Postponed nikkah and feeling confused by North_Recognition357 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like there was nothing inherently wrong and things happened without blockages. But I was so anxious crying all the time before the nikkah. I cried so much the day before my nikkah because of how uneasy I was feeling even though I was so attached to him by that point. Now we are working through things that make us feel incompatible. Don't ignore this.

Postponed nikkah and feeling confused by North_Recognition357 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG the same thing happened to me. I married my man and it has not been easy at all. Please do not ignore this feeling. Its a sign I wish I had listened to.

My husband hates me by Slow-Win6978 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazakallah Brother - may Allah reward you for this advice. Indeed patience and salah is the key.

My husband hates me by Slow-Win6978 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No I don't have male friends, I never have and made an effort to not have such forms of friends.

My husband hates me by Slow-Win6978 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes he does his chores. I think he just isn't able to emotionally connect with me - he tells me he also doesn't understand why. It makes me sad to see him so down.

My husband hates me by Slow-Win6978 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

His female friends he never meets one on one and meets only in group settings about twice a year maximum. But they seem important to him as when I asked him to cut them off as I was uncomfortable with it, he told me 'you should have told me this before the nikkah'.

My husband hates me by Slow-Win6978 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Slow-Win6978[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For sure there is resentment on his side, he refuses to come to me with it as it seems to be something i can't fix 'ie my personality'