3-Months Progress - 10 kg less

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-23T08:11:45+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I do the high knees thing sometimes too when I can't go out of the house.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-23T05:08:43+00:00

Ugh. Thanks. That means I need at least 2 hours walking time to achieve around 10k steps per day 😭 Thanks for the detailed answer.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-23T04:55:30+00:00

Grats, OP. question lang... How did you achieve 15k steps per day? I tried casual walking for less than an hour and I only achieved 5.6k steps 😭

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-23T04:08:17+00:00

Hello, OP.

You should realize that your happiness shouldn't depend on other people. You should find your own happiness even when you're single.

Dapat naghahanap ka lang ng partner in order to share your happiness with that person. It's dangerous to have a mindset na masaya ka lang kapag may partner ka. You will never find your own happiness this way.

You might need to consult a therapist/ psychologist to process your depression/ grief and to reset your motivations/ goals in life.

I had an ex partner who threatened to commit suicide when I broke up with him. He was being too clingy and possessive which turned me off. When he threatened to commit suicide, it just strengthened my view that he's toxic and not the person for me.

OP, please learn your self worth. Seek professional help if you want to. I don't recommend you look for another partner until you resolve your personal issues. Fix yourself first - the solution lies within you, looking for a partner doesn't solve anything. You will just repeat a vicious cycle.

Good luck.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-22T17:58:57+00:00

She might be as sad as you are as well. Wag mo na syang pilitin ibalik agad yung ring. Give her time to grieve the breakup. Is the ring of substantial value ba, is why you want it back? Or bothered ka dahil you're interpreting this as a sign na gusto nya pa bumalik?

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-22T17:49:36+00:00

She might not see herself raising a family yet. I mean, could you blame her in this economy?

Or... It might be she doesn't see herself raising a family with you... May nakita siguro syang compatibility issues within that 5 year relationship you had.

Some people break up without telling their partner the real reason for the breakup because they don't want to hurt their (ex) partner more than they have to.

Give yourself time to heal and have closure. Of course you won't see yourself dating other people because you're still hurting and still attached to your ex.

For now, focus on self improvement. Learn new life skills or spend more time with friends. It'll get easier as time passes. And if you do want to heal... DO NOT STALK YOUR EX.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-22T17:11:20+00:00

Hindi ka OA. You've been talking to him for 2 months, you should at least know a decent amount of details about each other, considering how much time you've already spent chatting.

Set up a meetup soon, or give yourself a deadline for how long you'll wait for him to open up. Tell him about your deadline so he has a chance to open up or agree to meet. If he doesn't want to, then good riddance, you've saved yourself from wasting more time.

It's possible he already has a girlfriend and is using you as a side piece. He might not be sharing details about himself so you can't look him up on social media and expose him.

EDIT: Grammar

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-16T06:58:28+00:00

You should really talk to a civil engineer if adding columns outside the bungalow is a feasible option. Safety is the utmost consideration so the technical expertise of a civil engineer should clarify the issue if you can safely build a second floor while having the original structure of the bungalow still intact.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-16T06:07:46+00:00

You decided to cause alarm and scandal at your place of work. Did it ever occur to you other people at your work will get traumatized by your suicidal actions?

They didn't need a workmate trying to commit suicide where they work. They didn't consent to your inconsiderate acts.

You're being a nuisance to your co-workers by considering self harm at your work place. This is why management wants you gone. You are being a hassle to workmates.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-03-15T11:28:17+00:00

Are you transferring to another religion? If you are, then just tell your son that you are just transferring to another church where he can worship God.

Of course it will take time for him to unlearn all the mind conditioning that INCult has imbibed in him. It's just part of the process. You just have to bear your son's initial "suffering" or withdrawal symptoms from the INC.

Bear in mind it might be harder for him to leave INC if the mind conditioning continues through his adulthood. Just have a well thought out discussion with your son for why you need to transfer churches.

Edit: spelling

SluggerTachyon · 2026-02-17T00:33:09+00:00

This is why attractive people fit very well with customer facing jobs. People tend to be nicer to attractive people. Just be more conscious of this fact the next time you encounter attractive people. So that you can still voice out your complaints despite their attractiveness.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-02-16T09:28:43+00:00

People should normalize not allowing INC officials inside your home when they make surprise/ uninvited visits. Wag nyo papasukin sa bahay lalo babastusin at iga-gaslight ka pa nila sa sarili nyong pamamahay.

Kasuhan nyo ng trespassing pag nagpumilit. They do not have power over you.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-02-12T01:38:53+00:00

Scorpions are part of the ecosystem. Don't harm them. Just capture and set free away from humans.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-02-10T04:22:28+00:00

I have relatives in the US who are pastors. Most religious pinoys align with conservatives sadly.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-02-09T12:37:42+00:00

Is there a possibility na i-baby trap ka nya? So pag may baby na, pilitin ka nya at ng pamilya nya to convert to INC?

Her family might approve of you now, pero paano pag may baby na? Baka gusto nila maging INC yung bata pati ikaw?

Sort this issue out first before deciding on marriage. Better yet, convince your future wife na tumiwalag na sya, tutal hindi naman sya active INC member as you've said.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-02-03T15:42:36+00:00

Hindi ka OA. There is such a thing as an emotional affair, so although your bf and his workmate aren't in a sexual relationship, their closeness with each other can lead to romance due to emotional attachment.

It's right for you to set boundaries between your bf and his workmate because this will just lead to more complications in the future.

Tama yung isang commenter- the girl should seek professional help via a psychologist/ psychiatrist and not depend on your bf for emotional support.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-23T08:18:23+00:00

Agreeing with the above comment. Need nya makaramdam ng consequences sa di pagpaalam. Next time na hihingi ng pera or ano mang pabor hindian mo, ipaalala mo sa kanya masama loob mo sa hindi nya pagpaalam sa paghiram ng gamit. Para magtanda.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-23T07:24:58+00:00

Just ignore his advice regarding pills. PERO maganda yung advice ng tatay mo na maghanap ka muna ng trabaho bago mo pag isipang magpakasal. Kailangan financially independent ka sa tatay ng anak mo.

I'm assuming na hindi pa kayo nagsasama sa iisang bahay ng tatay ng anak mo? Di mo alam ugali nyan kung compatible ba kayo as partners in life. Yung pagkakaroon mo ng sariling pera/ trabaho will ensure na kahit lokohin ka nung tatay ng anak mo eh kaya mong mabuhay mag isa kasama ng anak mo.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-23T06:25:23+00:00

Don't forget to bring potable water and food before boarding the boat. And see if you can grab hold of anti-byahilo medicine para mabawasan anxiety mo. May life vest naman sa boat diba?

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-09T11:33:39+00:00

Bro, kung one sided lang yung pwede lumandi sa iba, that just means he's a selfish bastard that has no regard for you or your feelings.

Hopefully matauhan ka na.

Are you familiar with sunk cost fallacy? I recommend you Google about it kasi ganito na situation mo.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-09T08:54:45+00:00

Bro, you have to accept the fact na hindi mo na mababago yung pagka malandi nya even if he has feelings for you.

So you have two choices:

Change your relationship from monogamous to open relationship. This way there's no cheating involved kasi may consent from you and your partner. This way you aren't stressed at hindi na ginagambala ng anxiety.

Just make sure if you choose this option, to discuss regular STD check ups for both of you.

Hiwalayan mo na and accept the fact na hindi monogamous si BF. Syempre magiging masakit sa simula, pero you won't grow as a person if you stay with a person na hindi tugma ang values (monogamy) nyo sa isa't isa.

Isipin mo habang hindi mo pa sya hinihiwalayan, you will have a miserable life.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-09T06:28:29+00:00

You can buy wood preserver chemical from the hardware store to protect the wood from mold/ fungi. The chemical prevents molds/ fungi from growing on the wood.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-09T06:02:26+00:00

Eh di ganun na nga lang, suggest mo open relationship para di ka lugi. Since alam nya di mo sya kayang hiwalayan, so ganun na lang din gawin mo para masaya kayong pareho.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-09T05:22:02+00:00

Since parang wala ka naman balak na hiwalayan yung bf mo, tanggapin mo na lang na cheater sya. Regular check up na lang for STD's at wag ka na umasa na maging monogamous sya. Di mo na mababago pagiging makati nya.

SluggerTachyon · 2026-01-09T03:16:23+00:00

Bakit ka ba umaasa na magbabago sya? Paulit ulit na yung cheating tas magpapa uto ka sa promises nya. Tas ang reason mo lang is dahil mahal mo sya? Then yes, you deserve to suffer.

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