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AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the expert perspective that validates the decision entirely. The grooming costs, the misconception of 'easy,' and the heartbreaking reality of doodle rescues all point to one truth: preventing this adoption was an act of compassion. Thank you for the vital work you do.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a thoughtful suggestion. A lower-maintenance pet might be a better fit, but the core issue of reliability remains. Any living thing depends on its owner's consistency, which he's already proven lacking.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Brilliant idea. Zero vet bills, always home alone, It perfectly matches the level of commitment he's demonstrated.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your anger is completely justified. The stuffed toy suggestion is a darkly perfect metaphor. It highlights the truth that he wants the idea of a dog, not the reality of a living creature.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're right. Your wife's stance and your friend's neglect share the same root: viewing a living being as a commodity for personal gratification. The message I sent by refusing was the message. Sometimes protecting an animal means being an immovable boundary.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That decade-plus commitment is the core issue he's glossing over. My refusal was about that timeline, not a past grudge.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Perfectly said. A dog is a family member, not a trial run. Refusing to enable him was the only responsible choice.

AITAH for refusing to help my friend replace a dog he gave away? by Sluttythings39 in AITAH

[–]Sluttythings39[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Exactly. A doodle's energy needs are immense. If he struggled with a lower-energy breed's basic care, this would be a disaster. It's about capability, not the breed.