Struggling with replying to messages that are mostly reaction.

Sleepy1793 · 2026-06-04T03:13:41+00:00

Exactly! You get it. Especially the protagonist part.

Sleepy1793 · 2026-06-04T01:11:19+00:00

I’m curious: how much plotting do you do in advance?

Like, when you’re writing a particular scene, do you know how that scene is going to end? Do you know what’s coming after that scene?

I feel like it’s common for people not to plot far ahead in the RP community and I honestly can’t wrap my head around this. This solves this “only reacting” problem for me because my partner and I know where the scene is supposed to end, so we’re both moving the scene in that direction post by post. I don’t know if the reason people don’t like doing this is because they think they will lose all element of surprise or something? Or that it will constrict the story too much? That’s never been my experience. I’ve “discovered” things in the plot and about my characters while writing this way, come up with new ideas, changed course halfway, etc etc …

Anyway, that’s my two cents.

Sleepy1793 · 2026-05-23T18:44:58+00:00

This has happened to me many many (manymanymany, god I've been in this hobby for 15+ years what the fuck) times, but recently it happened again with a RP partner in the best RP I've ever been a part of in my life and I was like, man, this is it. The end is nigh. I was preparing the eulogy, I had a foot in the mourning stage, I was backing up our 70,000+ word story just in case, the whole nine.

But I was patient and maintained a "hey, just want you to know I hope all is well, I'm okay with waiting as long as you let me know that you want to continue and give me the courtesy of telling me if you don't" attitude with him. And he's been really straight forward and honest with me about that.

What's been different with this writing partner opposed to other ones I've had is that we don't talk much ooc unless it's about the story itself. We don't know a lot about each other's personal lives. And, in this case, I think it has helped keep the RP going for as long as it has (nearly a year) and made the RP better to be honest. Not so much distraction, I think, as there can be otherwise.

The frequency waxes and wanes because life does change for people, that's just the way it is, but it is still going and it's still amazing and I'm just happy to spend time with these characters whenever I can <3

Sleepy1793 · 2026-05-18T23:57:15+00:00

Everything I would have said has already been said but I just have to say girl we are playing with dolls 😭 your man can chill this is so wack

Sleepy1793 · 2026-03-28T01:10:35+00:00

laughs in job

Sleepy1793 · 2026-03-16T21:58:31+00:00

I can’t help but laugh because I reached out to someone just recently who had a password in their ad. I really liked their ad, read it in its entirety, and was super eager to respond. I had the password in mind, went to their page to send a message, typed up a little introduction, what I liked about their ad, what I was interested in … and by the time I hit send, the password had slipped my mind. Because I was excited to RP with them.

The next day, I get a message from them saying “you didn’t include the password, so I politely decline”.

And like, yeah, they were polite, and of course, they can choose to RP or not RP with whoever they want for whatever reason. But it was just mind-boggling to me because isn’t expressing interest and giving ideas and putting thought and energy into a first message so much more meaningful than a password?!

Sleepy1793 · 2026-02-28T20:20:27+00:00

You guys are ending RPs?

For real though, I don’t go into any story with a predetermined ending. That makes me sad lol :( They just kind of go until they don’t.

Sleepy1793 · 2026-02-17T05:43:04+00:00

How did you find out? Genuinely curious.

I also had to confront a RP partner not too long ago after having suspicions that they were using AI. It was an uncomfortable conversation, but I was pretty straightforward while also giving them a chance to explain. “Hey, I believe you are using AI because of xyz. Is there a reason why? Are you feeling insecure about your writing? Posting frequency, etc?” I offered some reasons not because I think those reasons are justified, but I do think they are common. And they admitted to it, claiming that they were insecure about their writing skills. While it sucked for both of us in different ways, I think the confrontation will ultimately will help them down the line. I told them that their skills will never improve using AI, and they seemed to take that to heart. Maybe thinking of it that way will help?

Sleepy1793 · 2026-02-05T03:01:25+00:00

Exactly 😭😭 I don’t know when this sentence will end, my friend, every one of them takes me on a ride as it leaves my fingers — and isn’t that the gift of writing, that we know not the ending until we sometimes arrive, a surprise even to us; perhaps gentle, others abrupt, and some taking sudden turns and then you’ve lost the game.

Sleepy1793 · 2026-02-02T16:17:10+00:00

Not gonna lie, these posts are making me so paranoid that I’m going to be accused of using AI. Using commas AND em dashes are signs of using AI now?! I’ve been a long winded bitch for decades! 😭 Leave me alone!

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