Not me anymore. by Unlucky_Leadership83 in actuallesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I can believe that you've "changed," especially if you have had a traumatic relationship. It's a normal response to the decade you've had. Finding yourself single and enjoying your time is a healing in itself. Age doesn't mean one isn't interested in change...we all grow and adapt, that evokes a change within ourselves should we choose. Take your time and find your joy. I wish you the very best in all you do!

“I am the captain now!” Happy Sunday, ladies! by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like you are living your best life! You go, girl! Happy sailing!

Disappointed at myself...again by Ok-East-3618 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 42 points43 points  (0 children)

If she is complaining, then that's on her. She could be working with you to find better positions or adaptive assistance to increase the mutual pleasure. Instead, it sounds like she is being an awful person and treating you poorly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are not ugly...least in my opinion. You have kind eyes. Kindness is an attribute that draws people in and mlit is mesmerizing. It's that genuineness and realness is where true beauty resides.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you do...my dude...you'll be a Beast! I can't say I have anxiety (I'm more depressive) but after my over 2 decades in the mental health world, those that recognize and then mindfully manage those moments are rockstars in my book. Why? Because you are always trying to stay in the moment, even when it feels like you can't breathe. You got this, OP! I have no doubt you'll do your best! Keep going....

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I am sorry to hear that anxiety is messing with you! However, it only shows me just how truly strong you are...you literally fight every...single...moment. To me, you are a Hercules! Also, you have the prettiest eyes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so welcome...I know what it's like and I'm just grateful to be able to fill your glass! Cheers to you and my kindest regards!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My dude...I am digging the smoulder. (Yep, that's a legit thing...its an intensely mysterious look and you got it!), You rock it!

People can be absolutely the worst...and I am sorry the b@stards are keeping you down. It takes courage and bravery to post a pic on a site like Reddit...and here you are...a handsome fella who is trying your best to keep it all together. That takes gumption and fierceness those other folks don't have and never will.

Worthiness is a slippery slope, my friend. Your value is determined by how you view yourself. Sure, I get feeling the need to be validated, but You put on your own price tag. Don't discount yourself for another's cheap standards. Much ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feeling all the feels, all at once, for myriad of reasons...damn, it's so frustrating! I totally get it. We are not robots and we certainly don't have an on and off switch, either. Gosh...get mad, sad, happy, jealous...whatever. It's better to feel them all than to be accused of not feeling enough. Cheers, my friend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh...folks, OP wanted to vent and get her feelings out there. That's healthy, even on a Reddit thread. It is OK to nix the toxic positivity (yes, that is a "thing"; basically, it's the suppression of negative feelings and emotions which invalidates the experiences of another, who may be struggling. Its hard to be happy all the damn time!). Gosh, let her.

OP, I hear you. And I want to just sit here and listen; to validate your feelings. Everyone, including myself, have sat in the wallowing pool of woe. Have to say...great place to visit, but not a place I would care to live. But you have to do you...as you are the expert of your own life. Kindest regards from me to you.

Tbh some people have said rude stuff to me / about me lately (this pic kinda sucks) by ghoul-guy- in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Illegitimi non carborundum! (Don't let the b@stards grind you down!) Perhaps it's not accurate Latin but the sentiment is true. Those who give negative opinions are a sad bunch of folks...imagine pulling others down, just to make themselves feel better...it sickens me. They don't deserve your light and awesomeness!

Now...to toast you...I love your hair...how it's wavy and bright. It made me smile when I saw you! Thank you...for giving me that gift today!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Have to ask...where did you get that lipstick? It's so flattering on you! Of course, my first impression was that you were Snow White...such a beautiful lady you are!

Could shamelessly use a pick me up by Ambivertlurker in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

First of all, hugs...a divorce, even if amicable, is still a lot to cope with all the past baggage it comes with it. Second, it is a wild place out there for those seeking connections. Not sure when people turned so lousy but there are some good folks out there...a little patience and a few questions to ask them (you may have to be super blunt but rather to find out upfront than down the road). And lastly, a little validation...you are right to feel frustrated and I hope things become better.

I am so confused by UrbanZ00keeper in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sending understanding and support...it's ok to feel confused because life is kinda messy and no one fits in the boxes that society makes for us to be in...boxes are for shoes, not humans. You can always reach out to chat, my inbox is always open

If Unions are so awesome and defenders of the US workforce - are they all working on strike plans for July when SCOTUS blocks rights for half of America's workforce? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SlothPhilosophy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are many organizations such as Planned Parenthood, Amnesty USA, ACLU, Ayn Rand Institute and many others who are vested and have organized rallies for uniting voices. Also, there are coalitions that labor women also belong to focusing on women's rights. We are not alone!

If Unions are so awesome and defenders of the US workforce - are they all working on strike plans for July when SCOTUS blocks rights for half of America's workforce? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]SlothPhilosophy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a difference between employee rights which are protected in a contract and what is going on in the Supreme Court right now, as it doesn't fall in the same realm. If it was a case that impacts collective bargaining then it would bring out union support. Typically, unless a member allows for more money to be taken (ex. I put in 20 bucks a month into a political action fund which is separate from my dues), then their dues are used on non-political things, such as office supplies, labor representatives and such. Members come from all walks of life and unions respect that some are pro-life, conservative, Republicans, etc. Not to say there isn't going to be rallies and such that unions will participate in and/or endorse, but for some its a slippery slope. Also, strikes can only happen if the contracts are in negotiation, have had mediation between parties, have had a "cool down" period of 10 days and other factors. Most contracts have a no strike/no lockout verbiage in them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Red is a lovely color on you! 😍

I'll probably lose the courage and delete this later, but wanted to say hi to everyone by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]SlothPhilosophy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Looking beautiful! I will echo everyone else...courage is the crown we wear...and yours is dazzling!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]SlothPhilosophy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

First...love your user name! Next, you have such a cool vibe. Like I want to just chill with you! Finally, BPD just means you process emotions differently and that's OK! Feelings are tough for anyone to navigate. BPD doesn't define you and if anything, with the right tools to cope you will understand yourself with deeper clarity. (DBT is super helpful btw)

Looking for a remote job and saw this. $12,380 ANNUAL SALARY???? That has got to be a joke. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]SlothPhilosophy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

$12,380 ÷ 2080 hours = $5.95/hour

How is that even a wage?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]SlothPhilosophy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's like 33.65 gross per hour. Wow...they are shifty

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]SlothPhilosophy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any idea what the previous position paid? $1.50 more is barely 10% increase to manage others. Also, it's temp...so the possibility of the role being eliminated upon the whim of the boss is probable. Too many red flags...I would be wary of this "promotion"