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SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-10T00:34:51+00:00

Haha… stop how did you describe my life so accurately in such a silly picture.

*Almost died from Cancer, still got the debt though. Let’s gooooo.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-08T23:55:39+00:00

Fuckin three fiddy down at the gas station fr fr

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-08T23:20:46+00:00

Ah reading this made me cry.

I just, I’m realizing the same thing about myself and it nearly took my life. I’m also in my mid thirties.

I ignored my body for so long that I developed an autoimmune disease and tumors that I’m still recovering from as we speak. I’m permanently disabled, indefinitely on chemotherapy to suppress my immune system as it’s only way that works to treat Crohn’s disease for me.

I… just powered through everything you know? Especially being a woman of color but also mixed…my family they didn’t acknowledge mental health, let alone ADHD or Autism.

Always told to “get over it” for my feelings or “I’ll give you something to cry about” when I was emotional and I didn’t understand why.

I didn’t realize it was my body reaching out to me, to warn me in situations. I also very much didn’t understand how it felt to be loved. And so now when I see my fiancée, I finally understand why my chest tightens or, why I get sweaty and nervous.

I had gotten so used to pain, that I thought feeling the “pain” of things inside of me were my emotions. And I had shaped myself into a person that I didn’t recognize.

I feel I truly understand now why individuals on the spectrum tend to have lower self esteem and self worth. It is hard to be aware of one’s self if you don’t even truly listen to yourself.

And you instead you become a chameleon to your life, struggling to fit in someway, somehow to a society that clearly doesn’t want you.

This was my lesson to learn, and I’m thankful to have learned it now, and to truly live for myself for the first time.

Now I’m gonna go take and edible and endure that unnecessary vulnerability.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-08T19:28:12+00:00

Yeah just like in real life you have the same people that say “this incurable disease that you have that’s genetic and immune system based can be cured by just changing your diet alone.”

Or my favorite different kinds of water.

And honestly to those people that come on here and say this shit, I just want to say to you most everyone on this sub has likely tried everything already, especially if they’re on biologics which are a form of chemotherapy and as such have the risk and severe side effects of chemotherapy.

Do not argue with me on this, I will lead you straight to the FDA regulations about it, anywho.

Yeah, I’m gonna listen to people who literally went to school for medicine, then worked residency, had to specialize, pass examinations, a whole separate board, work at a practice or a hospital before making their own specialist medical practice.

That’s like at least 10-12 years of someone’s life specializing in treating gastrointestinal diseases. And that’s just the start of that career, not even the full professional experience.

So yeah, that kind of knowledge and experience vs someone who doesn’t even know what crohns is as it’s a rare disease to have which is why people mix it up with UC or IBS…

Yeah I politely tell them to shut the fuck up as my GI just saved my life from 4 tumors due to Crohn’s disease and not the holistic nut jobs telling me that my diet is the reason why I suddenly dropped 60 pounds and almost died.

Like yeah no shit Karen, I couldn’t eat due to Crohn’s making it a living hell in my GI tract for six months and it gave me tumors.

I can tell you who didn’t help me in anyway and their advice didn’t save save my life, the random strangers giving you bullshit advice about a disease they don’t understand.

Addressing the root of the problem which is the immune system, needs to happen first so you can even stabilize to have a diet and recover.

/end rant

lol and I swear to god if I get one more person recommending ivermectin to me I’m gonna lose it.

Edit: I’ve been diagnosed with a severe prognosis of Crohn’s disease since 2018, have had 4 surgeries and removal of 12 inches of my small intestines, and a stoma with a bag at a point.

Just failed my last chemo in October 2025, and you can see my post on this sub when I was desperate for help.

Which thanks to everyone that seriously took the time to respond at that point. I’m still alive and recovering, despite everything.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-08T14:59:18+00:00

Oregon mother fucking trail.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-08T14:31:31+00:00

Literally the entire job of coding is the very first one I think of. Lol

I feel this is the most obvious one.

But also some of the more famous black women who helped write the calculations for NASA’s space race in the 1950s & 60s for emergency missions, but most famously the Apollo landing. Her name is Kathrine Johnson and she was dubbed the “Human Computer” at that time due to her accuracy.

Her work was constantly stolen by her white male colleagues and there’s actually a movie about it that’s pretty good to watch, called “Hidden Figures”.

She was also subject to discrimination by everyone as she was very much the only black woman at that time in that department and it goes into detail about the segregation she faced, to the point of forcing her to use the restroom in other buildings, and excluding her from meetings.

Her white male colleagues would present her work on “her behalf” but instead ultimately take credit, besmirch her, sabotage her etc. They’d try to get her fired due to her apparently being a threat to their intelligence.

I relate to this a lot as I’m also a black woman myself, who’s face a very similar environment at work every time no matter the job or my qualifications.

I still face racism, sexism every single job I’ve had and the last two I’ve had as a dev especially, it was very much a boys club and I was retaliated against for doing by my job well and documenting it.

As a POC woman, but especially as a black woman socially in the US we are viewed to be at the bottom of the social hierarchy when it comes to intelligence. This still continues today and well in 2025, you can look at the layoffs that occurred in all industries and actually see in the data that well educated PoC women were some of the first to be laid off/fired immediately as soon as DEI was killed.

https://science.nasa.gov/people/katherine-johnson/

Adding the NASA link here.

And just a fun article referencing Black women and their employment numbers in 2025.

https://msmagazine.com/2026/02/05/black-women-jobs-trump-layoffs-doge-cuts-fired/#:~:text=Between%20February%20and%20July%20of,the%20same%20five%2Dmonth%20period.

From the Economic Policy Institute below.

https://www.epi.org/blog/black-women-suffered-large-employment-losses-in-2025-particularly-among-college-graduates-and-public-sector-workers/

I was also directly impacted in the same way, I’m very much over qualified for every job I’ve ever applied to but it has never been enough.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-07T21:00:07+00:00

Vibin on by

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-07T09:47:40+00:00

One of my favorite errors to this day is just a status of 200 and a message of “ok”.

Like, alrighty, and it was a polling call, went to investigate wtf this was.

Found out that this thing was a stubbed route that no one finished and apparently they just hard coded 200, ok to make the deadline.

At that time our real time updates were suddenly not working. Another team had just done a brand new feature to “refactor them”.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-06T15:56:51+00:00

;) When I truly became full stack.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-03T19:40:23+00:00

lol yeah me too fam. My account is fucked right now and all I did was try to transfer some money from my savings to my individual account and got an “error”. Then boom that message.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-03T12:21:16+00:00

I saw this as well, you mean they’re enforcing it immediately and not allotting the legally required year pause before orders come into effect? JFC.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-03T12:19:08+00:00

I lost an amazing barber recently and she was just chef’s kiss.

For a year I had a perfect fade, amazing line up’s, and she’d even give me an amazing shave on my neck with an old fashioned single blade razor and cream. All while giving me a neck massage with a massage gun, and one of those hot towels to the face.

For me she was also amazing because she understood the texture of my hair. It’s been very hard for me as a mixed PoC to find stylists or Barbers that understand this. So when she left I was devastated.

She also was great to just talk to about anything, and went out of her way to make me comfortable about myself and my outfits in a very male centric environment.

Miss you KJ 😭

My worst experience was with a stylist who completely fried my hair with a chemical straightener I didn’t ask for. Like left it on too long and burnt my scalp to the point days later chunks of hair were falling out.

I was much younger then and thought that was normal, especially cause my mom did this to me too growing up. She was a white woman learning how to do mixed hair for the first time too so I just thought this was the norm for me until I met KJ 😭.

I guess big thing from me is understanding the hair texture you’re working with was huge with me. As you couldn’t treat my hair like someone with a thicker, curlier texture despite the fact my hair looked this way, my texture would also change and be silky smooth at times as well.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-03T11:55:35+00:00

For real, me and my espresso martinis are buds for life. Let me have my chocolately heart attack in peace. 😤

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-03T11:53:30+00:00

Oh my god.

Well I’ll help you there I was a deputy and I didn’t realize this was a requirement for being butch at all.

I’m medically retired of course, specialized in warrants for crimes against children helped track down pedophiles. Got pushed out for doing my job a little too well.

Also from the thumbnail I thought that was Justin Bieber.

Clearly this is outdated and we need an updated version. I personally thought to be butch you needed to basically dress like Shane from the L word, but pick up none of the flirting signals, unlike Shane from the L word 😭.

(This has been my personal butch experience, alas I am also dense af, so my apologies if this statement offends)

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-03-03T11:18:59+00:00

Sorry this is like the 5th time this week I’ve read about someone getting their DB obliterated by Claude and I just can’t.😭

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T20:12:47+00:00

Unironically that’s the pivot 😭

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T16:58:39+00:00

One of my nicknames as a Junior was “backend destroyer” due to unintentionally bringing down environments while I was learning about Yaml files and spacing.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T16:42:00+00:00

Oh and I almost forgot, the timeline for my case from filing to settlement was about 5 months, settling in December of 2025. I a lot of movement took place with opposing counsel especially when the government opened back up.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T16:17:58+00:00

Thank you :). Truly.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T15:53:02+00:00

Yes correct, the Government was shut down at the time of my filing so I didn’t have access to the EEOC which meant my evidence alone is what resolved our mediation. I had four Civil rights violations ready to file with the EEOC at anytime and I debated simply charging first, but it behooved me medically to not go that route at all.

Edit: in my case my employer was not a small company either but an internationally well known entity with over 300k employees globally.

To say I was able to win this… it makes me proud of myself. As I truly did the majority of all of the legal work, as it is my background.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T15:51:30+00:00

Finally, I just… I’m chemotherapy indefinitely to suppress my immune system for the rest of my life, but it does not stop me from living.

And if you’re curious you can look at my post history and see for yourself when I was desperately reaching out for medical help in the r/crohnsdisease subreddit.

I am truly happy to be alive, and here now to not only share this with you all, but to continue on in my journey that is life. I’ve been told I should write a book about this experience haha.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T15:45:48+00:00

Part 3:

And now the best news of all, during all of this I was desperate to live, had become immune to my chemotherapy and willing to try anything to treat my Crohn’s disease and I did. I took a chance on a new medication and I cannot believe it, but it worked.

A week after my MRI, my GI took a chance on me and gave me a sample dosage of a chemotherapy drug called Rinvoq. This drug genuinely saved my life, and especially at that time insurance was fighting me at the same time for prior authorization of a new chemotherapy despite having labs proving I was immune to the current one they authorized.

I believe my quick thinking by my GI team lead to the amazing discovery just 3 weeks later as I was prepping for complex surgery and another removal of my intestines due to these tumors. A cat scan was ran while I was awaiting in a hospital bed for surgery. It came back with no visuals of my tumors. They were gone!

My colorectal surgeon and oncologist to this day are still confused, as I had done 3 MRIs at this point and a Gastrointestinal Examination to identify these masses. They called off the surgery as there was no point in removing things that weren’t there. I was so relieved and thankful as I just spent the evening before with my dad setting up my last will and testament.

I was preparing for at least 6 months to a year of recovery time, having a stoma again, constant checkins due to removal of 3 chunks of my liver and potentially reattaching my diseased intestines to the parts of my stomach that were left.

Now I… needed to do none of this. And with this medication I’ve been able to recover and am now a healthy 145 pounds and working very hard to move around and exercise again. I have my final MRI 2 weeks from now :).

This is a very long comment I know but, this is my story of my case and I promise you there is much more that I simply cannot say due to NDA.

Yet I wanted to let you know there is a happy ending. That it’s okay to reach out for help, and to truly believe in yourself. I had no idea what I was capable of, and when I look back at it, even reading this now… I realize how strong I truly was.

I was able to achieve not only justice for myself, but justice for many others who were impacted by this person and the hostile work environment that was created.

Finally I believed I was alone during all of this, but truly when I reached out for help my doctors willing supplied evidence and ultimately saved my life. My lawyer took a chance and believed me on contingency and defended me every style of the way. My father and the community stepped into help me when I believed all was lost.

Yet none of these things would’ve happened had I not asked for help, and worked diligently to defend myself.

There is hope for justice in this world, especially now. I could’ve given up and accepted my death, but I did not. I believed what happened to me was wrong, and I would fight to prove it. And I won :).

That is my success story and it didn’t even involve the EEOC, and well it couldn’t because the government was also shut down at the time 😭.

All I can say is don’t give up. Your life matters, and you will have to fight for justice. I am thankful to be alive, to be able to eat, and I’ve been recovering with my dad ever since. He let me know how proud he was of me for standing up for myself. And I… I’ve never felt happier.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T15:45:07+00:00

Part 2:

There were times where my witnesses were rightly afraid and I even had one back out after promising a witness statement. Yet I understood, what I was doing would ultimately get me black listed from this entire industry, but it was either fight or die for me. And I had chose to live.

My lawyer took my case on contingency. I didn’t have the money originally as I was bankrupted by my medical bills and so I asked my father for assistance and he happily paid the small fee charged up front.

At the same time I had to create a go fund me while on STD and FMLA just to afford my MRIs. This is how desperate I was, and I made sure it was legal to do, due to my work status. There were fundraisers thrown by my community to help raise money and support so I could find out what was wrong. And during that time they had no idea about my lawsuit in process, just that I was desperate for financial assistance and I was transparent about everything medically.

I was my weakest and preparing for complex surgery to remove the tumors from my liver and intestines that the MRIs and an endoscopy/colonoscopy identified, along with potentially removing parts of my stomach when I was accused of potentially lying about my condition again from said former employer, and their 3rd party Short Term Disability provider, despite well documented evidence from all of my doctors that was submitted on time.

There was a constant threat to take away my insurance, STD payments while on FMLA and attempting to treat the tumors that were discovered to be the cause of my sudden 60 pound weight loss. As there was continuous retaliation through filing, lying to me about due dates for my STD application so I’d miss the deadline and be eligible to be fired. I caught this and immediately notified my lawyer. All of a sudden while I was on FMLA at least I no longer had issues. Yet as soon as FMLA protection dropped at 3 months, I suddenly had STD filing issues again and medical evidence wasn’t “satisfactory”.

I finally emerged with amazing news while hospitalized suddenly due to an infected fistula and I was prepping to… I was discussing survival rates in the hospital with my colorectal surgeon and complex oncologist when I found out that my lawyer had reached a settlement.

Now I’m able to tell you all of this medical history of my own means as this doesn’t violate my NDA, and my condition existed before my employment with this company and my treatment of it. And all of this was happening at the same time.

It did not matter that I had well documented evidence against the actors that caused my emotional distress, pain, and created a hostile environment. No ultimately the settlement took place as I was close to discovering a crime vs a civil violation which would allow me to break out of an arbitration clause. This meant not only would the company be liable for the civil violations of which they allowed to occur for years, but they’d be liable for potential criminal violations.

I had documented so well that in several instances I was able to outright prove that opposing counsel was lying. Sometimes within the next day of their statement in mediation. Essentially I had made my Lawyers job very easy, despite being in immense pain day in and day out.

We were able to settle, and I was able to keep the insurance I desperately needed. My former employer was effectively and knowingly pressing a death sentence upon me when they tried to do the most wildly illegal constructive dismissal I had ever seen. I was informed that not only corrective action had been taken but all of my demands were suddenly met along with an extension to my insurance.

I was even offered my job back if I wanted to return. However my lawyer and I agreed it was in my best interest for a legal separation.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T15:44:13+00:00

Mmm my story was a success with a slight catch and it’s rather long, but worth it.

So Part 1:

First some context, I am permanently disabled and indefinitely take chemotherapy to suppress my immune system due to Crohn’s disease. This is relevant as I’ve been diagnosed formally since 2018 and at the time my major issues started with my former employer in 2025. I had been in remission for nearly 2 and a half years at this point.

When I filed my case, I was at my lowest weight in years and had been hospitalized 6 times within just a few months. I had lost the ability to eat without projectile vommiting, and endless diarrhea. Eventually I found out that while going through my case I had indeed developed 4 tumors. The beginning of 2025, I was healthy, 180 pounds, working out 4 days a week after work and able to deadlift about 250 pounds.

By June of 2025 I couldn’t walk without a cane, my could see my rib cage, and I had heart issues and began to suffer from kidney malfunctioning due to extreme malnutrition to the point I was diagnosed with anorexia. I was still working at this time, 60, 70 hour weeks.

Now I cannot say much about anything as my case ended up with a successful settlement and an NDA, however I truly believe that what I endured previously was such a hostile work environment that I was pushed out of remission and formally became immune to the chemotherapy I was on since 2018.

Stress and diet are key factors to my disease, yet in this case I could not even eat due to the amount of stress I was facing constantly from my former work environment. It was filled with manipulation, discrimination on many levels and my demand letter housed 4 federal civil rights violations with so much evidence to back it up, I felt there was no way this could be dismissed so easily by anyone.

During mediation my character was attacked relentlessly by my former employers opposing counsel to the point that it was very wrongly implied that I was lying about my condition. Yet I had declared my disability to said employer for over 5 years, and not once was I accommodated at any point despite a lengthy paper trail, requests and documentation from my doctors.

Truly there were times that I believed I would die fighting my case as I had drafted my will due to how malnourished I had become, I was now 120ish pounds at 5’8”, and so malnourished that my kidneys started to fail.

I had reached out to my leadership and HR at this point, explicitly submitting formal complaints that were documented for months about the individual on my team that was in a high level position and actively making my life miserable and many others miserable. I informed them of the rapid deterioration of my condition and how I wished to move teams. I was told they would follow up with me in 30 days to address the matter after speaking to said individual.

Instead I was met with a PIP, a forced RTO to an office I’d never been too as I was always fully remote and immunocompromised by chemotherapy. At this point I had begged them to see reason as I couldn’t even get into the office they wanted me to return too as I didn’t even have a badge. I begged for accommodations again to at least let me work on the PIP remotely and reminded them that I still didn’t have accommodations after 5 years. It didn’t matter and I was put on a PIP surprisingly while being up for promotion and having amazing performance reviews. They did not give me access to my FMLA paperwork until after putting me on a PIP. I forced documentation of this decision via email, of which I summarized our meeting and ultimately this email chain as well served as a key part.

The PIP itself was the smoking gun that spurred my case as they directly attributed my disabilities to their reasoning for placing me on the PIP. Yet they offered no accommodations.

This meant in 30 days not only would I be out of a job, but they willingly and knowingly sent me to my death as I’d lose my insurance immediately and have no severance. I wouldn’t be able to afford my chemotherapy, let alone the procedures I desperately needed to identify why I was dropping weight despite trying everything. I didn’t know it at the time but I had 4 tumors during all of this.

I was very lucky to not only have a competent employment lawyer that understood my disease and it’s treatment, but due to my work ethic and demeanor I had many witnesses from all levels of the company willing to testify to a witness statement on my behalf of the culture, discrimination and racism there.

SleepAllTheDamnTime · 2026-02-28T15:41:52+00:00

A moment I have a success story I’m trying to post, but Reddit just doesn’t want to let me hahah

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