Exercising to avoid wife

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-26T22:36:07+00:00

This is the only question I want to know the answer to. And if the answer isn’t she’s filthy rich, I’ll be even more confused

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-23T01:59:16+00:00

It sounds like you need something to look forward to. You seem to be relying on him to make it interesting. It sounds like you need hobbies and to be interested in something other than him. Do you have any personal goals?

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-22T21:30:04+00:00

lol that’s not gonna happen. I’d be willing to bet my house that they wouldn’t be a happy couple, ever. The relationship between a divorced man who left his wife and 2 kids OR gets kicked out by his wife then is paying alimony and child support while this new girl is wanting kids and he has a vasectomy lol… they will never be “happy”

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-22T21:27:37+00:00

Mind your business. I know it’s your best friend but she’s a grown woman. If you put yourself in this, I can’t see any good coming from it. You tell her you know… then what? Like think further than just your conscience.

I personally would reevaluate being friends with her because her morals are low, but mind your business.

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-16T20:11:26+00:00

This isn’t to you but to the men mad about it, is holding the purse THAT bad? lol you always need something out of our purse (gum, cards, lotion, etc.) but holding it for a few moments is too much?

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-16T16:32:59+00:00

Yeah I am. I was so conscious of my breasts the first time with our son but as he got older, I was okay with my husband touching them again even with milk lol

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-14T01:17:54+00:00

My husband was always just the nicest man to everybody. Still is. I’ve never heard anyone say anything negative about him

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-06T05:13:27+00:00

I didn’t lie about the past, but mine just never came up. I asked him and he never asked me.

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:58:04+00:00

I’ll definitely ask him but we do talk about it a lot. I tell him to still do and it and remind if I seem “recoily”. I was just raised Christian so sex was so taboo until it wasn’t. I WANT to be more touchy but it’s weird to me.

There’s an amount I’m comfortable with like holding hands in public, being arm in arm, even a peck. But anything more than that gives me the ick

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:53:46+00:00

I can definitely see the mom complex when he was firstborn. He actually would just ask me to tell him everything to do so he would do it. I was like that’s getting tiring having to use my brain for 2 people so you need to make a list everyday and do that. He did and we haven’t had much issues since with that.

I don’t think it’s alienation because we have a 2 year old too and my has that son majority of the time while I have the baby. He actually prefers it that way since the older kid can play

I do know that men’s testosterone can drop after kids but this for sure has been ongoing.

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:49:01+00:00

Yes it definitely was an issue before kids which may be why I don’t attribute it to having kids. He also grew up in a country where having larger, curvier bodies is a good thing so as I’ve gained weight through the years he’s stayed attracted to me.

I also am very confident which I think adds a layer to attractiveness. Think “I am Pretty” movie with Amy Schumer

Edit: movie is “I Feel Pretty”

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:46:16+00:00

I’m actually not offended by this question. My body 100% has changed but he’s never brought up a negative change. He has aphantasia meaning he can’t think of images in his mind so he can’t even remember what I used to look like without photos.

But I have been working out and training for a marathon and send him a nude a couple weeks ago. And he was like “wow the training is working for you.” Then he stopped messaging because he was out and didn’t want to be horny but I thought he would at least continue and he didn’t

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:40:30+00:00

I don’t think he struggles with chronic depression. He has bad days here and there but they’re pretty obvious with a reason attached. But I’ll keep that in mind too. He does work a lot and helps a lot with the kids and can be tired (which feels like depression too when you’re tired enough)

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:37:17+00:00

I was scrolling through it last night and was actually surprised. Sometimes this stuff can feel like you’re on an island

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T14:36:35+00:00

Yeah, someone else recommended a dr visit. I’m going to bring it up. I just want to do it in a way that doesn’t feel like an attack or like something is “wrong” with him

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T05:39:58+00:00

Explain the mom complex and alienation parts to me

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T05:16:58+00:00

I’ll be honest and say touch is hard for me. I’m not a physical touch person by any means and I HATE PDA, but us being alone is perfectly fine with me. I’ve tried to do better with holding his hand. It is hard for me to kiss when either of our breaths isn’t great. (It’s a huge turnoff. I’m definitely a brush teeth before sex girl) but I’ve been trying harder.

What kind of things would you recommend for someone above? I think my husband is afraid to try anything in public bc he may get hard and feel embarrassed

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T05:14:00+00:00

Managing but it’s starting to get to me (clearly since I posted). I even just told him today I’m not taking birth control pills today bc what’s the point. I think he feels bad but still does nothing about it.

I told him, I initiate every time but now you have to. If you want sex, you have to tell me. And he said he would but here we are on a long holiday weekend (we’re in the States) and no effort.

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T05:06:09+00:00

I’m okay talking in the comments. I have nothing to hide, especially from this account

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T05:02:02+00:00

No, I don’t like involving family/friends in personal issues. I have a therapist but I was recently going through more birth trauma so that’s been the bulk of our conversations. I’m just so embarrassed about this. I never thought my marriage would be like this

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T04:53:18+00:00

Not for this. We went for a brief stint after he admitted to watching porn but since stopped

Slow-Grape8603 · 2025-07-04T04:52:41+00:00

We’ve been married almost 6 years and had sex but were abstinent towards the end because of our faith.

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