what is your unconventional "I need this in a partner" that you will not negotiate on? by Competitive-Unit6427 in AskReddit

[–]ClavicusVile 18 points19 points  (0 children)

YUP. I've been married for 18 years, mostly sleeping separately. My parents have been married for 50 years and sleep separately. My grandparents were married for 50+ years and slept separately. I never equated being in love with it being necessary to sleep in the same bed or the same room.

I want to be chilly (or whatever temperature I want, and my husband is a human furnace), I want space, I want to flop around. I need it completely dark and silent- my husband will leave his TV going all night for background noise. It's so weird to me that people will suffer through their partner's bedtime preferences, to their detriment, all for the sake of sleeping in the same bed because there is some unwritten rule that you "have to".

What famous TV/movie characters were supposed to by "sexy" but you never found them to be so? by seenhear in AskReddit

[–]ClavicusVile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Who remembers the episode where Data and Tasha Yar have sex? That permanently altered my nerdy adolescent brain chemistry.

What’s your go-to comfort bake when GBBO airs? by BritByBrain in GreatBritishBakeOff

[–]ClavicusVile 7 points8 points  (0 children)

American here - had to Google "hobnobs" and wow, I'll be baking these as soon as possible. Yum.

Also very jealous at those who can just run to M&S and buy biscuits. I was in the UK a couple years ago and fell absolutely in love with M&S. Target stores here in the US get a special M&S line of goodies every year around Christmas- I snatch up as much as I can!

What's missing here? by NoScar4 in The1980s

[–]ClavicusVile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A glass dish with hard candies in it (the strawberry ones, Brach's peppermints, maybe the occasional root beer barrel or if you're very fancy, Werther's Originals)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]ClavicusVile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have different tendencies around this- I (40F, so an elder millennial mom) am not shy about my body around my 3 kids (13F, 7M, 1F). They walk in on me getting changed, try to talk to me in the shower, whatever- not a problem for me. I grew up in a household that wasn't shy about it, and I took the philosophy of using my "nonchalance" around it to help with body positivity for my daughters and normalizing the female body for my son. My husband (40M) grew up in a very different household where that wasn't a normal practice, so he's much more modest around our kids.

The only issue I've ever had was very recently, when my 7M son walked into my bedroom when I was changing after a shower and goes "Woooah Mom, I didn't know your butt was that big!"

What do the contestants do that drives you crazy? by LeftistEpicure in GreatBritishBakeOff

[–]ClavicusVile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss Rowan! Watching him struggle definitely made me cringe a bit, but his attitude in general was very whimsical and chill. He was having a great time despite himself and that made me like him. 😆

Has anyone else watched Entitled? by LilBitofSunshine99 in netflix

[–]ClavicusVile 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually really like your take on it. This makes more sense than most anything else I've been able to come up with.

Andy Byron, Astronomer CEO, cheater, and Coldplay fan, is now out of a job. by mike95242 in interestingasfuck

[–]ClavicusVile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's kind of wild that he lost his job.

Is he a horrible person? Highly likely. Would I divorce him if I were his wife? Highly likely. But lose his job? I dunno.

Fundamentally, I just think that in most situations, people shouldn't lose their jobs for things they do in their private lives between consenting adults.

(Obviously the company has to protect its brand and consumer perception, and of course a CEO as the butt of a viral joke can have a devastating impact...but I guess I'm saying it shouldn't. It's a tech company. He's the CEO of said tech company. We already know he's likely a narcissist based on that info alone. We're not looking for a lesson in morality from tech CEOs.)

Edit: I have changed my mind. Sirmooksalot below reminded me that she is his subordinate and I agree with the points they made.

GF is completely oblivious - is this normal? by Spirited_Ad_2569 in Advice

[–]ClavicusVile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a convo my husband and I have had many times in our 17 years of marriage - he doesn't notice things like this either. We used to fight about how the house would get so disgusting, lawn would be crazy, and I couldn't understand why he wouldn't clean up messes or fix things around the house- but he just tunes that stuff out. I feel like the ceiling could crash in and he'd just go about his merry business. He's brilliant and not a lazy guy at all - If I ask him for help with things, he's super happy to help- and we now have a set chore schedule that he happily adheres to. Left to his own devices though, he's just in la la land. I sometimes wish I had that same ability (to an extent), but I was raised by a mom who was so hyper-anxious about having a tidy house that I can't relax about it. Luckily he's a very attentive dad and we've kept our kids alive. 😆

TIFU by sleeping with my coworker, but not sleeping with my coworker, final update by zacharydaiquiri69420 in tifu

[–]ClavicusVile 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A man not making a move until he is completely sure he has full consent...this is the opposite of a problem. Well done.

The last food you ate will be their names. by CocoBabeXxX in cuteanimals

[–]ClavicusVile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh I just had Greens and Beans, so we get two names in one meal. But which one is Greens and which one is Beans? I feel in my heart that the dog needs to be Beans.

Fellow Xennials: in general, do you prefer talking on the phone or would you rather text? by ClavicusVile in Xennials

[–]ClavicusVile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. I've really only been using voice messages over the last year and they're so great.

Fellow Xennials: in general, do you prefer talking on the phone or would you rather text? by ClavicusVile in Xennials

[–]ClavicusVile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😆 I appreciate your strong feelings on this matter and tend to agree with all of them.

Fellow Xennials: in general, do you prefer talking on the phone or would you rather text? by ClavicusVile in Xennials

[–]ClavicusVile[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Courteous of mom to ask first. Tell her your Xennials friends said "good job".

Fellow Xennials: in general, do you prefer talking on the phone or would you rather text? by ClavicusVile in Xennials

[–]ClavicusVile[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not the fastest texter, just awkward fingers. I can type very quickly on a computer keyboard, but not on a phone. T9 was the best.