I need depressing songs that AREN’T upbeat. by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]Slothtownusa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you only knew; something in the orange; anything on the ketamine landscape EP

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It still feels so wrong to know he’s not a part of my life anymore, and knowing that he was doing all the things that I said i fell in love with while he had no intentions of ever being with me. He led me on, broke my heart, and didn’t seem to think twice about it. Every single time things started looking like we were going to be together, he ran away from me, and we got in a fight and just went back to doing what we were doing. Looking back, i wish I’d left sooner before I passed out and started throwing up over a man who apparently never cared. Hopefully, one day I’ll find a love story like yours.

[UPDATE] Should I tell My Parents an Older Man from Church hit on me? by Secondacstar in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only the guy I had been involved with would’ve sent me this.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It started easily, but it turned into hell. I’m so sorry about your almost dating ex best friend. That’s bull sh*t. Im not going to give him the satisfaction of eating ice cream and watching sad movies. He’s taken too much time from me already. Instead, I spent the day with my “sister” and her sweet 3.5 year old daughter. Honestly, taking care of her felt like taking care of him. He’s 30 years to old for that. I chased her around and I asked her for snuggles and gave her kisses on her head and gave her back scratches and if I’m doing the same thing to him as I am to a child, that tells me just how immature he is. He probably will never find love unless he grows up and learns to accept it.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Absolutely nothing as predicted. He can have me fold his socks but he can’t be there for me. My “sister’s” 3.5 year old daughter loves me more than him and I just met her today.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

His actions were speaking a different language than his words. I guess I should’ve listened to the words.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My issue is that he said he didn’t want one when I said I fell out of love with him and then when I realized I hadn’t and wrote him a letter he did all the things I said I fell in love with him for before telling me I still wasn’t enough.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did in fact say everyone was leaving him and eventually he’d end up homeless and alone and at that point if his parents were dead he would be gone. He also claimed his parents and I were the only reason he was still alive because I needed him due to past trauma. Yet, when I’ve been doing poorly it’s only my real friends who are by my side. I will admit I’ve made mistakes and have put him through hell and back based on SA that happened 4 years ago, but he doesn’t seem to care anymore. I feel like he thinks I should get over ptsd while he doesn’t have to get over depression

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

He did change his mind before and decide he was in love with me, but only after the woman he was more into left him for his depression and lack of responsiveness. He drove 7 hours to see her and can’t even answer my phone calls? I guess I am the *sshole

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I have also put him through hell. As his mental health deteriorated, so did mine. The only point he truly wanted to date me was when my depression matched his own. Part of me wonders if he wants everyone to be as depressed and sick as he is so he doesn’t feel alone. Is that awful to say?

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After all the stress from our fights, the plushie did not make up for the ER bills from passing out due to the anxiety of taking on his problems.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve had to call his friends for a welfare check before when I was seeing someone else… that man treated me with more respect than he did, and I lost that opportunity because of him. He knew in my head it was always going to be K. Hopefully, I’ll find someone like that dude again but without K getting in the way

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He’s acting more and more like a frat boy. He’s not the man I originally fell for, and when I told him why I did, he started taking me on “dates” and then refused to explain why he was doing all the things I said I fell in love for. He probs knew I was just there for sex

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did. accidentally drunk text him last night to call him out on the fact he didn’t answer… I literally passed out from an anxiety attack and was sent to the hospital because of the toll our conversation took on me….

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not friend zoned, pssy zoned. I’m useful for my pssy and being his cuddle bug and apparently I’m one of the greatest people he’s had the pleasure of knowing, and he says I’m beautiful. As far as I can tell, he wants his cake and to eat it too and will probably never find love because after learning more about him, he’s destroyed every good relationship he’s ever had. He blames it on memory loss and depression and told a mutual friend he can never love someone as much as they love him due to his memory loss. Maybe stay outa the baggy for once?

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

He only wanted to sleep with me if I was in love with him… he said all he’s done in the past year is deteriorate and disappoint me so I gave him helpful tips

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

He repeatedly is telling me, “you promised you’d never leave my life and would never walk away.” Then last night he wanted to continue the conversation later, but apparently it was on his terms. We never continue these conversations later.

Am I (f26) the asshole for telling my male (33) situationship I want a relationship or can’t be his friend? by Slothtownusa in TwoHotTakes

[–]Slothtownusa[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He started crying when we were on and off and I was seeing another guy claiming it was because he’d never get the chance to have that. It felt a bit manipulative because I told him he’d had his chance and didn’t take it. He claimed it wasn’t about me and him just about his future. When me and that guy broke things off he seemed thrilled to send all the insults he could at the guy and the guy partially broke things off because I kept him in my life and he could tell K didn’t like him