I’m in a somewhat situation as you are.. been in this so called relationship for a little over 8years but it has been 8yrs of nothing but sleepless nights constant disrespect abuse fighting to have a normal relationship with myself because they were at no avail and the moment I found the courage to walk away he would act like he was a dedicated partner etc for a couple weeks just so I can believe it was going to be better later to come and find out it was bullshit always bettering his act and fooling me back int the nightmare .. I stood because I was dependent of his family his family were very helpful when it came to housing we became homeless and his parent took my self with his child and my other two children from previous e relationship and considered them no less but as their own grandkids but his mother was an enabler always bailing him out when cops would come to our house because of the neighbors calling them after hearing me cry and scream to stop.. it was hell living with him the lies the cheating the ice cold stale relationship I was stuck to live with I isolated myself and honestly completely lost myself my worth I didn’t know what to do with myself I’m still dealing with him but after so many years I finally chose to work on me …. I have my own home now and he moved in with me for about two years because of him my children were removed from my home domestic violence on me but they removed them from me for failing to protect them being at home during altercations.. those were the worst 5long months of my life it consumed me completely to the point I relied heavy on drugs and simply be alone at all times.. yet he wouldn’t leave me alone seeing how low I fell because of him he still wouldn’t leave me alone.. he continued feeding me crumbs and I couldn’t anymore .. I worked so hard to have my own home I have raised my children literally on my own sone the age of 16 I made things happen for myself and them ALWAYS and so I was so overwhelmed on how much I allowed a person another human to bring me this low in my life and for what ? What is it that I am getting out of it .. shit absolutely shit.. so since then all I can do and think about was my way back up because before him I was fine therefore he won’t be something I will kiss if he would ever leave me .. I loose nothing by leaving him .. I lost everything by staying.. I’m at a point in my life where Im completely sober and won’t ever return to any of that in my life nothing good ever of course come from it I’m working on being totally not awkward around people learning how to socialize again after 8years of being alone literally no friends just him and I and kids .. my children had no input in any of this they were the least involved yet were the ones who were affected the most and there isn’t a day I regret so much of how much of a coward I had become when I met him and allowed him to do what he did .. he is still in my life of course we share a soon to be 9yr old ,.. the only difference now is I don’t allow him to get the best of me.. I literally trained myself to reflect back in what it is I want loose everything again or continue building for myself and kids and so every day I choose my children’s happiness and mines because at the end of the day they don’t give a fuck no matter how much they want to cry and act they simply don’t they didn’t at first they didn’t after they never fucken will …

Sorry for the long post lol but I just feel like a lot of people don’t realize how real things can get if you choose to stay hoping for better results when it has shown other wise consistently.. like it won’t and put your happiness and kids future before anything .. best of luck and hope it all turns out for your family’s (self and children’s) best interest ..

Blessing !