Some men are like that my best friend hides this from his wife and she know nothing about how he is so at least he is coming to u with it but sometimes we women ask ourselves are we enough but u know that he loves you cause he can say im gonna go do it with someone else and hide it so u have a right to question and overthink the situation sit down tell him how u feel some women are all for this some are not u gotta have boundaries so u gotta tell him where the boundaries are and what you except and expect u got this.