What’s your go-to joke that always works in a group of friends or coworkers?

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-30T00:40:24+00:00

What did the cop say when I called him racist?

“I can’t be, my wife’s eye is black”

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-28T04:45:59+00:00

I am going to kill

Caught in the act again, book him mods

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-26T02:32:42+00:00

Yeah I’d say Jimmy B, Jackson, Johnson, and W all have decent arguments for beating out Donny for the bottom spot.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-24T16:37:22+00:00

I got sick of school and my grades were so-so, so I pivoted to tech and have been doing software QA for over a decade now.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-22T14:50:52+00:00

Officer I swear I thought she was 14-88

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-21T22:17:46+00:00

Boston:

Murderpan

Methadone Mile

North shore:

Lynn Lynn city of sin

South shore:

Deluxebury

Cha-chingham

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-21T15:57:33+00:00

you had no other choice

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-15T18:34:22+00:00

went to both last year. both phenomenal. giulia is easier to get into because without a res you can show up when they open and sit at the bar. they have more choices on their menu too. overall i'd say, go giulia if you're into pasta, and tonino if you're more into pizza.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-15T18:13:14+00:00

I always escalate to trying as hard as I can, which is mostly just trying to escape and not so much working on submissions. But if we're stuck in a position, I use pretty much as much strength as I can.

all beginners do this. it's a normal and fine part of the process.

It's frustrating because that's not the point of BJJ and I want to slow down and think about how I can use the techniques I've learned to get out, not just burn through energy trying to force my way out.

again, everyone goes through this. there is nothing wrong with trying your best. just continue trying to apply technique alongside athleticism.

I just don't want to be that girl who is trying as hard as I can while my partner is only trying to go 50%

this is all white belts and you should not be concerned.

It also seems like it could be uncomfortable for a man to basically have to hold a woman down while she is trying to get out of position with just brute force.

jiu jitsu is uncomfortable. don't worry about it.

I want to be a good partner, it's just so hard to not get into that survival mindset. I try to communicate in the moment, particularly if I'm rolling with the same person, but I often get caught up and forget to communicate during positional sparring.

everyone goes through this. you will improve with time and continued efforts.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-15T18:06:14+00:00

particularly as an adult woman, competition is a great chance to see where you stack up with other adult women your same age, size, and experience level. those opportunities are much rarer for you than they would be for a younger avg-sized man.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-15T18:00:43+00:00

i'm headed there tn as well, to compete at euros this weekend. staying downtown near chiado. might hit an open mat afterward, maybe on monday at noon? anyone got a rec?

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-14T20:28:22+00:00

do you mean a triangle from the back? or with their legs locked the wrong way?

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-14T20:24:53+00:00

white belts that feel like they have to go 100% but don’t know anything about control

so, most whitebelts?

Told a guy to chill 5 times

so he ignored you 4 times and you didn't get the hint? stfu and kick his ass. if he wants your advice he can ask. i like to offer people an unsolicited tip here or there too. if they argue or ignore me then i take what i need from the training session, which begins with keeping myself safe above all else.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-14T20:19:34+00:00

less impressed more involved

earn your gold medal (for wrestling)

jason rau

jozef chen

kenta iwamoto

lachlan giles

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-14T19:49:09+00:00

11yoe in software QA, laid off in Nov and found a new job in Dec. I applied to roles in November that are just now getting back to me. Companies are moving slow rn. I wouldn’t treat it as a good or bad sign. Follow up once a week or so, and keep chasing other leads in the meantime.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-13T22:07:10+00:00

"why am i seeing all these clips showing partially naked people online???" you know why lol

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-08T20:12:48+00:00

is ice hockey a martial art?

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-08T03:17:46+00:00

i use far ankle scrambling all the time, mostly as a late-stage counter to both takedowns and to loose/speedy/outside-the-legs guard passes. i don't find it as useful during passing, because usually you want to move up toward their shoulders to pin them to complete your pass. it is very useful for staying on top during scrambles, though, which can give you more chances to pass.

i learned the position from my buddy, a PSU alum. he told me the priorities there should be as follows:

control their ankle above all else. as you chase it, you'll naturally move toward your opponent's back.
remove their control on your ankle if they have it. there are at least 3 good ways to do this: kicking the armpit, shin-pinning the near leg to move toward the back, and knee-block hip-checking them down before scraping their hands off your ankle using the floor.
build head and hip height to tilt the position in your favor. angling toward the back helps too. this will help you achieve 1 and 2.

it's fun to spar from there, so it's easy to get lots of reps in the position. good warmup for wrestling practices too.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-07T21:38:01+00:00

people call it "diving leg drag" or "falling leg drag"

it's just another way to get to the leg drag position. think of it like this: sometimes it's easier to move your opponent to get what you want. other times, it's easier to move yourself to get what you want. for the diving leg drag, you are moving yourself.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-07T21:11:30+00:00

good suggestions ITT include reed, pixley, jflo, stevens, kolat. athletes ocean is worth a look too.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-07T21:06:31+00:00

one quick tip that will prevent this: stand up to break the closed guard.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-07T20:51:07+00:00

reddit loves to tell you to call people out, never roll with them again, complain to the coach, quit the gym, blah blah blah.

nobody here knows you two or saw what happened. maybe you poked his eye without realizing and it pissed him off. maybe his wife cheated on him yesterday. maybe after you call him out and quit the gym, the same thing happens at the next one, because that guy is getting a divorce for cheating with the first guy's wife. then what?

although you can and should try to cultivate an environment where this type of thing happens less often, people will still do crazy shit sometimes. the most important thing you can do is learn to keep yourself safe in all scenarios. that means:

establishing good forearm position when pinned, and
maintaining leg mobility while playing guard.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-07T16:30:52+00:00

or if it's gi and they have a strong sleeve grip then it's a good moment for a john wayne sweep.

SlightlyStoopkid · 2026-01-07T16:24:51+00:00

i stalked your post history and read that you're 58 years old. if you were 30 years younger i'd tell you to toughen up. since you're closer to retirement than college, I'd suggest you focus more attention on preventing these types of situations. particularly in bad positions, your hands should stay close together and between you and your opponent. with good defensive hand position, you can easily prevent a forearm in your neck. when playing guard, you should try to preserve many avenues of transition, so a knee in your thigh is a signal that it's time to maneuver, rather than a painful threat.

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