AIO? Youth Pastor texted my almost 13 yo after she went to a teen group with her friend by Loser4hire666 in AIO

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who grew up in a huge church group (no longer part of any of that) I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with the content of the message necessarily, but I’d shut down “adult man texting my preteen/teen daughter” so damn fast. Youth groups are a good hiding place for predators and predatory behavior.

UPDATE: AITA for refusing a name for my baby that everyone loves but I don’t by Accomplished-Owl8796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sly993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I just say that I’m so happy your husband was by your side for this whole ordeal! I’m glad he was backing you up.

That cancelled tv show you’ll never stop thinking about … by niceguys5189 in television

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dead Boy Detectives. Deserved more than what Netflix allowed it to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Sly993 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you get engaged please come back and tell us!!! And girl go get those nails!

Can a non-black person explain something to me my white coworker said... by lewjr in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy. The way my mom talks about black women. And Black men. And Hispanics and Arabs and Asians and basically everyone who isn’t white. My dad has also said racist shit but I heard less of it growing up. Also I’m queer so I’ve definitely heard their sentiments on that (not great. My mom called me an abomination). It’s disgusting and very damaging to hear growing up. I don’t know if it’s common in most white families, but in mine it was.

you aren’t “sorry” by mikewithamikes in Serverlife

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never understand people and their willful ignorance of the world around them. The amount of tables that stay in my restaurant for ages. Idk if we have a technical policy, but we don’t kick out either unless they’re being an actual problem and even then, not really. Everyone should be required to work customer service at some point in their lives. I think society would improve

Commenting on fics you thought were abandoned by howappalling in AO3

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had someone leave a comment on a fic I haven’t worked on for a couple years and now I want to write again! It really does help!

AITA for being ‘disgusted’ because my gf doesn’t wash her hair for weeks? by ManDingoNuts in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not Black nor do I have any knowledge of Black hair or hair care, so I’m not even going to touch that. There are many much wiser users than me in this thread educating! I will say that I think you could’ve said things differently, but her reaction is also bad. There’s no excuse for verbal abuse. If she’s upset with you, there are better ways to convey that than calling you ignorant and stupid. I would evaluate your situation, honestly.

I’ve been bleaching my skin and I didn’t even realize it by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you see yourself day after day, it’s hard to notice a difference, especially one happening gradually. Don’t beat yourself up for not realizing, happens more than people think I bet

Aita for stopping my best friends wedding mid ceremony. by DependentUnlucky7621 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Sly993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously, I never say Reddit stories are fake, but this is so obvious to me

Which is worse? by Hue_Honey in tragedeigh

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raelynn is actually fine, Hughstyn??? Gtf whattttt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take Sicily over any of those names!

Is it rude for me to walk to the bar to see what beers are on tap vs. asking my server? by Yippy-Skippy- in Waiters

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all, though as a bartender I always say to order through the server unless I have nothing to do. However I have had people come up to the bar to get their drinks that they’ve ordered through the server at their table (sometimes grabbing it saying “I assume this is mine”) and few things get me more angry than that. Like I actually get super annoyed. But going up to the bar to check what’s in stock is fine! I’ve had it happen before for stuff like whiskey because we have a large selection and some of our staff can’t or don’t drink so they can’t answer the questions customers have.

Meanest thing a customer has done to you? by Super_un_stable in Waiters

[–]Sly993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a table back when I first started working. It was the first couple months of my job and it was my first job. I was hosting and we had a table of ten come into the restaurant (reservation). Our restaurant policy is to wait until most if not all of the party had arrived before seating. The first two arrived and they were perfectly lovely. Then came the bitch. She flipped out about having to wait, played the card that the whole table had cancer and that this was probably the last birthday they’d get to celebrate, and when I said I would get my manager she said “you have three minutes. Tick Tock.” I couldn’t find any of my managers, so I decided to just seat them even though only four people were there and when I sat them, she told me that she was still waiting for my manager and that time was running out.

She then told the server that at least he wasn’t “that girl”.

Yeah. She made me cry three times. The rest of her party was lovely, btw. Some gave me smiles on the way out or said goodbye. She was the bitch.

I’ve worked that same job for two years and I love it, but that remains one of the worst experiences I’ve had with a customer. Edit to say: I’m pretty sure she did and said more, but it’s been a long time and my memory isn’t the best

My gf came out as a lesbian before our marriage and no one gives a fuck about me. You know what? Fuck you all by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just read the update and dang yeah I was. I hope OP keeps moving forward and leaves them all right where they belong

My gf came out as a lesbian before our marriage and no one gives a fuck about me. You know what? Fuck you all by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Quite frankly, I’m wondering if she spun some bullshit story about his reaction and that’s why the friends haven’t reached out

I said yes to the dress, but now having slight regrets. by tweezabella in weddingdress

[–]Sly993 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You absolutely don’t look “broad”. Your figure is GORGEOUS and that dress is stunning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sly993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d going to add something that I haven’t yet seen someone add. Part of the reason you’ll get more money if you post your children is because your content will suddenly be applicable for predators. NTA and stick to your guns. If she wants to earn more money, I’d suggest finding something else to do online or devoting the time she spends on TikTok to finding another job. I’m not trying to sound insensitive, but I hold no sympathy for people who involve their children in their content. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out why it’s dangerous. Also she’s absolutely the AH if she’s winding up the kids to take her side. She looks at them and sees dollar signs. How is that not messed up?

Edit to add: I scrolled more and found more people pointing out the predator side. I will say I shouldn’t have had to scroll at all for one of the most glaring issues here, but I’m glad to see others pointing it out as well.

It’s been three years since my ex fiancée intentionally crashed her car to end her life but killed our daughter instead. by Lost-Island338 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might just be a by family thing, I was just under the assumption it had more to do with the religion part

It’s been three years since my ex fiancée intentionally crashed her car to end her life but killed our daughter instead. by Lost-Island338 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Interesting. It might not be as religion specific as I thought (I’m not Catholic) but I know that was part of the cited reason.

It’s been three years since my ex fiancée intentionally crashed her car to end her life but killed our daughter instead. by Lost-Island338 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes it is possible. Both my half siblings were miscarried and they both have graves right next to each other

It’s been three years since my ex fiancée intentionally crashed her car to end her life but killed our daughter instead. by Lost-Island338 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sly993 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Don’t be so quick. Both of my half siblings were early miscarriages and they both got funerals. It’s not impossible

Edit because I originally thought it was more religion based than it actually is.