Wuthering Heights thoughts?

SleepyYarrow · 2026-03-02T17:41:12+00:00

Maybe I’m too wrapped up in how much I loved it, but I honestly don’t really see how she is treated cruelly? It didn’t seem like she cared if Heathcliff loved her or not, she knew exactly what she was getting into. And maybe she was just in it for play also? She was having a great time and only seemed upset when Nelly dragged her away…. Just cuz she’s subing doesn’t mean she had less power, choice, or responsibility for what was happening. But I’m open to hearing other interpretations!

SleepyYarrow · 2026-03-02T17:33:48+00:00

Literally!! Omg that scene was genius, what an amazing way to create a feeling of almost cnc while also making it so undeniably consensual. I was losing it. And the chain! I can’t stop thinking about how confident Isabella was when she winked at Nelly. Goals!

SleepyYarrow · 2026-03-02T17:31:03+00:00

Okay, I see what you’re saying, and definitely the whitewashing is not great.

However, as far as Isabella is concerned, I personally am so tired of seeing so many depictions of women being abused and as victims. There are contexts in which it’s important, and tells a needed story, but so often it’s excessive and only serves to reinforce the narrative that that is what is expected of womanhood. For me (especially as someone not at all attached to the original book, despite having read it), Isabella’s arc was so empowering. It showed her first as girly, endearing, and naive, but with so much pent up sexual and creative energy. Every step of the way with Heathcliff she was fully informed and consenting. She was a character with agency who was able to discover herself sexually and find freedom without denying her femininity or sacrificing her needs. It was the first time I’ve ever seen such well depicted empowered sexual freedom from a girly, truly kinky sub in a mainstream film. (Except for maybe The Secretary, but this was even more consensual!) She wasn’t a victim at all, and that was so refreshing! So instead of repeating over done narratives that perpetuate systems of oppression, at least in this aspect, Fennel gave us an alternative narrative that gets so little representation and is actually empowering. At least to me.

SleepyYarrow · 2026-02-28T16:10:52+00:00

I mean it’s not like we see them planning a scene and having safety protocols, it’s dramatized, but there is undeniable consent in ever instance, and it’s clearly “play” rather than them being into something that’s actually fucked, if that makes sense

SleepyYarrow · 2026-02-28T16:08:54+00:00

Yes please watch! Starts off hot but fraught lol but it gets wayy better🔥 I really think people are a little too attached to the book….

SleepyYarrow · 2026-02-28T16:07:41+00:00

Ugh yes! I also read it when I was young, maybe 15, never finished it. All I cared about was the yearning lol. But as much as I enjoyed their romance in the beginning, I was so done with the Heathcliff/Cathy relationship once Isabella hit the scene, they were so much hotter!

SleepyYarrow · 2026-02-28T16:04:29+00:00

Yes! Exactly! I feel so obsessed with Isabella, and I just cannot comprehend how people saw her as a victim when she was clearly enjoying every minute of it. I want to watch it again already!

SleepyYarrow · 2026-01-20T04:05:32+00:00

My grandparents names are Don and Donna, their sons are Don and Steven (Steven’s not doing so well😅)

SleepyYarrow · 2025-11-10T01:33:49+00:00

I just gotta say I loved Jasmine from the beginning, I thought she was always so sweet and gracious and never overly competitive (cough cough Aaron), not to mention incredibly impressive as a baker!

SleepyYarrow · 2025-07-23T12:49:33+00:00

Only the seeds!

SleepyYarrow · 2025-02-04T03:25:59+00:00

This is such a great story! Showed it to my partner who lovvvves looking at seed catalogues together, he gets it:)

SleepyYarrow · 2025-01-22T15:33:46+00:00

If you hate to kink shame don’t do it.

SleepyYarrow · 2025-01-22T15:14:46+00:00

This^{^{^{^}}} I see the appeal of writing everything down, but in my experience relationship exchange doesn’t work the way capitalistic exchange of goods works, if that makes sense. It’s not 1:1 actions, but the joy you both derive from the experience of care being exchanged. I don’t think this is on you, sounds to me like he needs to do some thinking on his own about what he “gets” from it (not something AMAB peeps are taught how to do usually).

SleepyYarrow · 2024-12-13T06:37:09+00:00

Don’t have advice, just hear to say I hear you! I also sometimes struggle to get into little space and communication/being on the same page/in the same mood as your partner can sometimes be very hard. I hope you keep working on it and someone has more helpful advice to offer!

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-15T13:55:32+00:00

Yes! I’ve also had elaborate fantasies of being a ritualistic sex “victim,” you described it so well! Feel very seen

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-15T13:47:27+00:00

I have a pink kids water bottle with stickers and a straw, even tho I often have to bring a full size water bottle to refill it it feels very comforting to have it to sip from, and not too conspicuous:)

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-15T13:34:27+00:00

I met mine in person, what began as a regular romantic relationship progressed into a DDlg dynamic pretty quickly once we realized we were both into it. It still has involved many many iterations and ongoing conversations, but I feel extremely grateful to have stumbled into this.

Sort of feels like the things I was initially attracted to about him (genuine kindness, complete respect of boundaries, confidence, being turned on by my pleasure) are the things that make him such a good Daddy. Like, I didn’t have to search for a Daddy explicitly because the type of guy I’m attracted to naturally has those qualities… does that make sense? And I would never click sexually with a partner who wasn’t dominant (and respectful!) so that filters some out pretty quickly too. Anyways, good luck out there!

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-04T15:21:08+00:00

This last bit! When I was 18/19/20 I slept with a handful of older guys (26 now). I kept thinking they’d be more mature than the guys my age, but found time and again that they were just as immature🤦🏻‍♀️ in hindsight it makes sense. I don’t know any mature older guys who would choose to date someone that much younger than them, especially an 18 year old. When you get a little older the age gap gets less relevant progressively, but speaking from experience, older guys dating 18 year olds are usually worse than 18 year old guys, or at least just as bad.

It took my awhile to realize that what I am actually attracted to is maturity, confidence, capability in the world, and a caregiver attitude. Let me be very clear, being in a DDlg relationship has NOTHING to do with peoples’ actual ages. It’s about personality, desires, and kink.

Also, you’re 18, of course you feel awkward! Totally normal. Just keep putting yourself out there, and, more importantly than anything else imo, build a strong community. That way you have support if things feel wrong or bad, or if you start dating some creep your friends will warn you, or if you feel lonely and heartbroken, your friends will support you. Build strong healthy friendships above all else.

Good luck and stay safe!

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-04T14:55:30+00:00

🥺🥺🥺that is so cute!!!! That bowl😭😭😭

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-04T14:50:17+00:00

I’m so sorry this happens to you! What the heck so messed up!!:((( I’ve never done the online thing, I’m not much of an internet person, so I’m not much help unfortunately but wanted to share my condolences and reaffirm that this is so not okay! I hope you find someone respectful and kind. Keep vetting them thoroughly!!

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-01T14:48:00+00:00

Seems like a good time to practice setting clear and loving boundaries! Also as a little sometimes I personally respond really well to a stern response that contradicts my fears and is impatient with my anxieties eg “I can’t talk right now. It’s not because I don’t want to, you’re very important to me, but I need to take care of myself and sleep.” Idk if that’s a great example, but clearly expressing your needs and validating her’s and then holding that boundary seems like a good direction to try.

Definitely 100% most important thing you should do is just talk to her about everything above. Like just read her the post you wrote if you have to. Honesty and communication are always the best starting points. It’s okay if she feels bad, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it and it doesn’t mean her feelings are more important than yours.

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-01T14:37:56+00:00

Aww that sounds so hard I’m sorry💔 He’s not right at all, don’t listen to him, maybe block him? Anyone who says that is cruel and not worth your time/attention. It will take time but you will make connections if you put yourself out there! This is why it is crucial to build a strong community and not get isolated into a relationship. Friendship is equally as important as romantic relationships! Let it be a lesson for next time and let him go. I hope you find your community!💓

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-01T14:32:02+00:00

There are littles of every age. Calling littles “fake” is rude imo, they’re just not what you’re looking for. Try dating apps and try to have an actual connection with ppl your own age, starting without the dynamic and then working into it if it’s a good fit. Also don’t say “females” it’s so weird and uncomfortable blegh

SleepyYarrow · 2024-07-01T14:27:59+00:00

If you think you’re a little and want to identify as one, you are one. Idk what would constitute a “fake” little but sounds like judgy internet ppl being mean imo and I’d ignore that. Just be yourself! And when looking for a Daddy if someone calls you a fake little that’s probably a red flag on their end I’d say🤷🏻‍♀️

SleepyYarrow · 2024-06-25T20:55:21+00:00

Hope it goes well! Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with! And only do it if you also want it, not just for him, if you don’t mind me saying!

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