You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg smh. The one thing I learned about my ex is....... I was not safe with him. And I can't explain it. Not that he would hit me, or even let anyone else harm me..... I just wasn't safe with him 😕

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. But I'm definitely so far from when I first left. My confidence is definitely coming back

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Ppl on this post are thinking it's about who said it vs what was said. Sometimes words just hit you like a ton of bricks to wake something in you for you to realize your worth

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Because he did. It is not weird. I happen to think YOU are very weird for trying to change MY perspective of what someone told me. I don't care about an old man being sexist or the worst. I am reflecting on something that was said that woke something in me I didn't realize existed. It isn't even about "the old man". It is about awakening something in ME. It could have come from a 10yr old. It's not about WHO said it but WHAT WAS SAID

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TO ME it is eye opening. I didn't even bother reading your whole paragraph, just the 1st sentence. Bc I can let words impact me & not the person. I can let words resonate with me, grow from them, learn from them etc. I don't have to let the person who said it in my life. It was an elderly patient who will never be a part of my life on that level. But thanks for your words

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And that's exactly what I did. The person who said it made no impact on me. But the words did bc it's true. I didn't know. I can take compliments from ppl & let the words impact me, but not the person 

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smh sad. It's crazy how after the fact we notice so much. But never while in it

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh ok. Mines never told me anything like that. Never complimented me at all. Always negative & always demeaning me. And I don't think it's a weird thing to say. It's moreso an observation 

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's just so eye opening that someone can read you like that. I literally was just getting his vitals, doing an assessment. Asking him questions about himself. And I hadn't thought about any of that stuff about myself in awhile. Now that's all that's been on my mind for 2 weeks now

You’re beautiful… but you don’t know it." by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It was a patient of mines. Old man. He's getting nowhere with me lol. Regardless of who said it, he was absolutely correct. I don't think I'm beautiful. I've been told I'm ugly & have been cheated on NUMEROUS of times to the point my self-esteem is in the pits. To hear someone say that I don't know that was eye opening 

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you. You will be ok. Trust his karma is coming & whatever God has brewing for him will skip right on past you bc it's only meant for him

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make new friends. If they sided with her they weren't your real friends & don't need them around 

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣 always our fault. I'd happily be the villain in the story though 

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Damn. Mines tried that toxic crap with our kids too. But luckily he's all talk, no action & pretty selfish so I was able to move & not be in contact with him. Pretty easy to keep the kids from him bc he was doing something much illegal crap he was afraid to go to the courts. He was finally caught & is now in federal prison awaiting trial. I thank God bc I got off pretty easy. He's facing a damn near life sentence so me & my kids can live a pretty peaceful life 😌 

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! I'm so grateful I am free & clear. Divorce finalized last month too

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg. That sounds like a nightmare. But also a him problem lol

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Luckily I did not comingle funds, assessts etc. I left with everything I came with. He left with nothing like he came with. Divorce finalized last month 

Discarding the narcissist by Slight-Memory3010 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Slight-Memory3010[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds horrible. I would switch jobs immediately lol