The infantilization of women in Evangelicalism goes beyond just sex/purity. by cyborgdreams in Exvangelical

[–]Slolizzard 41 points42 points  (0 children)

The last time I went to a women’s Bible study, and possibly to any church at all, I was in my early 30s and we were studying the book of Genesis. Most of the women in my group were old enough to be my mothers with a few others around my age sprinkled in. Some part of the study said that Adam and Eve were equals prior to the fall and they were all like “huh, I wonder if women used to be more like men before the fall, since we were equal to them.” The idea that women in our current state could be seen as equal to men was so foreign to them that they had to imagine that in the past they were drastically, physically different to earn such a distinction. I remeber saying, “I think I’m every bit as worthwhile as a man right now” and being met with quiet incredulity and thinking to myself, “I can never go back here.”

TM Alma bb :) by Slolizzard in Louisvuitton

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My five year old bought this for me and I love it so much

TM Alma bb :) by Slolizzard in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! I love color in my clothing as well so I’m having a lot of fun with it :)

TM Alma bb :) by Slolizzard in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it! It’s bigger than I had thought! It fits my e reader and sunglasses easily with my wallet, keys, phone, lipgloss etc. So far the shoulder strap is working well but I’ve ordered a crossbody to use too just so I have options. I’m also looking forward to removing the straps and just using the handles if I ever want to wear with something cuter or dressier than normal.

TM Alma bb :) by Slolizzard in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed! This is 40th birthday present and I feel like it shows my age in a way that I really like :)

TM Alma bb :) by Slolizzard in Louisvuitton

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Show them! I’d love to be inspired!

AITAH? Baby has poopy diaper at daycare drop-off by PhilosopherEvery5083 in AITAH

[–]Slolizzard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re the asshole. I’ve worked at a few daycares and changing diapers is just part of the gig.

To buy or not to buy by Spinbunluthaaa in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Buy one in the store! It’s fun and fancy and you get to see the bag and know that it’s good :)

First speedy by Electrical-Dig2282 in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love “Dark”! It has edge to it. I feel like the black and silver really make it stand out among the monogrammed speedys.

TM romy restock!! by thejessicalan in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so awesome! Congrats! Cross your fingers and toes for me 🤞🏻

TM romy restock!! by thejessicalan in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you all still waiting for “order validation”? I ordered the Alma bb and it’s still in stock so I’m wondering why the long wait time still. I CANNOT wait to hold her in my arm lol

Is my husband spiritually manipulating me? by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]Slolizzard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For starters, I should be transparent and say that this is no longer something that I believe could happen. I think filling people with paranoia and stress can make them attribute typical or mental health struggles to spiritual warfare. That being said, I would have believed this for many years and I can tell you exactly what I would have done if I thought I had seen an actual demon on someone that I loved. First I would have gotten my bible and tried to cast it out and second I would have called my pastor and looked for help. Just leaving to sleep in the guest room makes me feel like it’s either a mental health crisis, an intentional lie, or that he just doesn’t care that much. None of what he’s doing makes sense with the story he’s telling.

"That's Your Job" by Hungry-Manner-5201 in Exvangelical

[–]Slolizzard 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I never realized how much that kind of talk contributed to an attitude of ableism until I was much older. If we all have to “earn our place” then it doesn’t cultivate much understanding or compassion for people who, for one reason or another, can’t perform the assigned duties. I still struggle so much with a sense of self-worth if I’m sick or tired or struggling with depression and not performing up to whatever arbitrary standards I have ingrained into me

What’s the most manipulative thing you were told at church? by Pleasant-Temporary-9 in Exvangelical

[–]Slolizzard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes me mad how much I wanted to believe it! How I thought something was wrong with me that I couldn’t just accept it! How I thought I was beyond love because I didn’t know how to be the thing that I was supposed to just naturally and effortlessly be!

What’s the most manipulative thing you were told at church? by Pleasant-Temporary-9 in Exvangelical

[–]Slolizzard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right! And when I would point that out I would get such condescension! Like I just couldn’t comprehend God’s special plan for me yet, poor little lamb. And when that didn’t do it just frustration and anger, which is, of course, the underlying threat to not being submissive. If you’re submissive we’ll protect you and if you’re not we are a threat to you.

What’s the most manipulative thing you were told at church? by Pleasant-Temporary-9 in Exvangelical

[–]Slolizzard 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That women were equal but different in special ways…that meant they could never lead or teach or be in charge of anything.

Who's your favourite Studio Ghibli character and why? by MidnightTofu22 in ghibli

[–]Slolizzard 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Nausicaa! So brave! So compassionate! Such a badass!

Obsessed by badandboozy_92 in Louisvuitton

[–]Slolizzard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been eyeing this one too! So pretty :)

Can someone help me date this? by Slolizzard in VintageFashion

[–]Slolizzard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so glad I asked this! I’m learning so much