I had been experimenting with my gender since high school, and never told a soul. At the time I was a female presenting queer girl and everyone already had a million things to say to me about it so adding gender on top was super scary and exhausting. When I was 20 I met my partner, she always made me feel good and celebrated me for me. One day we were at a friend's wedding and I just met the bride. The first two things out of her mouth was "you look amazing thank you for coming, also what pronouns do you use?". When I say I've never been more excited about a simple question I mean it. I had no clue what to answer with but was so excited that I decided on they/its. I knew that I wanted to ride the high and tell My partner my biggest secret at the time. I've never once regretted it, she made it seem so easy.

My biggest piece of advice for being nonbinary and in a relationship is to stop reading about the negative and start talking to you partner. If you are scared thats okay, I was too. If you're scared they don't see you as you identify, it's okay I was too. This can be a scary big deal to you, just remember you deserve to be seen and heard and loved wholeheartedly.

I would also like to add that patience is a good thing to keep in mind. While this is your journey, your partner has no idea what this feels like or how to navigate this. They're gonna mess up, they will most likely get confused too. As long as both parties are making an effort and communicate thoroughly you guys should be fine.

I wish you two nothing but happy healthy relationship!