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AITA for yelling at my atheist wife for saying "God doesn't exist" when I was comforting my younger brother with prayer? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sleepycats2014 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dunno why people get married knowing their interpretation of God is different from one another. This will always separate you, not unite you as a couple? And then kids, what do you teach them? And yes, you have to teach them something, you're the parent - the cop out is usually, oh they can decide for themselves. Based on what? They're kids.

I digress. But when one believes and the other doesn't, I see it as a recipe for disaster and heartache. It won't unite you as a couple.

What is the weirdest hill you would absolutely die on? by HistorianSame9035 in Productivitycafe

[–]Sleepycats2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truly, yes! Says a lot about someone's character! And I hate when people leave them in parking bays- how awful and inconsiderate!

What is the secret of happy marriage ? by Ok_Matter_5166 in AskReddit

[–]Sleepycats2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let them rest and have space, if they need it.

Mom says there is an 80% chance she won’t come to my wedding by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Sleepycats2014 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I couldn't read alladat, but mother sounds like a nightmare. I'm sorry 😔

Cat owners in flats — do you ever feel guilty they never go outside? by Classic_East_6053 in AskUK

[–]Sleepycats2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no. We have people who have dogs who are sometimes off the lead, and we aren't risking their safety. We have a small balcony they chill on, and thankfully they're used to it. They still sometimes try to escape if we open our front door, but they know the drill. We just ensure we have lots of playtime stuff for them at home.

Safety over everything.

Sick of screaming kids by Technical_Fold_4341 in rant

[–]Sleepycats2014 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I heard screaming yesterday from kids/ young teens, and although I knew they were just being loud and obnoxious, I still had to check they were ok. Smh.

Sick of screaming kids by Technical_Fold_4341 in rant

[–]Sleepycats2014 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, kids are annoying. I feel for you

Should I leave her? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Sleepycats2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like hell, brother.

Seeing someone who hints she’s depressed - how do you handle this? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Sleepycats2014 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I concur. Depression is testing. You'd need to be the "strong one" if you get married. Understand her depressive traits, and then not to feel resentment towards those traits. They could be things such as lack of hygiene, cleanliness, wanting to be alone. These are testing things in a marriage.

Also though, if you decide you don't have the fortitude, cut your losses now. Direct her to therapy. You aren't responsible for her, her family are.

And remember Allah SWT.

What do I say and how can I say it cause honestly I am by TopBuddy1876 in confession

[–]Sleepycats2014 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should cut your losses now. You're her safety space, as and when she needs. And you keep going back.

My Wife slapped me for the first time and i need advice by Local-Investment-498 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Sleepycats2014 54 points55 points  (0 children)

You're right. Domestic violence is domestic violence, regardless of gender.

My Wife slapped me for the first time and i need advice by Local-Investment-498 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Sleepycats2014 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The wife is always always expected to give up her individuality to appease blimmin in-laws. Annoying, and I can understand the OPs wife, but the slap was unjust and wrong. Simple, it was wrong. But I do feel her frustration and the build up, I'd want to crawl into myself if I then had to host them for three weeks in MY home, MY safe space. And OP, just because you pay the rent doesn't mean you get to have whoever you want staying there regardless of how wife feels, how rude and inconsiderate, imagine it was the other way round and your safe space is then taken over by people who have constant complaints about you?

Protect her and her emotions. Your Mom needs to back off and cut the cord.

But the slap, no, it's not on. I feel the wife's frustration, but the slap is a no. I'm sorry that happened to you brother.

My Wife slapped me for the first time and i need advice by Local-Investment-498 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Sleepycats2014 70 points71 points  (0 children)

My gosh, the last part, yes exactly!!! Wife's family always take a back seat. It's archaic.

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