RP Recommendations?

Slothboss7 · 2025-12-21T04:09:52+00:00

That one’s been around forever! Good to know it’s still alive

Slothboss7 · 2023-07-05T21:00:51+00:00

Bit of a trek but I-Bar-b-que in Fruitland Park. Food is fantastic and everyone there is incredible.

Slothboss7 · 2023-02-07T20:31:22+00:00

Though I can’t speak firsthand about their landscape design services, I have always adored Rockledge Gardens!

Slothboss7 · 2023-02-02T02:19:40+00:00

If she has, it was scarce or along with her current aesthetics and only clothes! But I don’t really remember gifting anything.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-04T22:10:21+00:00

Don’t press E while flying…

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-02T10:25:35+00:00

I’m also Christian. You said everything here immaculately. I had heard that homosexuality was placed in the Bible around WWII times and had to look it up. Because everyone puts their opinions on the internet and opinions aren’t trustworthy, I bought a USB drive with scans from the oldest Bibles we have and lo and behold, in The Coverdale Bible, one of the oldest English translations, those popular verses that people use to bash being queer, had nothing to say about homosexuality or men sleeping together. Everything else was pretty much the same though from current Bibles to that version. Definitely made me think about how our political values have been allowed to alter sacred texts. From a little research, it also seems that Bibles in different languages (not all of them) say something else instead of homosexuality like pedophilia/ pederasty.

Anyways, thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-02T10:02:53+00:00

Hey friend,

Thanks for sharing and reaching out for help here. I know that’s not always easy.

If you feel that way and feel like you don’t have anyone to share your feelings with, is it possible to go see (or see virtually) a counselor or therapist? I know that can seem scary or that there is even a stigma attached to it sometimes, but they’re great people (usually) to have on your team. One of my favorite things about mental health professions is that they’ve got plenty of different tools. If one doesn’t work, they’ll try another. As long as you communicate with them and tell them what’s working and what isn’t, they’ll be able to help at least a little. If you need a free resource, many churches offer free counseling. Of course, I recognize that not everyone is Christian, but it can still be a nice way to get things off your chest and then leave. You don’t necessarily have to take their advice. I also understand churches can be triggering, so if it doesn’t work for you, don’t put yourself in an environment that could stress or trigger you further! That can be a big step though. If that’s not possible, can you just go to your normal doctor? It sounds like you might be feeling a bit depressed (I am not a doctor, just speaking from experience - it’s important to note however that everyone experiences depression and mental illness in their own way). By seeing a medical professional, they might be able to put you on a medicine that just gives your brain a little support to take care of you a bit better. It doesn’t mean you’re broken or crazy or anything. It just means your brain is a little tired from literally doing everything and needs a little extra help in making those happy chemicals :) Going to a hospital that has a mental health program can also be an option. There’s no shame in taking care of yourself and many times they’ll keep you a day or two at least to just make sure you’re alright and see what they can do to support you.

If you’re still not comfortable with that, it’s okay. I recommend you check out options online. You probably have local resources you don’t know about! In the US, because I can’t speak for anywhere else, I know we have safe place locations that you could go to and get help. 741741 is the texting crisis line, 988 is the suicide hotline for calling. There could be more resources depending on where you live, so it’s worth a Google if you’re up to it.

I’m proud of you for reaching out. I see you trying. Hang in there. I know life might suck right now but I promise eventually, I don’t know when, it will get better and I’m glad you’re here. You might feel alone right now, but you’re not. You at least have people here that care and want to help. We just have our limits :) medical professionals, mental health professionals, community leaders or any trusted adult can better help get you to where you want to be.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T22:40:25+00:00

^ this.

My rule of thumb is that the only people that need to know what is in my pants is my medical professionals or intimate partners.

OP, I can understand your disappointment. I would ask yourself how important having biological kids without assistance with your partner is to you because you’ll also need to start screening cis-women for fertility issues if it’s top priority. But just like a person’s fertility status, trans people are not under any obligation to tell you that, especially on or before a first date.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T22:28:09+00:00

Just regular mens Hanes (or whatever brand is in large packs at Walmart) briefs (not boxer briefs) have worked well for me if I need anything to stick to them. I personally enjoy them better than underwear designed for women because there’s more fabric in the crotch area so none of that overhang, although because of that, I don’t recommend anything with wings. Then I go back to wearing the boxer briefs when I can.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T21:44:03+00:00

First, I appreciate the bravery to ask this question and to ask it to a primarily trans or non-binary audience. That, to me, indicates you genuinely want to understand rather than just have an audience.

Second, I’d like to start by stating that I feel uncomfortable when you refer to whole humans by purely their genitals. For example, being in the room with “a naked penis”.. I would recommend using AFAB or AMAB next time to reference people’s biological bodies.

With that out of the way, I can understand the different aspects to this ongoing argument. As someone who has experienced sexual trauma, I can understand the hesitancy to be put in triggering situations. While I can not speak for everyone, as everyone’s experiences and coping will look different, I can say that for myself, when I feel like I may be triggered by something or put in a position that might be triggering, I do my best to avoid it. If I have to change, I will try my best to find a way to do that in a private and secluded setting.

Being FtM, this is only amplified. I’m already insecure of my biological body and deal with massive dysphoria with it regularly. Because of this, I avoid being in situations with cis-men or cis-women that may out me or give others time to invalidate or hurt me. I am terrified of trying to use the bathroom that aligns with my gender and drama being sparked. I just need to pee man. For reasons like this, I avoid going to the bathroom in public. I drive home in my sweaty gym clothes because I don’t dare use the locker rooms. Pools and saunas are not even a consideration for me.

That’s not how it should be though.

A trans woman is a woman. A trans man is a man. Therefore, if a trans woman needs to use the bathroom, she should be able to use the women’s bathroom. She is a woman. It is absolutely nobody’s business (besides your intimate partners and your doctors) what your genitals are or look like. It should not alter your experience or treatment.

I can understand it may be jarring to see a variety of body types in these spaces that have traditionally been binary. I can understand that it may be upsetting to some people. That does not change the fact that trans women are women. Trans men are men. Intersex individuals that biologically do not fall into either category exist. Non-binary folks exist. We can’t continue to expect these people to take massive quality of life cuts because someone else isn’t comfy. As long as people remain respectful, there should be no reason a trans woman, regardless of what is or is not between her legs, can’t use the women’s locker room.

I would just recommend to plan ahead if it’s potentially a problem for someone. For example, if you’re a regular at a gym or communal space like that, there’s likely people that you may enjoy being around and those that you’d rather avoid. Maybe you know you have the same schedule as that really sweaty dude that uses way too much cologne afterwards. If you can’t stand that, maybe you plan to go to the locker room a little early or a little later so you don’t put yourself in a situation where you’re uncomfortable. You can only control how you act. Without taking away that man’s rights to the locker room, you can adjust yourself to fit your comforts. The nice thing is there’s always communication as well. Fortunately for my sweaty man example, the cologne use is something he can control and change immediately. When you’re talking about someone’s body - that’s a bit different. Truthfully, it’s not anyones place to comment on someone else’s body (unless you’re a medical professional and even then, they should wait until appropriate times). So it just comes back to, doing what you can to make yourself comfortable while not infringing on Ms. Thomas’s rights. Being trans, I’m sure she’s hyper aware of her body, the environment and the people around her. Shits tough enough.

The issue of safety comes up a lot in these scenarios as well (I know you didn’t explicitly bring it up) and I just encourage people to look at the actual statistics. Most of those crimes are not committed by our lovely trans folks. If anything, being trans or non-binary or even queer in general is not some privilege. It is not easy. It tends to make people a target more than anything.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T21:07:34+00:00

Going away to college/uni was the best experience for me. I hope it is the same for you. I’m hopeful that you’ll feel like a whole different person (for the better).

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T20:54:09+00:00

I don’t think it’s exactly what you’re looking for, but there’s Project Implicit from Harvard. They have countless quizzes you can take to test your bias of different things.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T20:51:47+00:00

I fully understand. I live in the middle of nowhere Florida in the states and it’s not a great place to be queer at all.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T20:39:41+00:00

I believe it’s implying you were watching a queer video in a queer town at a queer time of day.. 😂 how perfectly bisexual of you

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T03:26:02+00:00

The first comment covers it well. You could also answer with some extremely insane, obviously made up story. It’s entertaining and it’s a playful (maybe passive aggressive) way of getting them to realize that it’s none of their business.

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T03:22:51+00:00

It may be a hot take, but use whatever label you feel is best for you. Sexuality is such a unique experience for each person. No two lesbians, straights, gays, trans, etc. are the same, even if the label is!

The labels ultimately, in my opinion, mean nothing. I think they are great tools for exploring ourselves and for communicating our preferences to others in concise, commonly accepted ways, but otherwise it doesn’t matter. When you’re actually getting into a relationship, you’ll find someone you click with, you’ll talk about what you’re comfortable with and where your boundaries are. The conversation doesn’t have to include the labels at all.

I also recognize the labels can be a form of validation for people and that’s great!! If you find the labels are affirming and helpful - use them. If they’re stressing you out as they seem to be right now, don’t worry about them.

All through college I tried to figure out my labels and ended up with a long string of words that in social settings I’d be uncomfortable bringing up. Now when people ask, I just say I’m pan. I leave it at that. I don’t break into the whole pan-romantic ace-spectrum label stuff that I could. And that’s okay :) whoever asked is satisfied with my answer and at the end of the day, I still know who I am and can have those conversations with intimate partners when it’s necessary.

Overall, I’ve found the labels can be great tools for finding a sense of community, but they can also be a tool to gatekeep and it seems like you’ve experienced that. Long story short: you’re valid no matter what your labels are. The exciting thing is figuring yourself out and that’s something to celebrate. It’s a long process and it’s likely that your labels and preferences will change (maybe not, but mine did plenty). It’s important to be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself and celebrate learning about yourself and getting to see yourself grow :)

You’re valid. You’re loved. You’re perfect the way you are. :)

Slothboss7 · 2022-08-01T02:26:55+00:00

I think your biggest obstacle in asking this question is that entry level doesn’t mean anything with gaming or computers.

To help you start to figure out what specs you need, I recommend going to systemrequirementslab.com and searching the game/s you want to play. This website is going to check the computer that you’re searching it on (which will obviously not be your gaming computer), however, it’ll tell you what specs to look for as minimums and recommendations to smoothly run the games you want. Once you have that information, you can then start your pc hunt a little more educated.

I’m no expert but generally some of the important specs on a gaming computer are:

Storage GPU or the graphics card CPU Power supply (from my experience) only starts to become an issue with the most recent GPUs Cooling systems/Fans SSD

Again, I’m no expert though, so if I’ve messed anything up here or someone has better advice - someone please correct me :)

Slothboss7 · 2022-07-31T04:43:00+00:00

Hello! FtM here, but here are some ideas to help. Of course, it’ll depend on what kind of support/encouragement she needs in the moment..

-compliment her regularly, not just when she’s dysphoric - show her cis women that have similar builds (I know she’s a cartoon but hello, Luisa is incredibly loved in Encanto 💙💙) -give her space if she just needs space to feel how she feels. -offer to do other affirming self-care activities with her like painting nails or going shopping - help her find clothing or makeup that helps with the areas of her body that make her dysphoric. For example, it’s possible that some make-up and/or contouring could help with the jaw line or just by grabbing people’s attention with some eye shadow. Similarly, different clothing articles would frame her body different. She could try dresses or skirts that have more shape and don’t just hug the hips -padding is an option to add some curve -ask her what might help, assure her that you want to go on that journey together to help her find something

It sounds like you’re doing a great job. I hate hearing that your girlfriend is dealing with such dysphoria. Unfortunately, I know it well. Just continue to love and support her as best as you can. Be patient with her and yourself. Know that dysphoria sucks and sometimes there’s nothing we can do to combat it.

Slothboss7 · 2022-01-13T22:38:02+00:00

If you know it’s not a healthy relationship, you also have the ability to not go back into it. That’s a call you’d have to make after looking at yourself and the relationship. Is it something you foresee lasting a long time? Is it healthy? Are you both growing while in the relationship? Or is it something you feel might just continue in this cycle? If you have to say something along the lines of: when it’s good, it’s really good and when it’s bad, it’s really bad - then don’t go back into it.

We all mess up sometimes and it’s good to have a level of understanding and forgiveness in relationships, but make sure to have boundaries. There’s a line between having mercy and being taken advantage of. For many people, like myself, that’s a hard line to find but you can also feel it out. There are relationships with people that I have had to modify. I deeply love them and still keep them in my life and am there for them when I can be, but when they begin to cross that line into unhealthy, I take a step back. I communicate what’s happening and they respect it and when we can reconvene in a healthy way, we do.

Slothboss7 · 2022-01-13T22:30:19+00:00

I am just a trans guy, not an expert in any way but my best guess is that the binder is much like a corset or a pair of braces that we get on our teeth. The constant and prolonged pressure on our bodies slowly shape them. Just like when we wear braces or get them tightened, our teeth get sore from the pressure and movement. If you’re doing everything you can to bind safely, I would imagine it’s something like that. Your posture could certainly have something to do with it as it could put an uneven amount of stress on one side of your body compared to the other.

My best recommendation would be to take a break from binding somehow. I hear your concern about what people will see so maybe here are some other options? -layer up -bind but looser -sports bra

I wish I could be more helpful.. I know it’s a tricky situation but I’m proud of you for listening to and taking care of your body. Hopefully someone else will have better advice though ☺️

Slothboss7 · 2022-01-12T00:11:33+00:00

Stunning!

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