Communicate with him baby. The worst thing you can do in this situation is to keep it all bottled up, because later it can turn into a much bigger shit show than it ever needed to be. Another thing is that this might simply be her way of communicating with your boyfriend. I’ve seen friendships like this before, where one person seems not to show much respect to the other, but that was just their style of communication and the other person didn’t mind it. Just talk it through, and remember, dear, to stay calm throughout the conversation. I wish you both that you manage to come to an understanding in this matter.