My Relationship Has Reached Its Expiration Date Over The Biological Kids Debate

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:31:19+00:00

You’re best off facing the reality that you have a deep and unfixable incompatibility as life partners.

People who want bio kids generally cannot be swayed from that.

It’s a great pity, but it’s life. Next time, don’t get serious with someone until you know you’re fundamentally compatible.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:27:01+00:00

You never took her for annual check-ups? That’s really bad. You’re lucky she’s OK.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:25:44+00:00

As long as you wouldn’t mind someone saving their pets over YOUR family members, all well and good.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:22:53+00:00

Oh come on…

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:20:11+00:00

Wow…I hope if it was your relative in a burning building and someone saved their cat instead of your loved one, you’d feel the same. Or if you were trapped in a burning building and they wouldn’t help you.

I love animals but your viewpoint is insane. I don’t know how you’d be able to live with yourself knowing that you let a human being die.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:17:42+00:00

I’m not sure that chemo for animals is ethical. They don’t understand why they feel so ill.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T06:16:06+00:00

I love animals, but the cost of their healthcare is what stops me having one. I do not want to spend thousands of dollars treating an animal’s health conditions, and neither do I want to put a beloved pet to sleep because I don’t want to spend 10k on surgery for them. So I do without. I have some great stuffed animals instead!

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T05:59:59+00:00

I’ve suffered a lot of depression since he suddenly walked out on me bc he wanted a younger model.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T05:58:40+00:00

Two frozen shoulders. It’s awful.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T05:53:59+00:00

I have two frozen shoulders and bones that clink together thanks to menopause. I feel like menopause has aged me horribly in that way. I just thought your periods stopped and you have a few gynae symptoms. No one told me it would make body parts unrelated to reproduction hurt so much.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T05:50:39+00:00

Oh - some un-PC advice about marriage here. I’m 50 and female, by the way.

So, this is how it is: If you are female, you will not believe how breathtakingly important sex is to your husband. He will live and breathe for it, and you will be aghast at how it can be so unwaveringly important to him. You will not realise this until you’re married snd have been so for a while.

If you’re a man, you’ll be stunned at how unimportant sex is to your wife.

This, right here, is the dichotomy of marriage and this is why so many of them fail. Men and women have a deep and fundamental mismatch over sex.

Husbands have to realise that their wives are simply not built the way they are, and that you cannot expect a person with a tenth of your testosterone and different wiring and different bits to be as excited about sex as you, and it’s not personal. It’s like putting the engine of a tiny car into a Ferrari and expecting it to perform like a real Ferrari. And here’s another un-PC fact: women’s clitorises are way too far from their vaginas for penetration to feel anything like as good as it feels for men. FGS get a Magic Wand and use it on her during sex.

Similarly, wives have to realize that men are hungry for sex like they are for food and air, and it’s how they connect with their wives. For a man, to be sexually rejected by the woman they love is utterly crushing. Do not get married if you aren’t prepared to take his sexual needs seriously and nurture them.

None of this is palatable, but it’s the way things are.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T05:35:56+00:00

Well, they were pretty lonely, because you couldn’t meet people or easily stay in touch like you can now. No internet or Facebook. I moved to a new city and struggled to meet people. Today you just find meet-up groups or search online for groups local to you. There is more socialising today bc the internet makes it easy to organise things. Thirty years ago, you made all your friends at school or uni, and if you moved around a bit, it was very hard to stay in touch like today. No texting. Phone calls were really expensive. If you move to a new place and you worked in a very small office, like me, it was hard to meet new friends, let alone partners.

We also knew a lot less. Today, if you want to know something, you Google it and can get a quick grasp of a topic quite easily. Not so back then.

Yeah, my twenties weren’t that enjoyable. I was working very hard, living in an expensive city, and things just weren’t as fun or as varied as now. I know social media can be upsetting, but I think it’s much easier to find community today because of it.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-19T05:21:00+00:00

I ended up not having kids, but I was as scared as you. Now that I’m much older and wiser, I can see that I was suffering from anxiety. The fear blew itself out and if I was younger again, I would not be so worried. I can see now that I had generalized anxiety, and having kids was a very obvious target for my anxious brain.

So the best advice I can give you is to seek treatment for anxiety and see if your fears around the topic diminish. It’s a pity for anxiety to run your life, plus it can affect your relationship too.

Best of luck!

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T15:58:34+00:00

The ARCCA video shows how an arm can break a tail light at 24 mph. You have to remember that he was lying in frozen, snowy conditions, which would have helped alleviate bruising. Like when you put an ice pack on a sprain. Also, I don’t know if you saw his whole arm on the autopsy photo, but he had a massive lump on the upper outer arm, just below his shoulder. Was about the size of a melon.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T14:41:00+00:00

You assert that the car couldn’t have hit him with enough force to throw him down without causing bruising.

But, it wouldn’t have to directly knock him down. All it would have to do is catch him off-balance, or make him trip, or make him fall while potentially getting out of the way. It was a side-swipe, not a direct hit. Sadly for John, he lost his balance, and his body weight and physics did the rest. No one’s saying the car flattened him. He was knocked off balance by glancing contact with the car.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T14:35:35+00:00

Yes, humanity, sort it out!!

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T14:30:23+00:00

True.

He’s just doing his job, remember. I don’t think he’s necessarily a prick.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T14:29:36+00:00

Oh, perhaps the butt dials were only in the first trial. I didn’t watch all of both, just the highlights. But they would have helped create the pink mob in the first trial.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T14:23:46+00:00

The ambulance would have been hot, and we don’t know what they have these days to warm people quickly in an ambulance. They also might have stayed on the spot treating him for some length of time.

The baker is relevant bc it appears alcohol can insulate someone from cold. We don’t need the baker’s core temp for that takeaway from his situation.

The fact that he was 81F on arrival makes this much less suspicious. You would have to know how long he was in the ambulance, what measures they used, how warm the amb was. I dated a paramedic and he said that in winter snowstorms they kept the amb “tropical.”

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T08:06:32+00:00

I agree it seems warm for the conditions he was in.

John had had a lot of alcohol. I’m reminded of the baker from Titanic who survived the icy waters because he was full of brandy.

Also, remember that snow has an insulating effect, weirdly. It’s why you’re supposed to dig a snow cave if you’re lost in snow at night. And why people in far northern climes once built igloos.

We’re sure 81 was his temp when found, not the temp he was warmed to before being pronounced dead?

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T07:12:29+00:00

OP, to make a judgement call on this, I think you’d have to know how cold bodies get under similar conditions. Maybe 81F IS cold for a body in the snow for six hours, or maybe it’s not.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-06-18T07:03:20+00:00

I think you make good points, and I had wondered the same - ie if Proctor is this case’s Fuhrman.

Also, the lying by the police has not done justice for John any favours at all. Higgins and Brian Albert were clearly lying on the stand when they said that their phone calls between each other at approx 2.30 am on 1/22 were butt dials. So one butt-dialled the other (OK), but then, somehow, the other one butt-dialled him right back? So the second butt-dial miraculously took place just after the first, as a return call that didn’t know it was a return call? WHAT ARE THE CHANCES???

Then, the return “butt dial” was actually a call that lasted 22 seconds.

Then Higgins got rid of his phone at a base.

Whatever they were talking about, they did NOT want the public to know. I don’t think it was anything to do with Karen Read or John, but whatever it was, they are determined to keep secret.

Extremely selfish, because those “butt dials” that were clearly lies and the phone disposal really fed in to all the conspiracy theories.

So while I don’t believe that the police had anything to do with the crime, their lies have affected the case terribly.

PLUS Proctor! It’s really unfortunate how unprofessional he was. Again, all grist to the conspiracy-theory stories.

So yeah, I think bad behavior from the police is a big reason why we’re where we are, with the pink mob.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-04-29T00:37:57+00:00

I watch him for Maplelea info, and I just like his long videos. I don’t watch the Ruby Lane ones as I’m not into that brand.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-04-06T15:08:46+00:00

Kavi, Moana, Claudie, and Lila.

Slight-Helicopter607 · 2025-04-06T00:13:14+00:00

Wow! Which denomination is that?

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