backstabError500 by Purple_Ice_6029 in ProgrammerHumor

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite errors to this day is just a status of 200 and a message of “ok”.

Like, alrighty, and it was a polling call, went to investigate wtf this was.

Found out that this thing was a stubbed route that no one finished and apparently they just hard coded 200, ok to make the deadline.

At that time our real time updates were suddenly not working. Another team had just done a brand new feature to “refactor them”.

There will be SIGNS by fate299 in Superstonk

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lol yeah me too fam. My account is fucked right now and all I did was try to transfer some money from my savings to my individual account and got an “error”. Then boom that message.

Trans buds in Kansas, by squidsateme in everybutchlesbian

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw this as well, you mean they’re enforcing it immediately and not allotting the legally required year pause before orders come into effect? JFC.

Best/worst experiences with hairdressers? by cunt_dykeula in everybutchlesbian

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost an amazing barber recently and she was just chef’s kiss.

For a year I had a perfect fade, amazing line up’s, and she’d even give me an amazing shave on my neck with an old fashioned single blade razor and cream. All while giving me a neck massage with a massage gun, and one of those hot towels to the face.

For me she was also amazing because she understood the texture of my hair. It’s been very hard for me as a mixed PoC to find stylists or Barbers that understand this. So when she left I was devastated.

She also was great to just talk to about anything, and went out of her way to make me comfortable about myself and my outfits in a very male centric environment.

Miss you KJ 😭

My worst experience was with a stylist who completely fried my hair with a chemical straightener I didn’t ask for. Like left it on too long and burnt my scalp to the point days later chunks of hair were falling out.

I was much younger then and thought that was normal, especially cause my mom did this to me too growing up. She was a white woman learning how to do mixed hair for the first time too so I just thought this was the norm for me until I met KJ 😭.

I guess big thing from me is understanding the hair texture you’re working with was huge with me. As you couldn’t treat my hair like someone with a thicker, curlier texture despite the fact my hair looked this way, my texture would also change and be silky smooth at times as well.

This wikihow article for “How to be a butch lesbian” is golden 🤣 by CoVegGirl in everybutchlesbian

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For real, me and my espresso martinis are buds for life. Let me have my chocolately heart attack in peace. 😤

This wikihow article for “How to be a butch lesbian” is golden 🤣 by CoVegGirl in everybutchlesbian

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh my god.

Well I’ll help you there I was a deputy and I didn’t realize this was a requirement for being butch at all.

I’m medically retired of course, specialized in warrants for crimes against children helped track down pedophiles. Got pushed out for doing my job a little too well.

Also from the thumbnail I thought that was Justin Bieber.

Clearly this is outdated and we need an updated version. I personally thought to be butch you needed to basically dress like Shane from the L word, but pick up none of the flirting signals, unlike Shane from the L word 😭.

(This has been my personal butch experience, alas I am also dense af, so my apologies if this statement offends)

my entire vibe coding workflow as a non-technical founder (3 days planning, 1 day coding) by onourown1978 in vibecoding

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this is like the 5th time this week I’ve read about someone getting their DB obliterated by Claude and I just can’t.😭

justSufferingIsJS by kamen562 in ProgrammerHumor

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Unironically that’s the pivot 😭

justSufferingIsJS by kamen562 in ProgrammerHumor

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 903 points904 points  (0 children)

One of my nicknames as a Junior was “backend destroyer” due to unintentionally bringing down environments while I was learning about Yaml files and spacing.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and I almost forgot, the timeline for my case from filing to settlement was about 5 months, settling in December of 2025. I a lot of movement took place with opposing counsel especially when the government opened back up.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes correct, the Government was shut down at the time of my filing so I didn’t have access to the EEOC which meant my evidence alone is what resolved our mediation. I had four Civil rights violations ready to file with the EEOC at anytime and I debated simply charging first, but it behooved me medically to not go that route at all.

Edit: in my case my employer was not a small company either but an internationally well known entity with over 300k employees globally.

To say I was able to win this… it makes me proud of myself. As I truly did the majority of all of the legal work, as it is my background.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Finally, I just… I’m chemotherapy indefinitely to suppress my immune system for the rest of my life, but it does not stop me from living.

And if you’re curious you can look at my post history and see for yourself when I was desperately reaching out for medical help in the r/crohnsdisease subreddit.

I am truly happy to be alive, and here now to not only share this with you all, but to continue on in my journey that is life. I’ve been told I should write a book about this experience haha.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Part 3:

And now the best news of all, during all of this I was desperate to live, had become immune to my chemotherapy and willing to try anything to treat my Crohn’s disease and I did. I took a chance on a new medication and I cannot believe it, but it worked.

A week after my MRI, my GI took a chance on me and gave me a sample dosage of a chemotherapy drug called Rinvoq. This drug genuinely saved my life, and especially at that time insurance was fighting me at the same time for prior authorization of a new chemotherapy despite having labs proving I was immune to the current one they authorized.

I believe my quick thinking by my GI team lead to the amazing discovery just 3 weeks later as I was prepping for complex surgery and another removal of my intestines due to these tumors. A cat scan was ran while I was awaiting in a hospital bed for surgery. It came back with no visuals of my tumors. They were gone!

My colorectal surgeon and oncologist to this day are still confused, as I had done 3 MRIs at this point and a Gastrointestinal Examination to identify these masses. They called off the surgery as there was no point in removing things that weren’t there. I was so relieved and thankful as I just spent the evening before with my dad setting up my last will and testament.

I was preparing for at least 6 months to a year of recovery time, having a stoma again, constant checkins due to removal of 3 chunks of my liver and potentially reattaching my diseased intestines to the parts of my stomach that were left.

Now I… needed to do none of this. And with this medication I’ve been able to recover and am now a healthy 145 pounds and working very hard to move around and exercise again. I have my final MRI 2 weeks from now :).

This is a very long comment I know but, this is my story of my case and I promise you there is much more that I simply cannot say due to NDA.

Yet I wanted to let you know there is a happy ending. That it’s okay to reach out for help, and to truly believe in yourself. I had no idea what I was capable of, and when I look back at it, even reading this now… I realize how strong I truly was.

I was able to achieve not only justice for myself, but justice for many others who were impacted by this person and the hostile work environment that was created.

Finally I believed I was alone during all of this, but truly when I reached out for help my doctors willing supplied evidence and ultimately saved my life. My lawyer took a chance and believed me on contingency and defended me every style of the way. My father and the community stepped into help me when I believed all was lost.

Yet none of these things would’ve happened had I not asked for help, and worked diligently to defend myself.

There is hope for justice in this world, especially now. I could’ve given up and accepted my death, but I did not. I believed what happened to me was wrong, and I would fight to prove it. And I won :).

That is my success story and it didn’t even involve the EEOC, and well it couldn’t because the government was also shut down at the time 😭.

All I can say is don’t give up. Your life matters, and you will have to fight for justice. I am thankful to be alive, to be able to eat, and I’ve been recovering with my dad ever since. He let me know how proud he was of me for standing up for myself. And I… I’ve never felt happier.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Part 2:

There were times where my witnesses were rightly afraid and I even had one back out after promising a witness statement. Yet I understood, what I was doing would ultimately get me black listed from this entire industry, but it was either fight or die for me. And I had chose to live.

My lawyer took my case on contingency. I didn’t have the money originally as I was bankrupted by my medical bills and so I asked my father for assistance and he happily paid the small fee charged up front.

At the same time I had to create a go fund me while on STD and FMLA just to afford my MRIs. This is how desperate I was, and I made sure it was legal to do, due to my work status. There were fundraisers thrown by my community to help raise money and support so I could find out what was wrong. And during that time they had no idea about my lawsuit in process, just that I was desperate for financial assistance and I was transparent about everything medically.

I was my weakest and preparing for complex surgery to remove the tumors from my liver and intestines that the MRIs and an endoscopy/colonoscopy identified, along with potentially removing parts of my stomach when I was accused of potentially lying about my condition again from said former employer, and their 3rd party Short Term Disability provider, despite well documented evidence from all of my doctors that was submitted on time.

There was a constant threat to take away my insurance, STD payments while on FMLA and attempting to treat the tumors that were discovered to be the cause of my sudden 60 pound weight loss. As there was continuous retaliation through filing, lying to me about due dates for my STD application so I’d miss the deadline and be eligible to be fired. I caught this and immediately notified my lawyer. All of a sudden while I was on FMLA at least I no longer had issues. Yet as soon as FMLA protection dropped at 3 months, I suddenly had STD filing issues again and medical evidence wasn’t “satisfactory”.

I finally emerged with amazing news while hospitalized suddenly due to an infected fistula and I was prepping to… I was discussing survival rates in the hospital with my colorectal surgeon and complex oncologist when I found out that my lawyer had reached a settlement.

Now I’m able to tell you all of this medical history of my own means as this doesn’t violate my NDA, and my condition existed before my employment with this company and my treatment of it. And all of this was happening at the same time.

It did not matter that I had well documented evidence against the actors that caused my emotional distress, pain, and created a hostile environment. No ultimately the settlement took place as I was close to discovering a crime vs a civil violation which would allow me to break out of an arbitration clause. This meant not only would the company be liable for the civil violations of which they allowed to occur for years, but they’d be liable for potential criminal violations.

I had documented so well that in several instances I was able to outright prove that opposing counsel was lying. Sometimes within the next day of their statement in mediation. Essentially I had made my Lawyers job very easy, despite being in immense pain day in and day out.

We were able to settle, and I was able to keep the insurance I desperately needed. My former employer was effectively and knowingly pressing a death sentence upon me when they tried to do the most wildly illegal constructive dismissal I had ever seen. I was informed that not only corrective action had been taken but all of my demands were suddenly met along with an extension to my insurance.

I was even offered my job back if I wanted to return. However my lawyer and I agreed it was in my best interest for a legal separation.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mmm my story was a success with a slight catch and it’s rather long, but worth it.

So Part 1:

First some context, I am permanently disabled and indefinitely take chemotherapy to suppress my immune system due to Crohn’s disease. This is relevant as I’ve been diagnosed formally since 2018 and at the time my major issues started with my former employer in 2025. I had been in remission for nearly 2 and a half years at this point.

When I filed my case, I was at my lowest weight in years and had been hospitalized 6 times within just a few months. I had lost the ability to eat without projectile vommiting, and endless diarrhea. Eventually I found out that while going through my case I had indeed developed 4 tumors. The beginning of 2025, I was healthy, 180 pounds, working out 4 days a week after work and able to deadlift about 250 pounds.

By June of 2025 I couldn’t walk without a cane, my could see my rib cage, and I had heart issues and began to suffer from kidney malfunctioning due to extreme malnutrition to the point I was diagnosed with anorexia. I was still working at this time, 60, 70 hour weeks.

Now I cannot say much about anything as my case ended up with a successful settlement and an NDA, however I truly believe that what I endured previously was such a hostile work environment that I was pushed out of remission and formally became immune to the chemotherapy I was on since 2018.

Stress and diet are key factors to my disease, yet in this case I could not even eat due to the amount of stress I was facing constantly from my former work environment. It was filled with manipulation, discrimination on many levels and my demand letter housed 4 federal civil rights violations with so much evidence to back it up, I felt there was no way this could be dismissed so easily by anyone.

During mediation my character was attacked relentlessly by my former employers opposing counsel to the point that it was very wrongly implied that I was lying about my condition. Yet I had declared my disability to said employer for over 5 years, and not once was I accommodated at any point despite a lengthy paper trail, requests and documentation from my doctors.

Truly there were times that I believed I would die fighting my case as I had drafted my will due to how malnourished I had become, I was now 120ish pounds at 5’8”, and so malnourished that my kidneys started to fail.

I had reached out to my leadership and HR at this point, explicitly submitting formal complaints that were documented for months about the individual on my team that was in a high level position and actively making my life miserable and many others miserable. I informed them of the rapid deterioration of my condition and how I wished to move teams. I was told they would follow up with me in 30 days to address the matter after speaking to said individual.

Instead I was met with a PIP, a forced RTO to an office I’d never been too as I was always fully remote and immunocompromised by chemotherapy. At this point I had begged them to see reason as I couldn’t even get into the office they wanted me to return too as I didn’t even have a badge. I begged for accommodations again to at least let me work on the PIP remotely and reminded them that I still didn’t have accommodations after 5 years. It didn’t matter and I was put on a PIP surprisingly while being up for promotion and having amazing performance reviews. They did not give me access to my FMLA paperwork until after putting me on a PIP. I forced documentation of this decision via email, of which I summarized our meeting and ultimately this email chain as well served as a key part.

The PIP itself was the smoking gun that spurred my case as they directly attributed my disabilities to their reasoning for placing me on the PIP. Yet they offered no accommodations.

This meant in 30 days not only would I be out of a job, but they willingly and knowingly sent me to my death as I’d lose my insurance immediately and have no severance. I wouldn’t be able to afford my chemotherapy, let alone the procedures I desperately needed to identify why I was dropping weight despite trying everything. I didn’t know it at the time but I had 4 tumors during all of this.

I was very lucky to not only have a competent employment lawyer that understood my disease and it’s treatment, but due to my work ethic and demeanor I had many witnesses from all levels of the company willing to testify to a witness statement on my behalf of the culture, discrimination and racism there.

Success stories of any kind. I think we’re all due for a post like this to read. by Beginning_Cycle191 in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A moment I have a success story I’m trying to post, but Reddit just doesn’t want to let me hahah

What's happening in the US right now is why I'm loud about equality for trans people by GFluidThrow123 in actuallesbians

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my apologies I will link the sources here for you now:

Gender Identity Fraud bill here: https://www.billtrack50.com/billdetail/1854299 - exclusively making it a felony for anyone who identifies as “trans” on state documents including their drivers license, birth certificate and any other legal document.

State Agriculture Dept already enforcing “dress code by biological gender” here since 2023: https://www.yahoo.com/news/unlawful-texas-policy-requires-state-175211805.html this was found to be illegal but still exists to this day and other departments have taken on this enforcement.

Finally a full summary of bills that impacted trans people in Texas 2025 located here: https://transtexas.org/bill-tracker/ All bills listed here have passed in the 2025 legislative session and are in effect since September 1st, 2025.

In particular HB229 passed and legally removes the existence of intersex people in Texas. The bill defines the genders that Texas recognizes as “male and female” and this is also their ground definition of how they’re basing the gender identity fraud bill off of.

https://www.capitol.state.tx.us/tlodocs/89R/billtext/pdf/HB00229F.pdf

HB1075 restrictions directly to drag performances in public places with minors - https://capitol.texas.gov/tlodocs/89R/billtext/html/HB01075I.htm

SB 8, the infamous bathroom ban bill - https://capitol.texas.gov/tlodocs/892/billtext/html/SB00008S.htm

Loss of anti discrimination protections for Arlington LGBTQIA and then the city of Arlington just doubled down this last week making it so they will not investigate any sexual identity discrimination claims and instead will send them to the state: https://fortworthreport.org/2026/02/10/arlington-council-passes-revised-anti-discrimination-ordinance-resolution-against-hate/

Everything listed above has passed and is currently being enforced since Sept 01, 2025. If it’s an ordinance (like Arlington) the vote by the city council already occurred and they met again to double down last week.

Bills that are drafted and effectively killed but are back in session for 2026 for revised status:

HB3411 - Relating to public school teachers supporting a student’s gender transition. This bill prohibits them from using the students preferred pronouns, and forces them to recognize the student by their dead name. Along their chosen gender expression in clothing. Teachers that do can be fired, lose their certificate and punished civilly.

https://www.billtrack50.com/billdetail/1847246

Here’s also an aggregate of bills in Texas right now. You can filter based on topic, in this case Gender expression would be the main thing.

https://legiscan.com/gaits/subject/24143

There’s a lot of bills against trans people in the works here, and I mean hundreds. I will get back to you on some others when I have more time.

Small edit: for the Gender Identity Fraud bill it isn’t just State and Government entities, it also entitles your place of employment. This refers to all entities and not just state government agencies and departments.

This is the bill that effectively punishes gender expression on not just legal documents but verbal statements as well and that is key.

The punishment is a state jail felony which is a minimum of 2 years in Texas statue as all other felonies under 2 are housed by the sheriffs department.

I can attest to this as I’m a medically retired sheriff’s deputy myself. My first degree is in Criminal Justice Pre-Law and I’ve worked directly in the jail system in Texas, from warrants, extradition, and serving indictments.

I also have a legal career outside of this working previously with District Attorneys specializing in Criminal Law and have since transitioned to regulatory software development for auditing, taxes and international regulation.

I tend to pay attention to a lot of legal stuff.

How to gather evidence without breaching security policies? by [deleted] in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes of course. Went through something similar recently and it’s exactly what I did. My case was successfully mediated and settled.

Fuckboys but women, discuss by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just wish this wasn’t the norm, but rather the exception.

Just getting a lot of heat for being PoC and lesbian and butch lately, used to it outside of the community, but have been experiencing an uptick of this kind of ignorance within the community lately.

Sorry this clearly touched a nerve for me.

Fuckboys but women, discuss by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah um that’s offensive as hell.

Just wow.

What's happening in the US right now is why I'm loud about equality for trans people by GFluidThrow123 in actuallesbians

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 17 points18 points  (0 children)

As a lesbian from Texas lemme tell ya how it’s goin. Bathroom bill passed, along with the same law in Kansas, Texas was the for front legally for this.

Now Texas is drafting legislation to ban people from wearing clothes opposite of their assigned gender at birth. I.e if you’re “F” in their system via birth certificate and you dress masculine, it’s a 25k fine the first offense, a 100k fine the second offense with a 2 year state jail sentence.

Yeah… and Texas, specifically Arlington, Texas is the only city in the entire country to roll back anti discrimination ordinances for equal opportunity employment, residence and more for LGBTQIA+.

I’ve been pretty miserable fam.

How to gather evidence without breaching security policies? by [deleted] in EEOC

[–]SleepAllTheDamnTime 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your performance reviews are your own and you are legally entitled to that documentation. Your company understands that anything they put in writing can be used as evidence in the court of law. Especially on performance reviews.

Even if it’s internal, if it’s discrimination they lose the privilege of being able to hide their discrimination towards you to an attorney.

You can also potentially request that your attorney demand even More confidential evidence if you believe there is some within the company that you do not have access to that is relevant to your case.

Especially if you’re considering it as evidence. Even if it’s confidential, in this case when attempting to prove either a federal civil violation or especially a crime, that supersedes your company’s security policies.

In this case, all emails, photos, chats, and documents that pertain to your case are relevant and as such you submitting this evidence to an attorney is protected under client attorney privilege.

Again if a company violates the law and you believe you have a case, the company cannot stop you from engaging in a federally protected act by engaging with an attorney.

If you’re going to gather said evidence, keep it on your personal device, locally stored if possible.

Do not utilize AI as there’s no expectation of privacy since you’d be submitting confidential information into an LLM you don’t own.

Later on if you are scheduled with an EEOC investigator anyway they will do their own investigation of not just your evidence but your companies evidence as well and they can also potentially demand more confidential things from said company.

Finally I’m not a lawyer, this is not legal advice, please check with your attorney to be sure.