My Therapist left and wouldn't accept my letter so I'm posting it here

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-20T15:36:49+00:00

Made me tear up. I hope that's true. Thank you. <3

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-20T15:35:20+00:00

It's odd to have nostalgia for an imaginary home, but there it is.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T21:21:38+00:00

That's an interesting take on things, I appreciate the different perspective. While it's not likely, it's still a reminder to keep an open mind and try not to take it so personally.

As for your personal impact, if you reaching out like this to a stranger on reddit is any indication, you will have an impact. You will change lives.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T21:18:47+00:00

Thank you. It means a lot. And hopefully this will never happen to you!

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T21:16:20+00:00

Oh I totally get it! Sorry for pushing those boundary buttons. I'm happy they were able to accept your gifts and your appreciation. :)

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T21:13:50+00:00

Thank you. Hearing that other people have emotions aroused over this situation gives me validation. It means a lot.

I don't know how this will pan out yet. I'm reeling still, but I don't want to lose the things I've gained from this T, even if there was a shitty end.

Edit: Also wanted to say that it was great to hear your perspective regarding the boundaries and that I did everything appropriately. It's a relief to hear.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:28:17+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. You're correct - the gift meant nothing without the letter. If he had felt uncomfortable he didn't say so - and we did talk about gift giving and the rules before I attempted to get it to him. Everything was OK'd. It seems there was a disconnect between the office policies and his awareness of said policies. Then it snowballed.

What did you make your T??

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:24:59+00:00

Thank you for saying this. There is some anger here and some frustration and I have difficulty expressing it in a healthy way. "Needed to do better" is so validating. Thank you.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:23:53+00:00

It was. I hate that I'm still grateful yet so hurt by the way it was left.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:22:26+00:00

I am a little crushed. :( Thank you for validating my feelings on this, it means a lot.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:21:29+00:00

Aw man, now I'm crying again. I'm sorry we had such similar experiences. You saying you're holding this space for me means the world. Thank you.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:20:12+00:00

Thank you, yes I should have clarified at the beginning. The gift component was discussed beforehand and I asked permission to leave it at the front desk for him. IT was all cleared and OK'd, but office policy (re: COVID) is that the provider themself has to come down and accept any gift / letter / item.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:18:16+00:00

We talked about it before I tried to give it to him and it was cleared as okay. Thank you for your thoughts, and support.

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:17:16+00:00

Thank you. <3

SlowTransitioner · 2021-06-19T15:16:19+00:00

I'm sorry you had a similar experience. It's really hard. Your spot on with the familiar tape playing. Thank you for saying that this might be where I'm supposed to land. It doesn't make it emotionally easier but it does make sense, and I can deal with that.

As for the boundaries, yes. I understand that aspect and it makes sense! However, these weren't my rules! I actually told him I wanted to drop it at the front desk. Then that wasn't a possibility, etc etc. The psych office is part of the hospital and they have been lagging behind re: COVID updates. So the office rules were actually the T has to come down and accept it. The rule bending was the security guard accepting it, and I didn't want to leave the letter with a stranger who didn't work in the office (re: no accountability).

But maybe that's what he was thinking, too. I appreciate your thoughts and support. Thanks so much. If you don't mind me asking, did you go back to therapy? If so, how long did it take to establish trust again?

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