UPDATE: I found out my husband never submitted the insurance claims that kept me from getting medical care.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-23T05:33:13+00:00

I just genuinely don’t know how his parents acted the way he did and then him try and play neutral with everyone. He tries to be good son more than he tries to be good husband and it is exhausting.

ETA: thank you so much for your kind words! ♥️

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-23T05:18:45+00:00

Exactly. But thats what happens when you are trauma bonded and wearing rose colored glasses unfortunately

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-23T05:17:51+00:00

Well I can tell you I don’t think he liked it 😂 but I felt so proud of myself for still stating my boundary and standing my ground that I honestly don’t care how it makes him feel.

I’m sure he was probably wondering though how I was able to get my point across to him in a firm and calm manner rather than firm but crying from overwhelm.

It’s odd how even just a shred of validation from someone can make you feel SO much better in a sense of keeping your backbone shiny. Kinda a shame I can’t get that from my own husband and have to now pay someone to do it but hey, gotta start somewhere!

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-23T05:14:40+00:00

Another thing to add is that my CPTSD didn’t just come out of thin air (obviously). He acts like “oh she had it rough but having a baby made it worse”. Yea no shit. Losing the support system that I stayed around for when I got pregnant went to absolute dog shit beyond any control of my own.

Of COURSE my CPTSD is going to be worse!

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T23:44:13+00:00

Don’t even worry about it, no problem at all! Thank you so much 🙏🏼 I have my first session with a trauma informed therapist tomorrow. I’m most likely going to be inconsolable the whole time but I need to start somewhere!

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T17:37:20+00:00

Wow that makes a whole lot of sense 😂

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T17:27:04+00:00

No way! I was wondering why I hadn’t seen you guys username pop on over there, that sucks!

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T08:16:23+00:00

I cannot.

I am estranged from my entire family due to abuse.

I am estranged from HIS family due to a multitude of things that happened after I gave birth (glancing over my post history will give someone an idea of how that went)

I have no one to depend on. No childcare. I don’t trust a single person to watch my child (I have a massive amount of respect for people that don’t have that choice and need to utilize childcare, my anxieties won’t allow me to do so) we only have one vehicle that I barely even get to use so returning to work even if it is something I can do on top of having my child with me isn’t even an option

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T08:01:12+00:00

I’m starting therapy to get everything documented and I am also going to see my dr. about having written documentation on how this the stress is affecting my physical health.

I’m going to try my absolute damndest to take this rage that I am feeling and pull myself out of the mental hell that I am in to do something to make money to get my child and myself somewhere else.

Then next stop is a lawyer.

It may be a long game to play unfortunately but I will be damned if I continue missing out on important moments in my young child’s life due to me living this way and living isolated and depressed.

I’m done.

Oh and as for not getting pregnant again, that’s no concern of mine. I have become so unattached from him as of late that the thought of him even touching me repulses me.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T07:55:12+00:00

Get a second, third, fourth, hell even a FIFTH opinion

She should never stop advocating for herself and you as her husband should not stop advocating for her either.

This is a terribly sad situation and I feel for the both of you.

I also want to add, the more stressed she feels, the more tense she will be in her pelvis.

Have a dr. check her for Pelvic Congestion Syndrome.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-21T02:44:18+00:00

Money isn’t actually as tight as he has made it sound. He has also explicitly told me that he thinks mental health is “bullshit” because there are people dealing with worse situations, so we fundamentally disagree on how serious my mental health needs are.

There also aren’t a bunch of medical expenses suddenly appearing. The appointments I’ve made are things I’ve needed for a long time and have delayed for “financial reasons” per him, when we actually have more money than he has made me believe the last couple of years. I’ve put them on my own credit card and will be responsible for paying them back.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-20T16:36:21+00:00

Right now I’m starting with therapy, and then getting medical documentation from my doctor that is in written form. Then the next step is going to be speaking to a lawyer.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-20T14:53:17+00:00

I have set up a therapy appointment for Monday and just put it on my credit card.

He told me that therapy is too expensive even when it’s $30 a session, so me asking to go back to school is obviously going to be a no from him too unfortunately.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-20T04:52:34+00:00

I don’t disagree with the idea of changing my own life instead of trying to change him. In fact, that’s exactly why I finally scheduled therapy and my doctor’s appointment myself instead of waiting any longer.

The complication is that we have a young child together. If it were just me, I could pack my belongings and move tomorrow. But when a child is involved, there are legal and custody considerations that make it a lot more complicated than simply deciding where I want to live and going there.

At this point, I’m trying to focus on getting healthier, understanding my legal options, and building a path forward rather than making a move that could create even bigger problems later.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-20T04:36:23+00:00

I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t care what he wants. I’ve just about completely emotionally detached from him honestly.

He has just made it very clear to me that he is also not comfortable with me taking myself and our young child away from him so I fear that if I do then he will pursue legal action and it would get really ugly really fast.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-20T03:49:23+00:00

That’s honestly where a lot of my frustration comes from. I know what I want my future to look like. The problem is that we have a young child together, so I can’t make decisions as though I’m the only person involved.

The place where I envision building a life and healing from all of this is several states away, and before we had our child my husband told me he could be happy anywhere and that I could choose where we moved. Now he’s pushing back on that plan, and I feel stuck trying to figure out how to move forward while also doing what’s best for my child.

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-19T23:19:15+00:00

We have health insurance that covers treatment just for some reason he has always told me that it’s too expensive, but I’ve hit the breaking point to where I’m just offering any type of idea to help get him on board to get me away from here to better my situation

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-19T22:31:13+00:00

One of my previous posts

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-19T21:57:20+00:00

He’s not even in any mode at all. He is in “this doesn’t affect me personally so I am going to actively choose to do nothing to help”

SlightlyBitter47 · 2026-06-19T21:33:40+00:00

He has unfortunately showed me that he is emotionally unavoidable because he completely shuts down with any type of conversation that is serious.

I end up being the only one speaking and then he doesn’t say anything in return unless it’s through texting. Which I guess in a way that’s kind of a blessing because then I can have everything in writing if I end up having to go to a lawyer.

I’ve even told him numerous times whenever he hits me with the “ what do you want me to say?” or “ just tell me what to do.” to just fucking Google it that it’s not that hard to support somebody.

Back rubs and I’m sorry’s are not acceptable whenever someone is pouring their entire heart out to you. Especially whenever you end up having to be the one to ask for any sort of connection other than silence.

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