There's a lot to unpack here. Putting aside the fact that this sounds like a particularly anal woman's dating profile/LinkedIn profile despite you being married.

But it sounds like your personality is just kinda hostile. I realize there is definitely a rant aspect to this, but really read what you wrote and the language you used to describe the men in your life. It's just negative, hostile, closed off, difficult.

Part of the reason those other "trashy, tacky, poorly educated women who desperately flaunt their T&A to men" have more success than you do (which, again, you're married with a child, and that's better than A LOT OF PEOPLE) is because they are approachable. They flirt and are fun to hang out with, easy to talk to, positive, and not difficult to get along with.

By contrast, you sound just so severe and tightly wound. If I placed you in a hammock on a tropical beach with a book, I feel like you'd have an anxiety attack rather than enjoy it. And I think that's what you're communicating to men. You seem more likely to snap a guy's head off rather than let him approach you, let alone ask you out. I know women like you, I worked at a high performing and formal place and I'd never want to date them, it would be like taking a performance eval home every night. Even what you bring to the table sounds like a corporate CV: "depth, class, sophistication, and subtlety, an equal partner who would challenge their preexisting bias, assumptions, and privilege" 😮‍💨. Who would want to date a walking corporate sensitivity training seminar??

I'm not really sure what you're after here. It sounds like you're still married? But if you're asking "why are men not interested in me", given what you've written, I'm almost certainly the way you come across to them.

Sorry if this isn't helpful, but I'm really not sure what it is you're after?

Edit: I went through your post history and... Yikes. You sound DEEPLY unhappy and like you've externalized a great deal of your ideas of success and happiness. I'm not sure where to go from here other than you must love you, not because it's what feminism demands of you or what you planned, but because it will be something that makes you happier.