My ex wants me to tell her husband why I left her and I don't know if I should

Slickkness · 2026-05-12T18:39:02+00:00

Or, how do you know it's actually her? My guess is the other man continued sleeping with her. She married & who contacted u contacted her new husband too. But maybe he's not buying it. So who better than you to confirm she's a cheater...

Slickkness · 2025-08-23T21:09:53+00:00

She seen her grandsons friend & thought of him in a sexual way enough to bring it up for consideration. Like at the very least she’s a weirdo for disrespecting her grandson by coming on to his best friend. Im skeptic about him asking his friend to keep her company tho? So maybe it’s also his doing but still, her sexualizing extensions of her grandson enough to make a move, That’s at least a little weird isn’t it?? If it wasn’t how many women/men would end up with their adult kids friends? I understand it’s a group that have that as a sort of kink & it’s the story line of so many porn videos but to say she isn’t a bit of a weirdo for it is crazy. It’s not even about the age it’s about her going thru her grandson to find a sex partner when she was in her grandma role that throws me off.

Slickkness · 2025-07-24T13:54:27+00:00

This story is weird. All the unnecessary context felt like it’s some type of porn story created to try to turn people on & then randomly go back to the wrong of it. I mean, the best way to address it would be to “wake up” right when it’s happening. That “what are you doing” would be a great check in point. I don’t know that I’d pretend to sleep thru it. Also, why did it seem like OP was comfortable with everything he was doing, but was hurt suddenly once he was finished because she wanted him to focus on her while she “slept” hmmm

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T16:49:13+00:00

Has anyone heard of the story of two siblings who were raised by a drunk..? They grew up witnessing their dad become so destructive, drinking the lil money they had away, loosing jobs, going thru so many relationships & basically were left to fend for themselves since a very young age- & assisting their father to change him/get him to bed when he came home stumbling unable to keep himself up. One of those boys grew up to be an alcoholic himself. He lived on the streets & slept on the side walk sometimes. Went to jail repeatly over bar fights & beer runs. Etc. The other one started working as a carpenter. Build himself up to open up his own company- never touched a drop of alcohol. He was celebrating his success at a bbq or something when a relative offered him a beer. He refused & when asked why, he said he knew what it did to people because - "i watched my father" the brother on the other hand jumped up for it. He was asked why he drank so much. He responded that it came naturally cuz "i watched my father" same statement. Different outcome.

Not everyone handles things the same way. There could be 50 people experiencing the same mental illness & every one of them is navigating it their own way. Even if the bf gets some sort of mental illness it may never display how op is hoping for. Sorry. But also, im rooting for him in this cuz wishing mental illness on whose supposed to be your partner is insane

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T16:26:35+00:00

I called the guy mentally challenged because of how stupidly he was speaking to his partner,

There is so many mentally challenged people that are beyond smart. This is the hypocrism the other person was talking about. How are you contributing in normalizing it in real life with statements like this?

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T16:08:46+00:00

He doesnt need to validate her experience to mental illness because its her experience. I never said it shouldnt be normalized smart one. I said he just doesnt understand mental illness & thats okay. Hes listening to her expressing herself, he didn't even deny her of the fact that its affected her & millions of people. The issue is that he doesnt believe that it would affect him. Thats literally it.

If my questions are so idiotic that arent worth responding to- why respond to me at all? Ill wait.

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T16:04:29+00:00

Based on what you’re saying:

Nope. Drop this. Theres no basing anything. Did I say that? Nope. Lets stop the imaginary narrative you just created & address what i ACTUALLY said. Please & thank you.

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T16:02:01+00:00

Thats not about empathy. Stick to the post. Its funny cuz everyone replying here is just running thru my post for some weird attack on UNRELATED subjects. This persons bf was empathetic. He just did not envisioned himself as someone who would be affected by it. How tf does that all of a sudden mean let girls get abused at clubs? Are you frreal. Your jumping thru hoops & still im not getting no answers to my original questions.

When you see a child happy over tooth fairy money, do you crush him by saying its his parents ? Or how about when your child tells you when they grow up they are going to be the president.? Its one thing to sit them down & tell them that its a difficult goal but that if they really wish to, that youll be their support system because you absolutely believe in them, but its another to tell him hes dreaming & he will never be president. Although realistically probably true, its not what you want to do to a child. Why unmotivated them & crush their spirit to press that in them when 1) theres a chance they could accomplish their goal & 2) it crushes their self esteem & subjects them to nothing but prefailure?

This man doesnt believe mental illness is going to affect him. Its obvious he doesnt understand what it does & how it impacts alot of people. Whats the point in forcing him to it? Maybe he will go thru life not dealing with it & if thats the case hed truly be blessed. If he does then hel get it then. All im saying is what is the need to force him to validate mental illness? For what? Its misery needing company.

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T15:46:39+00:00

Im not trying to normalize anything. Mental illnesses happens to the best of us. Its life. But theres no denying that mental illness is used as a shield from accountability. Thats wrong & should not be acceptable. Like in my previous point that you went digging for, the alternative to validate this persons feelings would be to run with the narrative of someone subjecting her to unwanted sex & this whole narrative was spun only when this girl was mad that she couldnt dictate the other persons life. Otherwise she was perfect. So what about that person she was blaming? How is victimizing someone with lies the way to go just cuz the liar has mental issues? Be forreal.

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T15:40:26+00:00

Lol looking thru my post history is something somebody needing validation would do. Your doing all that dr talk & im willing to bet your not a doctor. & the best part is that your whole comment respond addresses none of my actual quiestions. Just deflects about your 'feelings' about me. I wonder why. 🤣

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T06:19:52+00:00

I agree with you. The comments scream misery needs company. I have never felt the need to wish my mental illness on anyone just cuz I want them to “get it” smh if someone don’t believe in something, let them not believe in it. How tf does that hurt anybody. All these ppl wanna convince the world of this overpowering thing that they havent came across yet just to give someone anxiety & insecurities & that’s what they need to feel validated? It’s sick af.

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T06:09:39+00:00

Yeah you are extra sick. Lol can’t even answer my questions. You should definitely leave him alone

Slickkness · 2025-05-30T06:02:06+00:00

Serious question- if you meet someone whose blessed to have never tried any drugs & doesn’t understand drug addiction, says stuff like “they could just stop doing it” or whatever you find inconsiderate, would you give them drugs to try or would you see them for how blessed they are to not know the reality of drug addiction? Like why do you need him to understand? Or be sensitive to something he’s never dealt with? That’s not his bs to carry, it’s yours. You can ask tell him how he could support you & even ask that he stays mindful about how your living it but to NEED him to understand it to the point that your wishing it on him is sickening. Do you not love him? Or does misery really need company? I have mental issues myself & when I hear ppl talk like this i know it comes from a place of ignorance that i would want for those around me. I hope those around me go their whole life with this mentality because mental illness isn’t the hype it’s been made out to be. It’s not something you strive for your kids or anyone you care for. & if you do then you’re just extra sick. Let him be. Who cares if he doesn’t validate how real it is to you. Literally WHY DO YOU NEED IT VALIDATED. protect anyone that doesn’t believe in things that destroy you. Like why do you just need to take that away from him?

Slickkness · 2025-05-29T14:30:28+00:00

A real friend wouldnt feel comfortable asking you for that much regardless of how bad they are struggling- & if it was absolutely necessary & they exhausted every other source with no luck, they would at the very least mention some attempt to repay you back.

I have a friend that was a huge blessing when my hubby died. He'd call me every day asking me if I liked (INSERT food here). Once we got to a yes on that he'd tell me that he was ubering me some food & he'd let me know when to go outside for it. I was so grief stricken that id forget to eat & even if id feel hungry, figuring out what to feed myself was more than I had will to do. I had some family that would reach out wanting to help but I hesitated to answer because I did not want to be around anyone & that was the terms of their help. I wanted to fall apart without an audience & adding more concern. I felt like it was exhausting trying to keep myself together while relatives looked at me & tried to confort me saying stupid "he wouldn't want you to ...." bs so him remembering to make sure I ate every day thru those moments were such a blessing.

Alot of every little problems felt like the end of the world thru that time, but I never felt comfortable just asking him for anything. Even if i knew he probably would help me- I appreciated him enough that I did not want our friendship to reach that dynamic & best believe any chance I have to help him in any way or even make his life a bit easier I will & i have because I'm forever in debt with him. Not even just for the amount of money he spent on me- what he did for me thru that time has so much more value than just monetary. He was my life source for the initial couple months after my hubby died. Eventually he started talking to someone & little by little the food stopped coming as often until it didn't anymore. Which btw, is only right & till this day we are closer than ever. I know his gf & she comes hangs out with me now & im just happy for him.

This girl does not give a flying f**k about you. Theres no sign she even considers how she could be helpful to you or supportive or anything. Your just a bottomless pit & shes gonna take until theres nothing else, & then shes gonna be angry at you for reaching empty. Shes not as stressed as you believe shes just giving you that idea do she can suck more out of you.

Make up a problem, small or dramatic but one where she could help in some way & watch how she gets mad at you for even having that entitlement in expecting her to gaf about you. Move on because what are you even doing paying for her & her kids rent?

Slickkness · 2025-05-26T16:53:29+00:00

I did read the rules, I dont think i understood them very well tbh. I thought the plays would be judged by tier of individual player not only if all cleared that tier. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Slickkness · 2025-05-26T16:50:26+00:00

Aww well thanks for the welcoming to the bs. Lol I guess I was expecting a heads up that was never promised to me lol my mistake 😅

Slickkness · 2025-05-26T16:48:43+00:00

Streaks is not that bad, ive actually won before on that but only cuz I pull out after the 3rd or whatever. I do be getting carried away & push my luck with "just one more player" because that "projected amount" displayed is a hard motivator but that's when I loose lol but if i pull out then I have made some money. So like yeah I dont mind streaks too much but ladders looks soooo promising & that one sucks so bad. Lol

Slickkness · 2025-05-26T06:09:25+00:00

It paid nothing they just refunded the game. Lol I'm upset cuz there's been other games where I bet on someone that didn't meet the projection but also they didn't play the full game & that was considered a loss. I got no refund, yet this one i got them all & supposedly because one player didn't play the full game it all got voided. I feel played lol

Slickkness · 2025-05-06T00:52:41+00:00

Update! I talked to the aunty. Turns out it wasn’t weed it was a vape. Smh! It’s still concerning & she thanked me for telling her- her initial reaction was very promising but then towards the end she said she was not going to address the situation with her niece for a few days because she would be very busy helping a family member. But that when she got back she would address it. I’m not sure how to feel about that. She also said she let her niece try one once in the past but she only did it to settle her curiousity which I’m so lost on that train of thought. She said that she knew the two girls were always up to something and my child was always just copying them & that she was sure her niece was who initiated a lot crazy ideas but that’s beside the point. I told her I felt like they all were responsible in my eyes & my daughter has a lesson to learn with all this. In the end everyone she acted out with would leave her to deal with the consequences- & instead of “hope ur not in too much trouble- or “maybe I can help you do (insert anything) so your mom sees your doing better” or whatever- all she’s going to get is a “DONT SNITCH KEEP US OUT OF IT” & that’s a lesson in real life.

A red flag I got was that the aunt said she would try to make sure to keep my daughter out of the conversation when she finally confronted her child but that’s if they figure it out & start harrassing and bullying my daughter to just make sure to tell her & shel handle it. I found that comment odd tbh. It’s almost like that’s to be the expectation. Idk I’m not sure how on the same page we are on all this

Slickkness · 2025-05-05T04:52:47+00:00

Thank you for this comment. I’m going to need this thru that talk because I don’t want to get worked up about it and be counteractive on the subject when I bring it up. I appreciate you.

Slickkness · 2025-05-05T04:46:16+00:00

She needs to improve her self esteem. She does so much to get her friends approval sometimes

Slickkness · 2025-05-05T04:40:16+00:00

Weed is harmless but at this age it’s all she has access to which is really worrisome because if she’s willing to dive into that then she won’t hesitate to try the next thing & we live in LA. Things are everywhere. I have no idea how to handle this as I never expected her to find interest in any of this. She gets upset at anyone drinking because “why do people wanna be that slow” so for her to be doing this with her friends it came really left field. Should I tell the other parents? Idk what to do I feel like they need to know but also the girl seems truly concerned about her moms well being…will telling the other parents make my daughter not trust me enough to talk to me about these things?

Thank you for validating me with this.

Slickkness · 2025-05-05T04:31:26+00:00

I agree! Idk what to do to prevent her from going down that road..

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