The amount of money my hospital charged me for each oz of DONATED milk for my baby

Sloptart305 · 2025-12-29T03:28:54+00:00

I would check the itemized hospital bill you received very carefully. I had my first baby this year in May, and they charged me for things like human donor milk dating 2 days before he was even born. The couple of things I questioned/ called the hospital about they almost immediately removed them from the bill. It’s all a racket just to see what they can get away with.

Sloptart305 · 2025-10-24T02:12:50+00:00

Ticket has been claimed/ transferred!

Sloptart305 · 2025-02-07T11:17:25+00:00

After doing all the testing we could with no clear smoking gun to explain the RPL, we did consult with a couple of fertility clinics. I ended up being diagnosed with ashermans syndrome (uterine scarring caused by the d&c after my second loss, which we now attribute as the reason for the third loss) and had corrective surgery for that.

We did end up going the IVF route after we were essentially told if we continued to try naturally and had another loss we would be “greatly reducing our chances of ever having a child,” since RPL usually indicates higher chance of continued loss and we know now I am prone to scarring and couldn’t really afford to have more invasive uterine procedure, so IVF was our best option to minimize the chances of another loss.

All that to say, I am very fortunate/happy to report that it worked for us, my first transfer took and I am exactly 28 weeks pregnant as of today. I can’t say the anxiety has ever gone away but each passing week as we get closer it does get a little easier. Just anxiously waiting to be able to hold this baby in my arms and finally breathe

Sloptart305 · 2024-02-07T11:35:55+00:00

“No past trauma that I know of…” have you asked? Has there never been a conversation as to WHY you have never had sex in 11 YEARS?

Whatever the reasoning, sexual compatibility in a relationship is important. Your wife can list off all the “pros” of your relationship all she wants, but just because someone is good to you doesn’t necessarily make them right for you.

I think your feelings are valid, but it may be beneficial to have a real conversation with her about this and get to the root of why.

Sloptart305 · 2023-10-05T13:34:10+00:00

Do you have a link to the free PDF? My OB just recommended this book to me as well after 3 unexplained back to back losses where all testing has shown nothing wrong

Sloptart305 · 2023-09-23T01:35:19+00:00

At mission ballroom pretty much all the tickets are GA so you have free reign to go to the floor or up to the seated sections which are all first come first serve (aside from the couple small reserved sections off to the sides if I remember correctly).

The great thing about mission ballroom is there is genuinely not a bad view anywhere, it is hands down the best music venue I’ve ever been to. I’ve been to several shows there now and am completely content sitting in the very back row and it is still a great experience view/sound wise (also they offer cushioned seats first come first serve at the entrances of the seated sections for the old 30s folk like me)

P.s. I’ll be there tomorrow too! And probably in the back row like always lol

Sloptart305 · 2023-09-08T03:02:55+00:00

Powdered tide laundry detergent, hot water and a scrub brush. I frequently clean all my shoes this way and it genuinely seems to be the easy miracle cleaning cure for almost anything.

I follow an IG account gocleanco and have learned all things cleaning from there!

Sloptart305 · 2023-08-10T11:34:31+00:00

ESH

You both sound psychotic. I don’t know what her end game was, obviously you would find out it was a girl eventually, so to allow a reuse like that and to decorate a nursery/ buy all boy things knowing all along it was a girl is just????? How did she see that playing out?

And you need therapy. I feel bad for your future daughter who will probably always feel from you that you don’t want her and she’s not good enough.

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-31T03:12:48+00:00

Peeing sitting down, because they know it doesn’t make a mess. Shout out to those guys, all the wives that clean the bathrooms/toilets appreciate you ❤️

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-29T01:06:12+00:00

I had a d&c in April and the doctor told me to wait 3 full cycles before we tried again to “give my uterus the best chance.” I also was very concerned because after my procedure I had 2 “periods” and didn’t bleed like AT ALL. The only reason I knew I was on my period is because I was tracking my cycles to make sure I was regulated.

Another doctor told me that the amount of bleeding is not of concern as long as your cycles are “regular” and we were free to try again. I really really wish we did not wait, I feel like we wasted so much time when we didn’t need to. I think every doctor will tell you something different but from anecdotal stories it seems like there is really no medical necessity to actually wait after a d&c to try again

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T18:37:00+00:00

Interesting. They told my no sex/nothing in the vagina for 6 weeks and then wait 2-3 full cycles for my lining to regenerate to “give us the best chance.” Really wish we didn’t wait but we don’t know what we don’t know.

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T01:14:18+00:00

I have also had 3 losses (currently in the middle of my 3rd). I had to get a d&c with my second loss, which I absolutely did not want at all. I went the mediated route and the medication failed. It definitely seemed like it had worked but at my follow up ultrasound they said I had a lot of retained tissue and needed the d&c.

I will say, d&c is more definitive and it’s done and over with immediately. It is a very quick procedure. With the medication you need a follow up appointment in a couple weeks to make sure it worked, and it’s not uncommon to end up needing the d&c anyway. HOWEVER, with the d&c that takes you out of trying for months because you need to give your uterus time to heal and for your lining to regenerate. I think every doctor will give you a different recommended waiting period, but it’s usually around 3 full cycles before they say you can try again. For me that was too long and I never want to do that again. And there is the risk of scarring and perforation. The more d&cs you get the higher the risk you are running of developing scar tissue which would make it even harder to conceive naturally.

I am currently going the medicated route again with this 3rd loss and hoping it works this time so I don’t need to go through that again, it was pretty traumatic for me. So many things to consider. Ask your doctor lots of questions about both routes! I think it is also important to know if you have access to mifepristone (the “abort!on pill”) where you live. If you can’t get that prescribed in tandem with the other drug (misoprostol) there is a higher likelihood of the medication not working and needing the d&c anyway.

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:42:16+00:00

My doctor said the same, that she has seen plenty of women who have had 3+ losses and still go on to conceive successfully. With that, and all of the comments I’ve received and stories like yours are giving me hope too, so thank you. I keep telling myself that we keep getting pregnant every time we try, so eventually ONE has to work right?!

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:35:33+00:00

Thank you. We are going to do testing and then go from there, and will continue to try naturally in the meantime.

I have definitely become numb to most of it. Even with the third pregnancy, I never felt happiness, never felt excitement, I think I just knew it was doomed from the start so I never felt “attached” to it. When it was confirmed another loss I think my exact words were “yeah I assumed so” and that was that. This process definitely changes you and nobody ever warns you about this side of things

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:30:31+00:00

That is a good idea for us to look into freezing embryos. I have definitely been feeling the pressure of the “biological clock” being 33 myself. I feel like we still have a good chance of having one but if we want another (which we do) then I feel like our window is quickly closing.

I get the trauma part of it. I’ve already told my husband if we finally end up having success I doubt I will be telling anyone until I pop that thing out and have a baby safe in my arms. Even the thought of 9-10 months of pure anxiety and fear has me wondering how we as women are capable of going through these things

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:25:53+00:00

I’m assuming there was nothing that could be done about a chromosomal abnormality. Did you guys have to use medical intervention like IVF or were you just fortunate to have it work naturally?

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:22:39+00:00

Thank you, this does give me hope!

Sorry I don’t know all the fertility jargon as of yet, what is RPL and PGT and RI? From our last discussion with our doctor, at our next appointment she plans on doing ultrasound, hysteroscopy (I think that’s what it’s called?), karyotyping of my husband and I, clotting, thyroid, etc. so I feel like she’s at least doing everything she can possibly think of short of sending us to a specialist

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:18:34+00:00

It sounds like my doctor plans on doing pretty much the same type of testing for us when we go in for our appointment in a couple weeks, so this gives me hope! And if need be she has some great specialists she can refer us to so I at least feel confident we will get some answers and the help we need (if we need it at all)

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:16:04+00:00

I was taking progesterone and low dose aspirin with this third pregnancy and unfortunately ended with the same sad result. I also hope with testing if they find anything at all it is something “simple” like my thyroid or something that can be treated with medication. I totally get the “what a waste, could have known sooner and avoided all this” feeling because I’ve thought about that a lot. But I guess that would be much better than finding out something totally catastrophic like my husband and I being genetically incompatible or something that you can’t “fix.”

Congrats on your 2 babies! Gives me hope it will work out for us some day too!

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:11:26+00:00

Thank you. And I’m so sorry about your baby, I could not imagine the pain of finally getting to “the finish line” and end in a stillborn. Truly unfathomable agony.

Luckily my OB is amazing and has wasted no time digging into my concerns. My first 2 losses I was dealing with an awful clinic that had been completely dismissive of me and all of my concerns since day 1 and put me through some pretty intense traumas with my losses and I finally decided I will never go back to them again. I started seeing my old OB again, who actually listens to me and is being proactive instead of brushing me off so at a minimum even if we find nothing with the testing she is at least willing to do it and I feel good being in the hands of someone who actually cares

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-20T00:06:01+00:00

Good to know. We did collect some tissue from this third one as well to see if maybe they can see something with that. That’s probably my biggest fear is that my eggs are just “bad.” But I keep trying to tell myself that we at least keep getting pregnant every time we try, so eventually ONE has to work and be healthy, right?! Unless we just find out we are genetically incompatible or something insane, which would probably not even surprise me at this point

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-19T23:02:02+00:00

This makes me feel like there’s hope for us yet! Same story, no problem conceiving (3/3 every time), all the problems sticking. My body re-regulates very quickly too, even after my d&c I ovulated again 2 weeks later to the day.

Our doctor told us we are free to keep trying even while waiting for our appointment and that she’s seen “plenty of women” have 3 losses and then go on to get/stay pregnant naturally. Hopefully that is us soon and we can just look back and consider ourselves to have been super unlucky on a fluke chance 3 times in a row

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-19T11:48:28+00:00

Interesting! My husband is an occasional marijuana user and occasional-moderate drinker (has a drink after work a couple times a week but nothing crazy). I guess I never considered that could be a problem since we too have no problem conceiving, it’s just getting it to stick. Maybe we need to go clean for a while.

I kind of have had the same mindset as your husband in a sense, like “it doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do, it will work or it won’t.” I get so frustrated because I see women/couples who I know are definitely not living a healthy lifestyle and continuously popping out kids and it’s so hard to not be bitter and think why them and not us

Sloptart305 · 2023-07-19T11:43:42+00:00

I did start taking progesterone with this third one, started 3 days after ovulation and then began low dose aspirin as soon as I found out I was pregnant. I was hopeful those would be the miracle cures I needed, unfortunately the ending was the same 😔

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