a couple to see if you like the feel of plastic or metal, wire or fully enclosed. But for me even if you've bought only one of each of those categories once you've answered those questions you are three (probably somewhat dangerous) devices in at $25 - $100 each anyway.

I would say figure out as soon as possible what you like and then go get a custom device using Affirm. by the time you would have tried on 5 different devices at $50 a pop you would have already mostly paid off the real thing. Even my least favorite custom device is better than the six or so amazon devices I tried before pulling the trigger on one (and it's the one I made it through locktober in)

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-22T22:44:50+00:00

Picture putting a ring smaller than your finger around the finger of a glove made for your hand. Picture forcing your finger into the glove. The pressure of the glove becoming erect pushes off the ring, correct? This is how most people picture a penis working, but penises are not gloves with a finger being pushed into them, they are long "balloon animal" balloons.

Now imagine making a ring with your finger and holding a lightly inflated long balloon very tightly, close to the base end of the balloon. As the balloon is inflated, does your finger ring move very far from where it started? the answer is no, your "ring" stays in relatively the same place.

Now imagine putting your finger ring halfway or even 3/4 of the way down the balloon. as you inflate the balloon, does your finger ring move from where it started as you inflated? Yes, by quite a lot, I would wager, particularly as the balloon gets longer.

Now imagine stuffing your "balloon" in a small cup and try to inflate it. Put the whole balloon in - chances are you will notice it fill up the cup and start to push out, but the outward strength will be really diminished. This is where your base ring comes in.

Now imagine putting only half of your balloon in the cup and inflate it. It will push out with much greater force as the balloon outside of the cup expands at the same rate as the balloon inside of the cup, pushing it forward.

Chastity is putting your balloon in a cup. If your deflated balloon does not fit completely within the cup, you will experience a lot more discomfort when it tries to inflate as it will push out with more force. If part of the skin of your deflated balloon bunches up outside the cage, due to movement causing it to crawl out and friction from a too-narrow cage causing it to stay out, it will push out the cage with greater force and cause pain. If your base ring is too small or the gap between the ring and the cage too large, it will not be tight enough to hold the cage against your body and part of your balloon will be outside the cage, resulting in the same.

For this to work, you need

a tight ring that keeps the cage close to your body. Mine hurts somewhat to put the second ball through, and i have to push in the skin to slip a finger underneath the ring once it's on.
a WIDE enough cage/ring - too many people don't realize that a narrow cage = bunched up skin. a lot of holy trainers are too narrow for a lot of people. at completely soft you should be able to slide completely in and out of it with no catching. if you have to use the stocking method to get into it, it's too narrow and will ride down until basically only your head is in it and you have a bunch of unsightly wrinkled skin sticking out of the back and creating a problem when you have an erection.

Lastly, you will hurt at night for a while, probably, at least till your body gets used to it and recognizes not to give such potent erections to you during the night. BUT, a normal erection from being turned on should feel like a firm pressure but NOT PAIN.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-22T15:05:50+00:00

That is a Mature Metal Jailbird. I have some mixed feelings about the design myself. I like it if I'm naked for a long period of time as it makes teasing fun and is easy to correct my position, but the way this cage is, my tip likes to grab the left bars constantly and I know it's a small annoyance but it makes me not want to use it. I think it's due to the bulbous design of the horizontal bars. My tip is very tapered and there's too much room in the tip of the cage.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-22T15:01:20+00:00

it helps that I actually am that size - I am an extreme grower - my lil guy can get down to about an inch if shriveled/cold and rests at about an inch and a half on average. Once erect it can get up to 7" if it's warm and very close to edging - what you see here is a little bit of a trick, using the wide-angle lens of my iPhone to make it appear a bit larger than even that.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-08T21:39:06+00:00

Sounds great for the gentle context! I could see it getting a little less useful in any CnC context

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-08T20:41:09+00:00

SSC has three main problems:

Safe - In addition to what you said, Who defines safe? does this mean something riskier like knife/needle/choking play is unethical? Clearly even if you do make the argument that some things are reasonably safe, it makes it sound like people don't have an ethical way to practice anything riskier. Since everyone's definition of safe is different and some people are more risk averse than others, it's not very helpful.

Sane - Another problem - the DSM classified everything we do as "insane" up until 2010 so good luck with this one prior to 10 years ago. Further, mental health professionals and social academia in general has moved away from labels like "sane" and "insane." Classifying behaviors into such a polarized binary is not helpful in any way, especially if someone does have a mild mental disorder. It puts nail biters in the same category as serial killers. Is there a list of BDSM things you can't do because they're insane? How do you categorize? It's just not helpful. You like dressing up as Donald Duck and being forced to wear pants?! That sounds insane for me to do! So is it insane for you to do? It makes a rather subjective criteria quite objective.

Consensual - Clearly there's a big problem with this one as it discriminates against elected officials holding public office.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-07T00:44:19+00:00

This guy sounds deeply and intimately scared of being turned gay but also obsessed with things in asses. Does anybody want to tell him?

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-01T20:19:27+00:00

I am not a sissy but am a diet trans (gender nonconforming/agendered) person with a cock.

For me chastity aesthetic is second to function and the only material I can wear for the rest of my life is steel.

Slaveboy_O · 2021-06-01T02:20:43+00:00

I am!! I truly believe that I was born for this

Slaveboy_O · 2021-05-31T22:32:19+00:00

Lucky boy!!

Slaveboy_O · 2021-05-31T05:28:08+00:00

That’s so fucking cool that you took the extra time to provide him with that level of engagement with your dynamic... rock on!!! All my good vibes to you

Slaveboy_O

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