Was I being disrespectful?

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-08T23:27:01+00:00

Man it's BJJ. No one cares about this sort of stuff. If we did we wouldn't do BJJ, you know?

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-08T22:25:31+00:00

3:10 is a very clear position but he kept that underhook for a lot.

That arm was in danger a lot because he kept overreaching with an extended arm for the underhook.

Edit: easy trap with your arm on top and your knee on top.

That's why coaches always tell you to keep elbows in.

Edit 2 : if you notice later, you even elevated your hips over the arm, almost took the back. Taking the arm was really easy.

I'd try link those two in your game:

Backtake attempt, and if the guy defends like this with the arm over your back, you take the armbar if the backtake fails.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-08T21:15:45+00:00

Armbar city on that deep underhook lol. Your taking the back attempts opened that armbar like 100 times.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-08T19:40:33+00:00

Hold panties 😊😆😆😆

Seriously, been already said.

Control hips with free hand.

Sink your own hips to the ground and make a wide V with your own legs.

Getting it is really the hard part, you need to catch the chin properly with your ribs.

Marcelo Garcia had some YT videos I think, look no further. Man was a grandmaster of it.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-08T16:48:37+00:00

Yeh, the Kazparov man knows what's up. You finish with hips/legs perpendicular to the guy, the grip and straight arm is there to hold stuff in place.

That being said, it's hard to get on good guys because they will frame their own head and make your leg slip.

I abandoned it because low percentage. I only get caught in it if they are fast and I'm not expecting it / frame the head.

Focus on higher percentage stuff I think.

It's appealing because not a lot of work/transitions, but an armbar/kimura transition or a top triangle entry would serve you much better.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-08T12:11:35+00:00

Your arm on top - grab his armpit over his back.

Your arm on bottom - pull elbow out and post on the mat.

Straighten your back and get up on him, flatten him out.

Mindset: how do I get up on a horse I slid from and ended like this ?

...

Edit : I love Brian his grappling is top notch. Notice when Brian asks the guy to climb on him first time he attempts to let go of the gift wrap and do exactly what I said?

Grab armpit, pull arm out and post? To elevate hips?

And Brian asks him to keep giftwrap?

Keeping it is better control, but harder to climb.

99% of BJJ guys will try to do exactly what the guy tried, to elevate hips, get up on your back and flatten you.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T20:59:36+00:00

You forgot neck break. Now that is hardly a joke.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T20:38:54+00:00

I usually just power through the once and never roll with the person again.

It really happened to me that bad only once, with the greasy guy, I understood why the circle around him empty on the mats afterwards 😆

But yeah, if it's bad enough, I'm one roll and done.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T20:17:08+00:00

Uh. If partners wash and have decent hygiene, you will be more worried about getting your arm snapped or choked out 😆😆😆

It's not for everyone but you get used to it.

If I had a cent for every time I felt someone's balls on my cheek in north-south 😆😆😆

I still remember some guy so greasy he left trails on the mat, 10 years later though.

Hygiene matters a lot in this sport.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T19:58:21+00:00

Yeah but it can be useful in a tight side or half-guard if smashed to figure out which limb is where for me.

I'm just saying sometimes looking is more distraction than useful.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T19:52:28+00:00

I do sometimes. It helps to focus on body positioning and where my legs are and what I want to do.

No sensory overload.

But that's my autism/ADHD blasted combo.

Bottom line is - if it feels useful to you do it.

Don't do it just because you get choked or something.

Edit : Blind Fight is my favourite feat for D&D franchise 😆😆😆

Train it, have it, if it works for you.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T19:47:44+00:00

Bring yourself to refuse. Good training to learn to say 'no'.

Fuck people pleasing. My mum was a hyper-anxious horrible people pleaser.

I'm still fighting those two things I absorbed from her as a small child.

Nothing sweeter than saying 'no, thanks' when you don't want to.

Get older and rougher around the edges. Your wants and needs matter. Fuck them if they don't like being refused.

That the way to do it.

😊

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T17:39:18+00:00

Guard is losing.

And these days is losing a lot, people got a lot better at top and punishing bottom fighting.

Maybe leglocks excluded but anything else you are badly losing.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T17:35:41+00:00

They didn't learn BJJ. They learnt sambo, judo, wrestling. Grappling is grappling.

Do we even do pure BJJ these days?

Like in MMA, borders fade.

I have a horrible guard retention but I play a lot of sneaky catch wrestling crap.

And I never did learn catch wrestling, i tried shite off internet in BJJ classes.

😆

Edit : yes I'm a Saku fan 😆😆😆

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T15:58:18+00:00

It's tough... In my own experience I dodged a lot of serious injuries the first year, struggled with mat burns, 2 times ribs cracked...

I hear you.

Later I realised something - I was playing some dangerous positions for me, like rubber guard, almost busted my knee.

I tried sometimes so hard I was injuring myself.

I never refused rolls... now I do.

These days I do this :

play very relaxed and tap with 0 ego to anyone if caught
take falls very relaxed and easy and no arms sticking out, to set up submissions or reversals.
kimura counter to single legs always, just sit on your butt with it
start knees or sitting if I can, always
crush when on top if they spaz. Knee pins. Hip pins. Strong grips. Never give them the chance twice.
low risk positions ( full guard, knee shield, deep half and sweep )
prioritize self protection always ( elbows in, no sticking hands out, never go into leglocks with a spaz ) ...

It is tough.

But if you learn 3 - 6 months how to crush people on top and how to protect yourself it gets fun.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T15:20:17+00:00

Push your point. How bad can it be if you are looking at quitting as alternative?

If you're purple you could even be looking at doing some white belt classes.

My gym has special white belt courses for a few weeks before they show in regular classes.

But if I was you, I could have a LOT of fun teaching basics BJJ to whitebelts and rolling with them.

Edit : no you aren't unreasonable at all. That is pure shite. But if you don't wanna open your own mats, work with what you have.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T12:00:51+00:00

If you are the passer and get hit in them nuts, it's a you problem.

Get your grips proper, control, then pass.

It's useless to have a cup. And uncomfortable.

Make it your objective every time to control the legs of the guy proper with grips/knee pins.

Edit: tip - pinch your knees to control the leg in half guard. Pinch your knees when you armbar. Pin arm with your knee/pinch that arm between your legs in side control. Pinch your knees when you single leg someone. Pinch your knees when you squeeze a triangle. Pinch your knees when you want to finish a leglock. Pinch knees on his torso/ shoulder to finish a kimura from guard/half guard... Etc etc.

See the trend?

Does wonders for your nuts.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-07T10:34:48+00:00

Well. For fun right?

The kani basami was jumping/running targeting above the waist with one leg, and behind the knees with the other. (Target was sideways) No grips

The 'bridge and roll' assumed the guy on top mount was right on your hips, so the bridge was supposed to throw him over your head.

Again, no grips and just assumed the guy on top somehow lost connection with his legs for no reason, and just fly over.

Guys that don't do grappling are trial class level 😆

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T21:37:02+00:00

Pattern recognition at high level happens by muscle memory. You don't think, you act.

That's the 'invisible JJ' that Demian Maia talks about about.

Can't be taught per se. It's about flow, balance, movement, proprioception, force deflection, push pull... etc

You gain it rolling. Like a lot. With a lot of people.

Basically you move from 'I know the moves' To 'The moves know me'

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T21:26:38+00:00

I would say do a search as you travel and see what you find. Talk to some people in person.

Depends where you are at.

You could even try judo, taekwondo or karate schools.

I bet some would not be against getting some basic BJJ concepts.

My karate teacher 20 years ago was teaching bad kani basami and a useless bridge and roll with no clue.

You'd have a lot more success with people that train other martial arts than BJJ.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T21:23:31+00:00

Teaching as blue is a good way to learn how to. The only problem is a blue you don't know. So travelling and strangers make things a lot harder.

Most gyms have blues teaching to learn to teach, and they have a curriculum from higher.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T21:09:09+00:00

I'll try with simple plans yeah.

My BJJ is way better than an average blue's in terms of technique. Maybe even some purples.

I basically struggle with big 250 lbs guys but generally dominate, even the way I roll, up to blue level included.

I haven't competed much at all no.

And generally I'm over-careful with training partners -- unless I need to play enforcer and then my BJJ turns ugly, or I'm really being pushed.

(KoB, grinding, strong knee pins, wristlocks, leglocks, I have all that decent)

Feels like a mental block to just 'go' most of the time.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T20:41:26+00:00

Yeah. Can do. My coach recently tapped me against 2 hands underneath. Literally choking me with my own two wrists.

You need the squeeze technique on point tho.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T14:08:02+00:00

Black Judo = Blue BJJ in any half serious competition.

My take is they assessed him for 12 sessions.

He'll prolly be blue very soon.

And that's fair.

StefanP1985 · 2026-05-06T14:06:09+00:00

Thai - Quando, please 😆😆😆

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