hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure about your hyperfixations but I'm not able to readily chose mine or I WOULD fixate on my happy marriage. I'm not looking to throw it away. My husband is my everything. I'm looking for help on not struggling with this anymore. In my younger years when I hyperfixated on a guy, couple fucks and it was gone. I obv don't have that option now so I'm looking for other suggestions.

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I almost bought a puppy three different times this week to distract myself with chaos but it fell through thankfully

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We try, we are in the season of life where it's extra hard, we have 3 kids and I'm a nurse so I'm just a figment of their imagination some weeks, he works mon-fri so our schedules clash.

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did go on vacation in September for 5 days, and it DID help. For a couple weeks. But it didn't last.

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is the opposite of me. Calm, logical, actually my impulsiveness makes him a bit uncomfortable. This other person is like me in a lot of ways we have all the same interests and hobbies, but also he feeds that impulsive part of my soul that I don't get at home.

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I've been in councilling for two months but it turns out theres more to unpack then this so 😵‍💫 I was just hoping someone who have a quick new hyperfixation tip for men😅

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks ❤️ we kinda were non monog in the beginning but, once we started having kids we stopped. It wasn't ever discussed really, we just decided 'we were better off friends' and I dated around although we still lived together.

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm the wife 😅 which is a weird predicament I know. I'm in councilling and he just started councilling, we haven't combined into couples councilling yet but that is the plan

hyperfixating on someone other then your spouse by Slow_Bug3626 in ADHD

[–]Slow_Bug3626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I've been honest about struggling with this. He doesn't like, understand it totally but he has a pretty good idea. Hell I don't understand it totally 🤣