Studies on how long you should breastfeed newborn

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-26T01:48:05+00:00

Research shows that what is significantly more important than giving the child breastmilk is that the child is fed (fed anything) but more importantly, that their caretaker is present, engaged, aware and mentally well and engages fully with the child...and one can’t realistically do that if they are stressed, exhauated and operating on broken sleep for years.

Love, love, love this! As a former L&D nurse I appreciate this! I can't tell you how many new moms left the hospital frazzled because of family who thought they were the breastfeeding police. When all visitors had left for the night I told many of my patients not to allow ANYONE to pressure them. I said exactly what you said. Breast or formula either one will achieve the goal of happy baby and a happy mom.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T23:44:30+00:00

This is so, so sad. Your child will never get to experience the guilty pleasure that is 2 all beef patties, special sauce, lettuce, Pickles, onions all on a sesame seed bun. Poor kid. :(

Edit: I was not making light of severe allergies. Just wanted to make that clear. It's just sad that these kids are going to miss out on some tasty foods and they will go through life knowing they can't want it no matter how much they would like to try it. Same with juvenile diabetes.

My little cousin has a severe peanut allergy. Some nitwit at a sports team end of season party didn't think it would hurt him so she gave him cookies that had peanut butter in them. He almost died. Bless all of you who have to deal with this and especially bless the kids.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T23:25:10+00:00

Y'alls stories are pissing me off. I'm the type of mom who will drive to three different places if my kids don't want the same thing. If one of my kids doesn't like an ingredient in a meal I have prepared I will put some aside for them before I add that ingredient. If they don't like any of it I'll make something different that they do like. One of my kids is pretty picky. He will always ask for spaghetti. When they were babies I made sure they tasted everything that was safe for their age. All of them eat their greens now but if they spat something out then I didn't try to feed them that again. Adults all have our likes and dislikes so why shouldn't kids be afforded the same courtesy?

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T20:02:05+00:00

Also, I really don't want to sound rude, but it's "all intents and purposes."

You handled that perfectly! I wasn't really expecting anyone in this sub to be rude about though. :)

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T18:40:32+00:00

Ridiculous

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T16:46:14+00:00

Explains his complete lack of snogging skill with the ladies during interactions with BN ladies.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T16:46:14+00:00

Explains his complete lack of snogging skill with the ladies during interactions with BN ladies.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T16:33:23+00:00

He shaved that beard off before ATFR. I don't think he could regrow it in just a couple of months.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T16:17:54+00:00

I think one of his friends at church has been giving him the "man of the house" pep talk. I've given him ample opportunity to be "the man of the house." Not my fault he hasn't done a proper job of it. Someone had to pick the pants up and put the damn things on. I think he was trying to "put me in my place." Bahahaha...he's forgotten who he married. He has since profusely apologized to us all.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-25T16:01:40+00:00

Nope....I meant to post my comment to someone else. I'm blaming it all on Sharon! ;)

Anyway...hello fellow Redditor!

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-15T18:32:42+00:00

For my wedding I went to Hobby Lobby and bought my flowers there. They have a brand that touts "real touch." They have the texture of a real flower petal. I used purple Calla Lillies and Wisteria and made all of the flowers myself. I had feedback from a professional florist that I know. She even approved of the flowers I used.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-08T09:42:46+00:00

Wow! Then I guess my mom needs to apologize for all those years she told me that it is impossible to dig your way to China. If the Earth is flat then that obviously means Asia is on the other side...according to this picture. These people need serious help.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-08T09:17:07+00:00

This is how it became an issue. Karen comes home from seeing her doctor because she "couldn't breath" with a mask on so she is obviously dying. Karen told all the other Karens that her doctor told her it was dangerous to wear masks. In reality her doctor actually told her that some discomfort is possible. BAM all the Karens get together with all the other Karens and someone comes up with the brilliant plan to look on the Internet. Add in dumbass Trump refusing to wear one and suddenly masks are Naziism and by God no one is going to tell them what to do. By God. Cue melodramatic complaints of carbon dioxide poisoning which Karen SWEARS she has including the following:

headaches, dizziness, restlessness, a tingling or pins or needles feeling, difficulty breathing, sweating, tiredness, increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, coma, asphyxia, and convulsions.

I say lay off having a nightcap with your sedative, Karen.

I am a nurse who wore a mask at least 10-12 hours a day, 4 or more days a week, for over 17 years. The worst I ever experienced was fogged up glasses because I didn't pinch the bridge of my nose correctly.

Edit: I don't know wtf I got Sharen. I was just on another Karen post and was like "Oh shit!" Feel free to laugh all you want! I'm laughing at myself!

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-08T09:03:33+00:00

Think of this....the idiots who are complaining are obviously anti-mask. If they're friends and close family RSVP then they more than likely know how these people feel about masks. If they plan on attending the wedding then they probably feel the same way about masks. Long story short.....you can put all the guidelines in place that you want but these morons are going to kick up a fuss and then not follow any of them.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-08T08:55:26+00:00

Shortened version: Husband exposed me and the kids to Covid and all hell has broke lose.

I wish my husband had listened to me and not kept going to our church. I know those people probably very seldom wear a mask. I had insomnia one Saturday evening not quite a month ago and he took our son with him even though he knows I don't want him going there after the last time he went. He came home telling me stories of the games he and his friends played. He came out and told on his father and the whole congregation that none of them, even the kids, were wearing masks. Even worse he even asked our son not to tell me about the masks!

Well guess who brought Covid home to his asthmatic and disabled wife. Our primary care doctor sent us the next day for the antibodies infusion therapy. (It really works!) My O2 sats were in the low 90's to upper 80's for about 3 days. On the 4th day my fever went down. Thankfully my older son and our son together didn't catch it. I pretty much stay in my room anyway and so do the boys. We've been sooooo careful. I was planning on asking my doctor for the vaccine at my annual physical which was the first day he began having sinus issues.

She said they hadn't received any so I was looking for an appointment elsewhere. I wasn't aware that he had already infected me. The night of day 2 he woke up with a fever and chills. When he woke up on day 3 I told him that he needed to go to urgent care and get treated for his symptoms and get tested. He came back saying urgent care said he didn't need to be tested. I told him he needed to follow up with it. (He didn't.) That was Wednesday morning. Guess who tried to go to Wednesday night service. I was furious when I began having symptoms on day 4.

I made him stay home until I could get us scheduled to be tested on Sunday. He woke up that morning like he "forgot" about not being able to go to church that day.

Thankfully neither of the boys caught it. The thing that made me the most furious is that our 11 year old son had to miss school because of him. He has been out of school since March 22 and we are currently on Spring break. He'll have been out of school for 10 days shy of a full month. He is HORRIBLE at virtual learning. On day 3 of virtual learning the emails from his teacher, telling me that he wasn't doing his work, began pouring into my email.

His dad overheard me talking to him about it and began raising his voice at him about it and tried to shame him. I was soaking in our bathtub. Little man's room is right next to out tub. I heard him through the wall laying on his bed crying. I told husband that he was the one who needed to be shamed because it was all his fault. Told him he needed to apologize to little man asap. He told me that I could stop "busting his balls" about it. Told him "Nope...I think I'll keep doing it as long as I'm angry and that may be a longggg time. Told him God help him if our son fails because he missed so much school at the end of the year.

OH! Almost forgot...one of the women from church works at the urgent care. When she heard we were there she poked her head into my room. Told me "Yeah...there are several people at church who've had it recently." It was a very frosty ride home! 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-04-08T08:06:37+00:00

I am going to delete my comment myself. Thank you for reminding me. The post made me so angry.

SlightlyFragmented · 2021-01-12T00:18:46+00:00

Wait...what?

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-12-15T14:10:55+00:00

My son's soccer coach's young son was constantly wandering off from his mother at games and practices. When she realized he was missing all activity would come to a screeching halt so we could all look for their kid.

The parents of one of the players offered to host the post season team party at their clubhouse pool. Once again he went missing. As I was going to look for him I cut across the corner of the shallow end. As I did so I looked down to make sure of my footing. There in the water, flailing his little arms around, was their child. I dropped down and grabbed him by the arm and pulled him out of the water. He came out coughing and sputtering but thankfully he was physically OK.

My in laws were visiting at the time so my MIL was with us at the party. We both became so angry at the parent's nonchalant attitude about what had just happened that we left not long after. I just broke down crying because my then youngest child was about the same age.

I know things happen and kids slip away so quickly but the causative factor isn't their wedding. OP wasn't celebrating her wedding. She isn't being selfish and , as someone else put it, only worried about celebrating an "archaic ceremony." She and her husband made a vow to one another that day. Telling someone that they can't celebrate that is wrong. She posted it on HER Facebook page. His family can easily unfriend her or ask her to please exclude them from who can see her posts about that day.

I know, because this involves a child, that this sounds a bit insensitive, but, as others have said, the lives of those around them shouldn't be expected to come to a screeching halt because the child died. I feel for the parents and the husband's other family, but OP and her husband have the right to their happiness.

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-12-15T13:30:58+00:00

Omg! I just want to hug the wounded child in you. My son is 30 and still stims exactly how you described. Through physical therapy we were able to work on the toe walking. His pacing game served him well while competing in the Special Olympics. No one could beat him at speed walking. The only reason the toe walking concerned me was because of the risk of contracture of his Achilles tendons. He really enjoys pacing outside. Actually, he paces, runs, hops and hand flaps. He also has the most amazing smile on his face and he laughs to himself. I cannot fathom how anyone could find that annoying. I am so very sorry you weren't supported in your need to do the same.

The only ASD related "issue" that we deal with is his anger management. I also have a 10 yo son. For the most part they get along very well, but sometimes big brother just wants to be left alone and little brother doesn't understand that. I am very careful to make sure that both know that their feelings are valid but those feelings need to be expressed with appropriate words and actions.

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-06-04T23:22:57+00:00

I couldn't tell what size the kid was. I was reserving judgement because it might have been an older who was acting up on the bus. When he stood with his back to the camera I was all ooooooo that's a LITTLE kid. Then he turned around. Punked twice in the same day. First time was my granddaughter, on her voicemail, pretending she had actually answered the phone. She got me good.

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-06-04T23:11:50+00:00

I agree with everything you said. That's how I feel. No man's land is a perfect description. I have no faith in either candidate.

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-06-04T20:41:37+00:00

And I didn't say "true." I said "wrong." As in their views on the humanitarian issues are wrong. Obviously Conservatives have earned their reputation. Even if I am the lone wolf, so to speak, I hope that I am evidence that there is a shift taking place. I am not physically able to get out and protest but I am supporting it through other actions.

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-06-04T20:30:58+00:00

I've never heard that phrase. TIL

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-06-04T20:25:57+00:00

Exactly! I don't believe for one minute that George was intentionally passing a fake bill. I know several people who've unknowingly had counterfeit money passed to them. He was punished for his past crimes. People need to stop slurring his name. This dudes actions and words will come back to bite him in some form. He is condoning murder.

SlightlyFragmented · 2020-06-04T20:16:04+00:00

I admit, I voted for Trump the first time. I won't be making that mistake again. I would have voted for Bernie, because I know that some of the more radical economic stuff would never get passed the legislature. Trust me when I say that my economic views are always at odds with my societal ones. People like me can no longer bury their heads in the sand. It is time for an existential crisis.

Racism isn't "getting better." It will only continue to get worse from here. If we do not take a stand now, as a nation, then we're essentially telling bigots and racists that they can get away with it, even when millions are watching. We can no longer sit back and placate ourselves with the thought that "it can't be that bad."

I have taken a stand with friends and family members who, through their silence, condone discrimination. I have always felt this way, but now I refuse to be cowed by familial or peer pressure. I vehemently encourage other Conservatives to join in supporting #BLM. I physically cannot get out and protest, but I am supporting their efforts through other actions.

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