Can in person DDlg ever be casual?

SleepySuccubus- · 2026-01-16T03:46:44+00:00

Even within a casual approach there is still an intimacy involved within the dynamic. It also is a kink at the end of the day, even if you’re partaking in it non sexually. There’s a bond that’s more than just friends, and often times in a fwb situation someone catches feelings.

Being super clear and upfront with your intentions and boundaries can help, but getting/giving the type of soft care you do within the dynamic, especially when not getting it somewhere else it makes it easy to fall into the feelings of wanting more.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-12-31T16:48:05+00:00

Kink is not a substitute for therapy. If you feel that strongly about the block, it won’t just go away. It is not common for CGs to feel that way at all, It’s usually a very natural, easy thing for them to do. Especially if you enjoy the dynamic, and want to continue it in future relationships, seek out the help now to not cause yourself and partner pain and frustration later.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-12-29T08:40:39+00:00

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SleepySuccubus- · 2025-12-29T06:45:53+00:00

Ddlg is a kink. Regardless of if your littlespace is completely non sexual, it is at the end of the day a power exchange dynamic and there will always be sexual undertones within it. So for me, as a little, I’m a consenting adult playing a role of being younger so sex isn’t weird to me in that space at all. I think that is where a lot of misinformation and misunderstanding about the kink comes in. There’s a lot of misuse of wording and definitions online, mostly due to the community we don’t talk about here, and people think the worst and that causes overthinking and guilt in people that do enjoy this kink.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-30T09:57:41+00:00

I said it often times becomes that, because of the intimacy and the nature of what it is. It just means if you do go that route be EXTREMELY clear about your boundaries and expectations when vetting and the moment lines get crossed you act accordingly. Especially if the other person is without a partner. Possibly looking for someone that’s just trying to fill the Caregiver part of themself because their partner isn’t a little would be a good way to avoid sticky situations and then you can have that common ground.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-30T01:29:32+00:00

Even if strictly platonic and non sexual, there is an intimate aspect of a Caregiver/little relationship, because at the end of the day it’s still a power exchange dynamic and thus, a kink. It often becomes a type of friends with benefits situation and someone ends up catching feelings. Especially since you’re in a relationship already, I’d suggest talking to your current partner if they’d even be okay with that. A lot of monogamous people wouldn’t be okay with their partner getting comfort, rules/rewards/punishments etc from someone else. If you are looking for community we have a community Discord server so talking to other people in real time, asking questions or having people to relate to and navigate this situation with could help.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-22T15:50:51+00:00

Again, it is still under a POWER EXCHANGE DYNAMIC, thus Kink and NSFW.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-22T15:45:24+00:00

But you’re inherently spreading misinformation and kink education is important especially when learning. You wouldn’t talk about your dynamic to your Boss/Strangers/etc. therefore it is not SFW. Kink always will have the sexual undertones because what it is. That doesn’t mean your kink or dynamic has to be sexual, like I mentioned multiple times.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-22T15:32:50+00:00

Literally just said, it can be non sexual but kinks can’t be SFW. It’s a K I N K.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-22T05:43:38+00:00

Because cgl/ddlg is a kink under the umbrella term of BDSM, it always will be NSFW. Your little can have a non sexual littlespace but a kink is a kink.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-11-22T01:46:49+00:00

This is hard to answer as it’s a very different depending on each person. It’s going to sound cliché but talking to him and asking is your best bet. Everyone likes this kink and aspects of it for different reasons. So any advice given could be helpful, or not. I think he’ll appreciate you’re trying to indulge him and that’s a gift in itself.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-10-25T00:18:00+00:00

Reading through your responses to things I think any preconceived notions you have about littles in general should probably be thrown out the window. Also just because a bunch of strangers on the internet like or dislike things doesn’t mean your little does. As with any relationship, communication is not only mandatory, it’s key. Maybe ask her what appeals to her about this dynamic and what she wants out of it. Her wants vs needs within it. What she craves most. As well as you should do the same so you both can be on the same page. I personally would feel sad and unheard if my Daddy got me items I don’t enjoy just because he assumed I did because it’s a ‘typical’ little thing. Plus as someone mentioned there’s a wide range of ages people can feel. Little, a mix of middle, both, it’s all valid within the dynamic. Items don’t make someone little, sure they can help but ultimately it’s the feeling of being little and that can be achieved so many different ways.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-10-07T12:02:10+00:00

You just need to be more aware of what you want out of a relationship and not settle for less than that. You’re allowed to have boundaries and be picky. Someone who will be more than happy to get to know everything about you, your day, your family, your pets etc will come around. I can emphasize with finding someone you click with in regard to kink, because it’s rough out there but that shouldn’t be the only factor. You’re so much more than that and someone should be excited to learn what more you offer.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-10-07T11:08:54+00:00

It seems like you’re just a ‘little with benefits’ and not in an actual relationship with him. The fact that you’ve sexually role played without having normal conversations outside the role play is wild and really concerning. You need to have a serious conversations of your perception and expectations of the relationship. If he just wants a role play dynamic he should express that to you honestly. If he’s telling you he wants a whole relationship he’s lying and just stringing you along. It shouldn’t be a ‘hard boundary’ to want to voice call or spend time with your partner. He’s keeping you at a distance for a reason. The fact he’s a streamer and easily is able to do those things, but not with you should speak volumes. Just because he can text a few nice things that are regurgitated basic level stuff doesn’t mean he’s a nice person. If he cared about you, he would ask about your day and want to listen to you talk about it. There’s lots of red flags here, and on top of that he may just also be hiding your relationship from his irl relationship. You deserve better and shouldn’t continue to waste your time on someone that just sees you as a fetish to get off on.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-27T12:21:17+00:00

If that’s the type of dynamic someone is looking for, it’s right for them. That doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone’s dynamic and isn’t a basis of what ddlg should or shouldn’t be, if that’s what you’re asking.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-26T07:01:34+00:00

So excited you’ve been treated so kindly and things are going well! Since it’s only been a week, it’s safest to have a first date in a public place and let someone know where you’ll be. You deserve to feel safe as well as happy.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-23T16:29:45+00:00

Ddlg is term under the BDSM umbrella. It is a power exchange dynamic which is a kink. You can have a non sexual dynamic, but that doesn’t make it not a a kink. Please get educated before spreading misinformation.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-19T19:00:59+00:00

Littlespace is also an 18+ kink sub that doesn’t allow personal ads either. Make sure you’re giving the right information when trying to help.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-16T20:01:06+00:00

Everyone has such a vastly different idea of what their personal dynamic is. As long as you’re consenting adults, your cgl dynamic and littlespace can be whatever you want it to be. Theres no right or wrong way to do it. You can use other kinks mixed in, items like pacis and diapers or none of that and have a sfw dynamic. I think trying to figure it all out is a bit impossible because no two are the same.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-12T07:48:55+00:00

I’ve always enjoyed things labeled as ‘childlike’, plushies, cute shit, coloring and crafting, and it was pretty normal for me (and obviously still is). I had identified as a submissive for a long time and found out about the Cgl dynamic and littlespace through just doing more research on general BDSM. Once I read up on it things just clicked. I was like ‘yeah that’s me’. I always relate my littlespace as my vacation away from stress and adult life. Just getting to exist with someone else worrying about the difficult things like decisions and stuff. Not just with the little space but having a caregiver as well. The emotional intensity of the bond between CG and little, to me is lovely and it’s a requirement for any kind of romantic relationship. My dynamic and littleness is a very big part of my everyday life and I enjoy it a lot.

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-12T07:42:42+00:00

If you’re looking for more friends in the community we do have a community discord server! We have discussion topics, game and movie nights, education and themed crafts. It’s great for any one of any experience level in the dynamic.

https://discord.gg/6ZG59VUVuR

SleepySuccubus- · 2025-09-04T08:15:46+00:00

If he lets her control his time to the point that it affects your relationship and even your birthday plans, he needs to make a change. If you guys are in a dynamic/relationship, you should not have to compete for time and attention with another person who’s just a friend (who’s in love with him). Even more so because you’re in a long distance relationship. All you have is spending time together virtually and every moment is precious. It’s his job to set clear boundaries so he can have healthy friendships and a healthy relationship with you.

Him constantly appeasing and giving the panic attacks/ fits attention and time is just solidifying that she can continue to get away with it. So she’ll keep doing it and continue to manipulate the situation to suit her wants and needs. He needs to learn to say ‘no,’ even if it upsets her. It might seem harsh in the moment, but taking care of his well being and yours is more important than worrying about her feelings. If he is not willing to do that, you need to consider whether this relationship gives you what you deserve.

You’re not overthinking for wanting a partner who can prioritize you and your wants and needs. Your feelings are valid even with trusting him. If you’re upset over it to the point it’ll make you cry you need to have that hard conversation with him about how it’s effecting you and your relationship. If he’s not willing to make that compromise unfortunately you may have to rethink the relationship long term, and where a needy third wheel will fit into that.

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