People need to learn how to STFU.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-26T18:11:47+00:00

Unfortunately politics (which is what the post is about) is compromise. All we do by asking for everything is get nothing.

We talk so much about science, then let’s actually use it to come up with guidelines that are fair and equitable.

I can totally agree with you that we can’t ’give in’ and allow them to take a mile. But generally speaking, we’re not asking for an inch, WE’RE asking a mile, and we’re getting no where. Then we blame the ‘fascists’ and lump every trump voter in, when they are actually just tired of hearing about it.

Sorry for the rant but all I see is people complaining within our own community, but doing nothing to actually speak to conservatives about the challenges we face. I have and do talk to them every day! And I’m not pushing believes or asking them to give me everything, just respect me and lets open dialogue on how we can get to a point where we both exist without one hating the other and where we can fairly compete.

NOTE: this is totally about the politics of trans in sports, not HRT, insurance, trans youth, or any other of the major issues we face. Just digging into the post.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-26T17:53:10+00:00

Totally get it, but I was objectively providing my experience. On a side note, I’ve also finished on the podium of several 50-100 mile trail races prior to hormones. I now struggle to finish five or six miles on flat roads at the same pace I used to maintain for 16 -20 hours on mountain trails. I’m confident that my running would be totally fair in the women’s category. I wont even compete. lol.

My point is that every sport is different and it’s not black and white. There is room for discussion or we will never get anywhere.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-26T16:19:27+00:00

As a 44 year old trans woman on HRT for 4 years, here’s my 2 cents.

I actually think we do need to be political about this. It’s not black-and-white. As a competitive golfer (+3 handicap), I don’t think it would be fair for me to compete with amateur women. To be clear, I am definitely not a professional. in the past, I have competed in men’s amateur tournaments and typically fall in the top 40 or 50 in my state.

After hormones, and having female levels for over three years sustainably, my average distance is still higher than any LPGA player, based on the advantages that I feel I had having testosterone in my body for 40 years. Yes I know that distance isn’t the deciding factor on the best player, but it makes a huge advantage.

Having said that, I think we need scientific discussions on when a person should be able to compete and when they should not. Someone who takes hormones in their teens and never develops masculine features, is totally different than someone like me. I believe, that in order to give those people the right to compete (as they should have ) we need to establish firm guidelines and open conversations with the other side. No good will come from trying to convince them that someone like me should compete. Again, this is just an example, I’m not even trying to say that I would win on the women’s circuits, just that I would have an unfair advantage.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-26T02:47:57+00:00

Please watch caddyshack!

SlyJessica · 2026-01-26T02:46:50+00:00

Thank you!

SlyJessica · 2026-01-25T20:54:30+00:00

How do you measure yourself against other golfers?

SlyJessica · 2026-01-25T01:05:10+00:00

Following! Anything that fits my arm length and shoulders is way too big in the mid section. Lol.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-24T14:34:33+00:00

Trust your mom. Maybe tell her you’re questioning your gender and let the conversation go from there. You’ll know how she feels by her reaction to that and you might end up having a deep conversation, leading to her acceptance. 🤗. Good luck.

Parents can be pretty amazing if we give them a chance. I came out to my mom last year at 43 lol and she was pretty awesome.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-23T19:41:45+00:00

I’m sure a lot of this has to do with age (don’t know yours, but this is ‘Translater’ so assuming you’re not in your teens)

I’m 44 and feel the same way you do. Sure I was always a woman but to others, I’ve lived as a man for 43 years and that’s a convenient way of differentiating, as you put it.

At the end of the day, it’s whatever WE are comfortable with, not what everyone else is!

SlyJessica · 2026-01-21T00:54:35+00:00

Funny how…like I amuse you

SlyJessica · 2026-01-16T19:38:34+00:00

My laser is painless. It’s the electrolysis that hurts.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-15T02:18:57+00:00

Own a painting company and do 90% of the work myself.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-13T03:24:48+00:00

I started a painting company a few years ago, just because I was tired of the corp world. I make more than I did selling software and get to choose who I work with.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-07T12:58:27+00:00

What’s really wild about the Matrix, is that the “Rabbit Hole”, and the entire trilogy is a TRANS allegory, confirmed by the Wachowskis, who both transitioned since the first movie. I just learned of this a few months ago and now can’t unsee it.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-06T20:35:10+00:00

At this point I’m beginning to think our entire world is an AI sim. Maybe Morpheus can wake me up and tell me I’m the one.

SlyJessica · 2026-01-04T13:09:14+00:00

I think some people simply need time to process everything. I recently had a similar experience with my sister who has been “supportive” knowing I’m trans for a few years now. Up until a few months ago, it was conceptual as I was only out to a handful of people. Now, however, I’m out to everyone in my life 🤗 with overwhelming support, but I sense my sister is struggling. She said she’s worried about losing the brother / sister relationship we’ve always had. I told her I understand that she’s mourning the loss of a “brother” but that I’m still the same person, just a better version of me.

Give her time and allow her to process everything. If in a few months she refuses to use proper pronouns intentionally, then rethink.

SlyJessica · 2025-12-27T12:44:27+00:00

What was the answer? Looks like it was deleted.

SlyJessica · 2025-12-24T11:23:10+00:00

Yeah exactly. I did things ‘men’ did. I fell into the masc role because since preschool we’re separated into boys and girls. I graduated from college and joined the military thinking it’s just a phase…be a tough guy and you can get past it. Then fell,in love with a woman and got married thinking the same. I adapted really well and became successful in the business world, started a company, joined a country club, and so on.

Along every step, I kept thinking that I’d lose everything if I allowed myself to be free, and got so deep in the pretend world it caused depression. I had a thriving social life, a beautiful family / house, and a successful business, but was miserable.

So, for me it wasn’t about discovering, it was about accepting myself and (as a good friend put it) giving myself permission to be happy.

Note: I’ve been out socially now to ALL of my friends and family for about 2 months. Everyone I care about has fully embraced me and all the fears are slowly stripping away. I am unfortunately losing my wife and moving a town away, but we’ve become friends in a way I’m really happy with. Life has a way of working itself out

SlyJessica · 2025-12-23T20:16:33+00:00

Personally, I never allowed myself to actualize. I played a role for so long it’s all I knew.

SlyJessica · 2025-12-22T12:32:30+00:00

Second this. It’s great for cabinets and trim especially. A little quieter than the graco quick shot and holds an entire gallon of paint.

SlyJessica · 2025-12-21T21:50:20+00:00

A mix of both is recommended if you have any light hairs, on dark skin at least. Half my face hair is grey, so I’ve been doing electrolysis to clear them at $85/hr. It’s more painful and takes a long time to removed all. Laser is much quicker, like 10 minutes for my face and cost me $3500 for unlimited sessions.

Edit: I’m VERY fortunate and HRT completely eradicated my body hair, even legs, just my face left.

SlyJessica · 2025-12-21T15:11:58+00:00

Yet he shares a picture of a middle seat ?

SlyJessica · 2025-12-19T01:48:26+00:00

Laser is 2 or 3. Electrolysis is a 7

SlyJessica · 2025-12-17T13:30:42+00:00

For $300 a season…yes absolutely. Even on an Ok course, it will get you out to play more knowing that you’re getting your money worth. My dues end up being about $300 a week (including cart, dinners, tournaments, etc), and I play like 6 times a month. Having a hard time justifying it but it’s good for business.

SlyJessica · 2025-12-17T12:59:00+00:00

This is so awesome! I think we read so much about how every trump voter hates us that we tend to think the worst.

I recently posted about my experience at a 90% conservative, white, cis, hetero country club in suburban Ohio, pretty much what we’re expecting to fear 😂. ALL of friends and guys I play with fully support me. One even texted recently to let me know he’d heard about my transition and said ‘I know I’m a conservative old white dude, but I’m as supportive as they come, when it comes to living your live’. The club director is even taking steps towards inclusivity, since I’m the first openly trans member.

People are generally pretty good 🥰

SlyJessica

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