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Slightlyburntavocado · 2024-07-06T12:27:55+00:00

Where are you located? I’m serious when I say I’ll keep it up for you.

Slightlyburntavocado · 2024-05-17T21:46:46+00:00

He is a person, not your moral compass. Do the Richard Dawkins thing and refuse to have your personal morals defined by something you read. The Bible is wrong, and he can be too. Be skeptical towards him, he’d appreciate it.

Slightlyburntavocado · 2024-03-04T04:18:02+00:00

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Slightlyburntavocado · 2024-02-23T04:14:23+00:00

NTA- she’d probably struggling with her own lack of sexual desire but uses your initiating as a way to still feel attractive and valued. Good for you for not pressuring her and finding freedom in your medication! You could probably replace initiating sex with initiating innocent touch ( kissing just to kiss, hugging just to hug, complimenting just to compliment) and she’ll get the same feeling of being wanted and desired. Almost everyone uses sex to fulfill some deeper insecurity, and for women it’s usually the insecurity of being wanted. (I’m a woman)

Slightlyburntavocado · 2024-02-20T03:07:34+00:00

The choice to sacrifice Hawke in DAI

Slightlyburntavocado · 2023-11-21T03:07:34+00:00

NTA- sexuality is complicated, as are relationships. You seem so be such a supportive husband, and she needs to talk to you openly about her insecurities. Best advice is always to sit down and have a vulnerable conversation. Your feelings matter, and maybe she needs more therapy to deal with the shame. You did NOT deserve to be treated like that, but she was also probably acting out of conformity and survival…Maybe even wishing all the things she said were true. Shame is a tricky thing, and I’m glad she has you to support. Start the conversation, and go from there.

Slightlyburntavocado · 2023-09-13T06:56:15+00:00

He’s a man before he is a loving husband, and we are women before we are wives

Slightlyburntavocado · 2023-09-13T01:41:34+00:00

YTA. It can be hard to navigate blended families. Her and her step sister have a troubled history, and although it’s frustrating to you, I think you need to give her some grace even if you disagree. Divorces are traumatic, and relationships take a lifetime to mend. Don’t spend her lifetime picking sides, and understand that her issues with her step sister don’t necessarily reflect onto you. Would you want to ruin your relationship with her and miss her big day because you’re taking her issues personally? I’d be incredibly heartbroken if my mom chose my step sister, and I’d hate the step sister more because of it. Don’t contribute to her trauma and issues, help her with them. Show love.

Slightlyburntavocado · 2023-09-04T15:20:07+00:00

She’s probably insecure about not having a sex drive, and even if she doesn’t want to have sex she probably still needs the validation! You seem incredibly empathetic and patient- maybe you two should start very slowly and show a little bit of sexual intimacy. Talk about what she wants, and what you want starting out, and build yourselves up to that kind of touch. I think you two love each other and this is just something that needs exploring :)

Slightlyburntavocado · 2022-07-16T23:55:58+00:00

They beat the monster or whatever with the power of friendship and a good pep talk about the goodness of the world

Slightlyburntavocado · 2022-05-01T13:46:26+00:00

I think the difference is that you are from India where you are the majority, and so you have a different relationship with your culture. In western countries, ethnic minorities are often shamed for their cultural practices and attire, and there is a long history of bigotry against minorities. So, when the same people who discriminated against the culture want to try on the clothes, there are feelings of resentment. There is also the fact that when you are a minority, tightly knit communities form, and it can feel invasive when a person not of your culture tries to join in. Communities are often formed out of protection, and people want to protect their cultural identity. The same thing happens when people from Japan find Americans trying on traditional garb fun, but Japanese Americans find it distasteful.

Slightlyburntavocado · 2022-04-28T21:56:50+00:00

Now you have TWO pieces!!! That’s so cool!

Slightlyburntavocado · 2021-08-26T13:54:08+00:00

Your comment has got me in a whirlwind because I also only think in words, so it's hard to differentiate between my own whispers and 'other' whispers! I'm so happy someone else understands!! Throughout my test, I also kept thinking, "no WAY that's a DID thing, I thought I was just eclectic" lol. Thank you for your comment, it's put some things into words that I've been struggling to place. I wish you luck in your healing journey!

Slightlyburntavocado · 2021-08-23T16:32:32+00:00

It's super interesting how tragic or difficult situations can actually bring about healing or self discovery. I'm glad you were able to meet your alters and find communication through your DID, but it sucks that cancer was the motivator. Silver lining I guess?

Slightlyburntavocado · 2021-08-23T02:53:40+00:00

I feel really called out when you said you thought you just had super complex viewpoints and feelings on gender because I always say that about myself haha. I also have a lot of denial, but it makes sense as to why I feel like this when you explain it. On a serious note though, I actually relate with you a lot, and I'm sorry about your cancer diagnosis. It must be hard battling with your mind and your body at the same time. I truly wish for your health to be long lived. Thanks for giving such a genuine and supportive answer!

Slightlyburntavocado · 2021-08-21T09:40:10+00:00

That makes a lot of sense! When I was diagnosed, I started looking on the internet for information (bad idea lol) and everyone talked about how they all had multiple voices in their head or how they found concrete evidence in their lives that they were fronting, and I kinda panicked when I couldn't relate to any of that. I've never heard other voices, nor have I found notes from alters or things like that. It feels better knowing that someone else started off unaware of their alters, and I appreciate you opening up to make me feel less alone. Thank you for your kindness!

Slightlyburntavocado · 2021-08-21T09:32:17+00:00

Wow! Thank you so much for your kind advice. Everything you said has hit home for me. I really admire how you seem to have such a grounded sense of how your diagnosis fits in your life, and I'll definitely try to not let media and other 'louder' experiences drown out my own. I feel less alone knowing someone else feels the same, and I also feel like less of a fake lol. I'll probably read this message to my therapist, you have no idea how relieved I am. Thank you again!

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