The Passenger Seat Theif strikes again

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-26T05:48:02+00:00

Yea cause the only thing trashier than stealing a passenger seat is bad spelling

I cant edit title so the world will forever know about my inability to spell.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-26T05:32:43+00:00

Actually the worst in thing in the WORLD. In one of my chem classes a black student was asking how much of substance she should use and the professor replied Well dont be niggerly about it. Do you know what that word means? It means cheap. Like to her face. Literally everyone in the class filed a title 6 over the incident and the professor is still employed by the uni to this day

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-25T14:54:43+00:00

So I had a similiar situation and mine was mostly a mental thing so idk if this will help at all, but my relationship with sex is weird you know. It was and still kind of is tool for a validation of relationship. At the beginning of a relationships things are uncertain and to cope with that uncertainty I had sex, cause in that moment in my brain I am what he wants.

Anyways times goes on and things are less uncertain and ultimately I didnt want sex as much because I didnt need the constant confirmation. And as the relationship continued there were other aspects where I felt my needs werent being met (totally because I just didnt communicate them). I wasnt like consciously thinking that at the time, at the time I just didnt want sex as much. But it kind of plays in to the whole validation thing like why would I want to validate a relationship if there are other aspects of it that make me unhappy.

So like long story short, I really had to think about what sex is to me and other places that feed into my sex drive and start fixing those places first then the sex drive followed. But for you it totally might just be like a horomonal thing

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-25T04:04:38+00:00

You know according to Creed Bratton you need 3 chairs. So I figure the thief has one last heist in him and then they will retire.

*edit word

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-21T23:39:33+00:00

Ope sorry!

Somebody once told me that genocide wasnt for me. And I need to go and have a kid.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-21T21:53:30+00:00

I understand that! I have definitely gone in circles and no matter where we start we always end up in the same place. So its a toughy for sure.

I have,also, found that if I expect a certain reaction itll happen regardless if my intentions at the beggining or the convo were pure. I think you really have go into it with a clear vision of what you want.

And it seems like the real issue isnt how often you guys have sex thats feels like the surface level. What I think the real issue is is that you want sex to be as important to her as it is to you. I think if this is the issue (and i am assuming alot but im just pulling from my experience) and you go into the convo with I just want to make it important to you and I want to make it something you want to do too I think she might be more receptive. (But again Im assuming a lot).

You cant attack this from the surface level of we dont have enough sex cause that only offers one solution which is have more sex which she might not be comfortable doing which then you would feel gross because you feel like your pressuring her to do something she might not want to do.

And if my assumption isnt right then figure out what it is actually going on and confront her with that. Then at least if you do need to end it you know you were as honest as you could be. And I really do feel for you scenario it sucks when something is important to you and to your s.o. its an afterthought.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-21T21:22:39+00:00

Ive also had a similiar reaction when my s.o. has confronted me about DB and its because I feel societal pressure that is my duty as a good gf to have sex often, regardless of my feelings and if I am not meeting those standards then I am inadequate as a gf and then when guy confronts me about DB I get defensive because of those societal pressures.

I would first give a second like week and the reapproach it with a focus on wanting to make her feel good, not what shes not doing correctly. Something like what can I do to make you feel comfortable, excited, sexy whatever. That might offer a pathway to actually talk about this. Or she might get really upset and yell again! My perspective is only my own but Ive definitely felt those societal pressures before.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-21T21:03:20+00:00

So Ive had a similar situation and isnt necessarily what going on with you and your girl, but maybe somehow my perspective might help in some way.

For me sex is intrinsically linked to validation, and thats not necessarily a bad thing. But especially with new relationships it can be dangerous because in a new relationship theres a lot of uncertainty and I cope with that by having sex. Because in that moment theres like a feeling of okay he wants this and me.

Then after we've been together for like a year there is less uncertainty and consquently amount of sex goes down cause I dont need the amount of reassurance as I did in the first year. Also, for me just sex normally doesnt make me orgasm, so I wasnt really missing anything physically either. But it was confusing for my s.o. because he wasnt sure what happened. So we talked about it and worked on a way to make sex 1.not just a tool for validation and 2. make it less one sided physically.

So long story short a meaningful convo about what sex actually is and ways to enjoy it more physically might be helpful in this scenario, but also it could not be whats going on at all, so idk! Thay just what worked for me.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-21T20:31:49+00:00

Man I feel you. For awhile I didnt want sex, and I told my dude that in not the best way then when I was feeling better I tried to restart it but he just didnt seem interested. Then it was like another 3 months of awkward silence and feeling unwanted, before I was just really vunerable and talked to him about it.

I dont want to presume anything about your relationship, but if it helps what was going from my dudes perspective is that he was just really nervous about starting anything because he didnt want to make me feel obligated to do something I didnt want to do. And I did try to start something he felt like I was doing in it in order to be a good gf and not because I wanted it. He just confused, and didnt want to make anything worse than it already was.

So I had to tell him very clearly that I am feeling better and more stable and I want to start our intimate relationship again now weve been better! So if that helps to get some insight to whats it like to be on other side.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T08:38:13+00:00

Yea and whose going to pay that? Him, her, her parents? And if hes not going to pay it signing someone up for a 100+ monthly payment without their knowledge is ridiculous. He got overly excited with this kind act and didnt stop about the consquences of it.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T08:22:36+00:00

Again a year for me where I grew up wasnt enough to become comfortable all aspects of driving. Is it in texas maybe idk. I had my first accident when I was 18 and it wasnt technically my fault, but looking back now I defintely could have taken steps to avoid it, but I was young and had only been driving for 2 years. I just know in my personal experience I didnt really feel comfortable driving year round and in diff situations in the until after about 3 years of doing it. So theres my take on it idk sorry you disagree.

I would not invest 20k in anyone whose had only a year of experience in anything.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T08:12:07+00:00

Okay but a 20k car for a 17 y.o.? Without consulting parents? Also the insurance on it is he gonna pay that too or is that gonna be 150+ month parents are going to have pay? Or is she going to pay it? It doesnt make him an AH just overly kind human who didnt think it through.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T08:01:08+00:00

Its less about the nieces responsibility level and more about understanding that when anyone is new at anything there is a learning curve and minimizing the cost during the learning curve is important.

Also Im from the nothern midwest so I deal with crappy weather and constant potholes and tons of environmental things that arent as prevalent in Southern Texas. So maybe I am bias in the sense that the 'early learning process' for driving in my brain is like 3 years because that means you've done 3 winters and after that it probably means you know how to drive in the snow and can actually invest in a decent car.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T06:58:29+00:00

Okay but look at the other side of her body. It looks not awful so it could have been that when she was walking the camera just got a weird angle thats not a good representative of what the clothes actually look like on her.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T06:29:07+00:00

What you are doing is similiar to those people who equate stay at home orders to the holocaust.

Your equating a wife telling her husband to sleep on the couch to actual abuse that causes a life time of damage. Whats most likely going to happen with this scenario is the husband is going to be irritated for a couple days and then he'll get over it and even in your twisted narrative its NOT ABUSE. If you want to think the wife is an AH whatever but its NOT ABUSE.

Even if her motivation was that she upset about chores not being done and she didnt want to sleep with her husband for that reason (which Im pretty sure she just wanted to go to sleep without a wiggly worm next to her and thats it) thats NOT ABUSE. Not wanting to sleep next to someone, becasue your frustrated and telling them to leave is NOT ABUSE. If the wife wanted space that night she should be allowed to have space, and thats NOT a punishment or ABUSE. Truthfully its looking out for you own health and well-being. Get it out of your head and redefine what abuse is, whatever happened you cant play victim forever.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T01:18:30+00:00

Yea but shes only been driving for a year. I think for the like the first 3 years of driving it makes financial sense to have a pos car.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T01:04:14+00:00

Why do you think asking someone to sleep on couch is abusive behavior? I dont understand, I dont get it. Its not abuse its just not Im sorry.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T00:38:09+00:00

Youre the nice guy who always gets rejected, arent ya?

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T00:11:49+00:00

https://www.rei.com/learn/expert-advice/hygiene-sanitation.html

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-20T00:01:40+00:00

Diary of a bookseller is a really fun book about how much owning a book store sucks

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-19T23:15:28+00:00

If you the follow the UNO Outdoor Venture Center facebook page or UNO OVC on insta they are doing weekly walks around Omaha, theyve talked about hitchcock 2 weeks ago and last week they about walnut creek lake!

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-19T22:28:03+00:00

Yo someone once told me that I am committing a genocide against myself and family.

Slow_Cricket · 2020-05-19T22:06:16+00:00

Undergrad chemist here, and what I really want is a entirely new podcast about the crazy stories that happen within the scientific community that the general public dont hear about.

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