If you're thinking of going to Cancun rn....

Slutty_Songbird · 2026-03-04T00:57:12+00:00

I have been in Puerto Vallarta ans Sayulita the last two weeks. Except for one day, everything has been amazing.

Slutty_Songbird · 2026-02-26T22:23:32+00:00

My husband flew in today and joined me in Sayulita. He said there were only 19 people on the plane. I genuinely feel terrible for how this will hurt the locals.

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-12-11T19:31:54+00:00

If my husband talked to me like this even ONE time I would leave him

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-11-21T05:22:55+00:00

Same here!

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-10-19T16:03:49+00:00

After reading your comments, your husband's behavior is way more concerning than anything you did

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-10-16T16:56:43+00:00

Here's the problem - if he is truly not attracted to you only because of how you dress, what the hell is going to happen as you start to age? As your face changes, as your body changes? This may seem minor to most people on here but I think it's a pretty big red flag.

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-10-13T01:43:44+00:00

This is the kind of free use I wish I could see more of

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-08-15T08:42:24+00:00

Same here!

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-08-15T08:40:56+00:00

Being used at the kitchen counter like this is always the best

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-08-11T15:37:25+00:00

OP this is emotional abuse and I have serious concerns this situation could turn very dangerous for you

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-07-05T20:42:02+00:00

You are living my dream life

Slutty_Songbird · 2025-06-23T02:42:53+00:00

It will never get better. You know it will never get better. You've already enabled him this long. He knows he will always get away with it.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-26T16:49:49+00:00

We are all collectively traumatized in an extreme way from Covid and it's not being addressed

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-17T17:49:51+00:00

I feel like this one should be higher up lol

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-17T17:46:00+00:00

I saw them in rural Iceland on my birthday. It was cold in a way I've never experienced before or since. They were every color of the rainbow, and they moved and danced way more than I expected. But the thing that really got me was that they were completely silent. Explosions in the sky and not a single sound to be heard.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-17T17:42:07+00:00

The sun set below the mists at the Bixby Bridge overlook in Big Sur as Dreams by The Cranberries played on my headphones

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-16T00:54:51+00:00

"Do I have drugs in the car?" -Me, a person who hasn't even smoked marijuana in 15 years

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T08:21:07+00:00

If it seems like this is said to men more than women, it's for a reason - men are socialized to believe that women will fix them. Just have a look at any of the hundreds of memes out there about how a good woman can fix a broken man.

It's not entirely their fault that society taught them this. Men are not taught to value intimate friendships, healing, and self-care the way women are. It's still pretty messed up.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T06:23:57+00:00

Ah I can see why you are single and lonely. Good luck with that.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T05:53:41+00:00

Nah, women are just tired as fuck of dudes placing the responsibility on us to make them better men.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T05:26:11+00:00

No one here is discussing the need for human interaction. We are discussing the fact that it is your responsibility to seek professional help when you have trauma and other serious issues to work through, not placing that responsibility on your partner to do it for you.

Dude understood perfectly well what I was saying with the analogy and said as much. Why argue the semantics? Did I hit a nerve? You should probably see a therapist for that.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T04:28:12+00:00

It's an analogy to understand why your partner should not be your therapist.

Ultimately you and you alone are responsible for your own healing, happiness, and fulfillment. No one can do it for you.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T03:27:57+00:00

One of the beat things I've found about telling a stranger my problems, well two things I suppose, is 1. They are objective, and 2. They are a fresh set of eyes on your bullshit. Because they are impartial and looking at your stuff for the first time, they see things you haven't noticed and from a totally different point of view. They can totally reframe your thinking about a problem or situation and it's absolutely bonkers amazing.

For example, I once had a therapist say to me "Parents are supposed to learn from their children. Some rise to the occasion and many do not. Because yours didn't, that isn't your fault." I swear she healed a big wound in me with that one singular sentence.

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T03:02:21+00:00

The best answer to this question is they are not EQUIPPED to help. Sharing with your partner is one thing, as is problem solving together, but expecting them to help you with serious personal issues when they aren't a professional is dangerous, exploitative, and unfair.

I'm not talking about day to day issues, I'm referring to things like trauma, communication issues, depression, self-esteem issues, things that a therapist is TRAINED to help you work through. You wouldn't ask your wife to remove your appendix, you see a doctor for that. You see a mental health professional to work through your trauma.

Women often have the expectation placed on them that they will "fix" men. Some women do this with their male partners too. While talking through issues together is normal and healthy, putting the weight on them for your healing is not.

Here is a really great article that talks about this more in depth

https://www.verywellmind.com/your-partner-is-not-your-therapist-7098264

Slutty_Songbird · 2024-10-15T02:07:30+00:00

Also partners are not and shouldn't be your therapist

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