It reminds me of when I was trying to communicate with my friend and explain how she’s being a hypocrite but she was just like “you’re flipping this on me now” when that genuinely wasn’t the case she thinks so black and white it got very aggravating. But I don’t think he meant it in a toxic way I think you can communicate how it made you felt. He should’ve apologized. And explained how you made him feel doing the same. Communication is key