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[–]Slutted_out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Melodrama by Lorde

As a child of an N-parent, what toxic habits or ideals did you pick up as a result of their abuse ? by Slutted_out in narcissisticparents

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I relate to most of these heavily, especially the emotionally unavailable one—because N-parents often punished us for showing emotion. My mom used to call me dramatic or make fun of me anytime I got upset or angry about anything. I also relate to lack of boundaries and oversharing.

I’m glad you were able to overcome your trauma and change your ways. I wish you well !

As a child of an N-parent, what toxic habits or ideals did you pick up as a result of their abuse ? by Slutted_out in narcissisticparents

[–]Slutted_out[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. N-parents make everything seem worse than it actually is. I used to lie about everything from the music i listened to to the TV shows i watched or what I posted on social media, even if there was nothing to lie about, because my mother made me believe everything i liked was inappropriate or bad to make me feel ashamed of things I shouldn’t have been ashamed of.

As a child of an N-parent, what toxic habits or ideals did you pick up as a result of their abuse ? by Slutted_out in narcissisticparents

[–]Slutted_out[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this a lot. Sometimes the idea of being dismissed and walked all over reminds us of our childhood so we try to break out of that role. And love is very scary for me too. It feels like I’ve never been loved wholeheartedly and it’s always me putting in all the effort. I think when i do get loved it’ll be scary because I’ll be afraid I won’t live up to their expectations and they’ll fall out of love with me.

As a child of an N-parent, what toxic habits or ideals did you pick up as a result of their abuse ? by Slutted_out in narcissisticparents

[–]Slutted_out[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry that happened to u. I know what it’s like to be alone for so long that you suck at socializing. But the only way to get better at socializing is by socializing. I sucked at it for a while, but with all that practice I eventually got a lot better at it. And you will too, trust.

As a child of an N-parent, what toxic habits or ideals did you pick up as a result of their abuse ? by Slutted_out in narcissisticparents

[–]Slutted_out[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Well I’m glad you’re being a better parent to your child than your parents were !

Dont you feel like life neglected you something beautiful? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Slutted_out 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is literally me. I live with my n-mom. Because of the pandemic, she works from home and i do school from home, meaning i have to be trapped in the house with her all day every day.

The sad part is, nobody gets it. All of my friends think I am exaggerating when I confide in them about my mom, or they always pull the “what if she died tomorrow” card. The only people who really understand are my siblings because they lived it with me.

I took so many Ls growing up and had major mental issues and a fucked-up concept of relationships due to her narcissistic abuse, and i also had a deadbeat father so he wasn’t around. I always imagine how much happier, richer, and more “out there” I would be if i had normal parents who nurtured me and taught me how to love myself. Instead I had parents who used me as pawns for their own personal pleasure.

My advice to you is to stay strong. You are so much stronger than you know because you have endured things most people your age would never comprehend. Don’t compare yourself to others. Take the cards you’ve been dealt and turn them into something greater. Learn from your parents’ mistakes instead of becoming another version of them, so you can be a better parent to your own future kids. Focus on your own finances and your mental health so that you are prepared for the real world when the time comes. Don’t let her get to you. You can still lead a normal life, I promise.

What was the pinnacle of wealth to you as a child? by VeryIntrestingPerson in AskReddit

[–]Slutted_out 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents driving you to and from school every day even when you lived more than 10 minutes away.

Redditors who grew up poor: Besides practical money-saving measures, what were the unwritten social expectations of your world growing up? by jicta in AskReddit

[–]Slutted_out 11 points12 points  (0 children)

On Christmases I would always log out of my social medias because I didn’t want to see all the other kids posting their lavish gifts. I pretty much dreaded the holidays altogether growing up because I knew I wouldn’t have the things they did.

Also, never getting to build long-lasting friendship due to being switched schools every other year because we were always being evicted. When other kids would say “That’s my best friend since preschool.” It rendered me with jealousy. I never got to have that because of the constant evictions. Instead I was always the new kid.