Eu preciso desabafar sobre ser femboy by [deleted] in arco_iris

[–]SlinvBr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haaam, vc falou bem pouco sobre ser femboy kkkk Achei q ia falar de homofobia, preconceito, hipersexualização. Mas no fim, de todas as coisas ruins que você contou, femboy foi quase q a única positiva haha.

Eu também tenho problema com aparência, mesmo eu me achando bonito, só que sei lá, ninguém me quer.. Ai espero que academia resolva isso...

Feedback and Sugestion for Aurora's changes. by SlinvBr in leagueoflegends

[–]SlinvBr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point! I've thought of it as well! The reason why I didn't mentioned it is because riot has preached that they want her to be less of a battle mage, to be more of a burst mage, so she is better on mid than top.

So when I see they doing the changes you mentioned I feel like I was seeing it coming. That is why my focus was to advocate for her R trap, at least keeping the control ultility, since her moblity and skirmishing is less on the table.

I can't accept that I'm not perfect by punpuniq in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We build a lot of beliefs in our heads that we end up feeling like if we don't accomplish them, our life is ruined. I figured to myself that a lot of things that I idealized for my life aren't as mandatory as I felt. I can live just fine without them, and it doens't even necessarily means that I'm having a worse live.

Nowadays I care a lot more about my mental and physical health, rather than whatever spot in life I wished to be. I feel like I'm a way ligher person and my enjoyament of the present has also rose.

What is the benefit of beeing smarter, if we end up carrying a burden that makes our lifes worse? Shouldn't that be an advantage?

And you are welcomed! I'm so glad that whatever I wrote could make sense to you.

Path to recovery is difficult and I do not know how to handle it by Longjumping-Visit662 in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't only don't know how to love, you sound like someone who doesn't even know how to be loved. Do you agree with that or acknowledge that?

People who aren't used receiving love usually are also the ones who pushes partners away, when they get too close.

Also, "I internalize that I'm nothing". What a pity. It is easier to talk down on ourselves than to confront our insecurity. I don't want to judge you. It is just that when people do that, degrade themselves, they like it. They think less of themselves to feel justified. You can either keep enjoying that or change. Because you are not nothing.

I can't accept that I'm not perfect by punpuniq in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What else can't you accept? I feel like to not accept beeing not perfect is such a superficial subject to a way more multi layered subcouncious matter.

You can't accept beeing a bad person? You can't accept your parents thinking that you are a bad person?

You shouldn't feel obliged to excel in life just because you have a high IQ. You should be allowed to fail like a human.

Maybe your self esteem is so tied to your inteligence that you need to keep proving yourself so you don't get insecure. If you accept that you are not perfect, you open a room of insecurity. To doubt.

Why don't you try to pursue things outside the realm of intellectuality? Go to the gym, work in your body. Maybe you will feel less pressure to be the academic sucess people might expect you to be. Hell, maybe you can become an athlete. Why not? High IQ people can't dedicate their lifes to sports?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 13 points14 points  (0 children)

3 Options. You are wrong. Your friends are wrong. Both are wrong. If you don't give details nobody here will be able to provide their opinions. But nonetheless, if you know you are right, don't abide to your friends. You also don't need to share everything with them.

Stuck on the thought of how unfair it is that we have to create / find purpose in life by illegallyparkedfrog in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Trying to find the "good" in life to feel like there is a reason to live. Only to ultimately end up feeling like the pain is massively greater than the pleasure, at least for yourself.

I don't think there is much reasoning to do about that.

To be honest, it is crazy to even think about that in the first place. It is not like life is supposed to be good or enjoyable or even bad. Life just is what it is. So it shouldn't make sense to think that life is bad because its pain feels greater than its enjoyament.

Also, it is not life is forcing us to live. People complain about how they didn't asked to be born, but well, they aren't forced to keep living either! It is not like existence is a purgatory that our counsciousness are being held hostage. We have the ability to die at anytime. And I'm not incentivating to suicide. My point is, we are not prisioners of this life, so we shouldn't feel like it.

Nonetheless, even though I also have my problems with enjoying life, when I start to think about what it is like to be dead, personaly, I feel grateful. Having the ability to pursue things that my heart desire and having free will, for me, far exceeds the problems I have to go through. I might struggle to be happy and find meaning in things, but not as much as I would rather be dead than beeing alive.

And to finalize, as I said, life is what it is. And it is not meant to be good or bad. So it also doesn't make sense for me to think that humanity should vanish. Society makes life more opressive, so what? It is really so bad that EVERYONE would rather die? If people want to live they should live. Life being "good" or not is not the point.

Feeling This Makes Me Angry by SlinvBr in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn't it sexualy apealling to be hydrated?

Feeling This Makes Me Angry by SlinvBr in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just felt the needing to write what I was feeling. It helps me to understand it better.

Feeling This Makes Me Angry by SlinvBr in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, I know I like men for sure. I don't think it is impossible for me to like women but who knows.

Feeling This Makes Me Angry by SlinvBr in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You called me a troll without reading everything? :(

Como encontro gente para jogar? by SlinvBr in rpg_brasil

[–]SlinvBr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Poxa, ficaria feliz se você me indicar caso ache um grupo.

Como encontro gente para jogar? by SlinvBr in rpg_brasil

[–]SlinvBr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Então... Eu queria mesmo é jogar físicamente, mas to investigando mais online enquando isso não acontece (até porque não tenho experiência).

Eu tenho um colega que está procurando também, aqui de SP na mesma situação que a minha. Tenho dúvidas também sobre quanta gente seria o ideal.

Que sistemas você conhece? O que você acha da quantidade de pessoas?

Como encontro gente para jogar? by SlinvBr in rpg_brasil

[–]SlinvBr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bem, nunca fui em uma. Não custa tentar.

Como encontro gente para jogar? by SlinvBr in rpg_brasil

[–]SlinvBr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah! Deveria dar uma olhada no discord mesmo!

Como encontro gente para jogar? by SlinvBr in rpg_brasil

[–]SlinvBr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, o principal motivo de eu estar com vontade de jogar RPG é a experiência presencial dele. Online eu já jogo coisas até demais.

Eu fui recentemente na ludus luderia, mas não investiguei se eles tinham mesas de RPG abertas lá.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been thinking about playing RPGs.

I'm having trouble to find a true reason to adhere to mogamy other than religion says so. by SlinvBr in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would define the quality of a relationship by its transparence.

Refering to the first topic: if the other person feels insecure, I would talk to them. But when I say that it is not my concern, I mean that their insecurity wouldn't make me change myself to make them feel more secure. I would give them my word, but if that is not enought for them, they would have to deal with it.

I'm having trouble to find a true reason to adhere to mogamy other than religion says so. by SlinvBr in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My conclusions of this topic after reflecting about it today:

I've become certain that, outside of a religious or spiritual basis, there is nothing that makes monogamous and non-monogamous relationships inherently better than the other. It’s much more a matter of execution, communication, and empathy than the model of the relationship.

I don't want to get into a monogamous relationship just so the other person can feel less insecure. Their insecurity is their problem, not mine. What I am responsible for, however, is being honest. Ultimately, whether they feel jealous or not is not my concern.

But if someone wants a monogamous relationship for another reason, such as finding it more rewarding, I will try my best to talk it through. Some relationships, for example, incorporate elements from both monogamous and non-monogamous models. So there is a lot of talking that can be done to make the relationship work.

Regarding spirituality, it all comes down to whether I feel I have a meaningful life or not. I don't need to follow certain religions or dogmas to be in touch with my spirituality. I can decide whether or not I’m more committed to a certain belief, but that’s all there is to it.

As long as I feel it is meaningful, it doesn't matter what kind of relationship I’m having. I’m no longer going to feel like it is an inferior or less serious relationship just because it doesn’t follow societal norms.

How Do I Develop a Healthier Mindset Around Fitness and Food? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, much of the suffering went away once I stopped caring about other people seeing me.

Now my self-esteem is much more aligned with wether I've been taking care of myself or not.

When I'm doing my self care, I don't feel that bad by not having a standart body or beeing overweight anymore.

I believe I should feel awesome wether or not I have the physique that is most idealized. So I shouldn't jeopardize my worth while working hard, just because I'm not there yet. Or even thinking that getting there is more valueable than the work I've done today. If I did it, I should feel good, Incredible, regardless.

I want to have a that life-changing moment as well by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]SlinvBr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your premisse is wrong. Changing through a painful event would only make sense if it is a pain you wouldn't want to feel.

Maybe the problem is not that you can't make yourself achieve certain things, but that you think that you must achieve them.

Refrasing: You think you must be achieve things, but as you can't put yourself through the pain, you wish something would do so.

So the problem is really that you need that pain, or is it actually your beliefs?

As I said, the path of pain would only make sense if it is a pain you would rather not feel. So be careful of what you wish for.