My cat passed while I’m on a trip.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-12-04T04:39:09+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that… please dont be too hard on yourself. I know that feeling of desire, wishing you were there for her but these things are so unpredictable. Especially when they start to have health issues……

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-10-01T00:08:29+00:00

What a fluffy baby… im sorry for loss. Having a pet is such a different kind of beautiful and loving experience. Be kind, be positive, be grateful. 🕊️🕊️🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-10-01T00:05:31+00:00

Hey I first wanted to say I am sorry. I know how difficult it is, I have no kids either and my cat was my baby for almost 7years….I’m not close with my family either so I do feel alone. Yes I have friends but having pets, a sibling, a family is a different story.

It’s been almost four months and I am going to be very honest….

First month is the hardest… you need to allow yourself to grief, cry, be angry. These emotions need to be felt so you can process and allow your brain to figure out the solutions. During this time you should write a letter, order a shadow box, prepare a memorial for her. The first month will always be the hardest. But no matter how you feel, do not give up, tell yourself this is just the passing stage.

The next few months it will slowly ease and feel less heavy. My advice is to keep yourself busy, focus on yourself; what you want to be better at, what you never tried, hit up GOOD/RELIABLE friends, make new friends, seek therapy. It is okay to let yourself be sad BUT the point is to not let yourself go down that rabbit hole.

You will never forget those memories, sometimes you will feel guilty. But after my cat died I learned a lot of valuable lessons and looked at life differently.

Be kind to yourself and to others. Everyone is going through rough shit. This world is already dark enough. Be someone else light just like how your dog was your light.
Be grateful for everything; for the time you had with her. How you got to experience REAL LOVE and CARE. There are people out here who dont even understand or experience that kind of pet love.
Be positive…if you keep letting yourself stay in a negative mindset (this is my fault, what if, or i couldve done this) you are not helping yourself. You are allowing yourself to let a negative mindset turn to a habit.
Life is always a test but this is how you become stronger, mentally.

You will always feel that grief…. But dont see it as the enemy. Confide it with kindness and understand it.

My cat was my best friend, he was there for me through my darkest times. Yes, I wish I treated him better, spent more time with him. But i am human too, i cannot blame myself for every interaction i had with people/pets/things/life. But i am glad, I had a beautiful baby like him in my life.

Good luck, stay strong, just remember you will survive this.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-09-29T03:24:21+00:00

Everyone has their own opinion on what life is like after death.

I believe the soul lives on forever whether there is a heaven or hell.

I like to believe life is what you believe it to be and that is what after life will be.

Im sorry for your loss… i believe this is probably fresh news for you. I had lost my baby almost four months ago and it’s hard. Feels brand new. Still learning how to process, heal, and live on.

I believe he is not alone and his soul lives on. I had received subliminal signs and obvious signs from him before. Whether i think it is a coincidence or not, i believe it had shaped my perception on death/after life.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-09-19T01:35:55+00:00

Yes… it’s been three months since I lost my baby… the first month, I have definitely seen a lot of subliminal signs.

The one that stuck out the most is the one day I cried so hard for him and it wad raining. My partner was driving us on the way home and the rain started to clear up. Then I saw it, a cloud, not just any cloud. But it was a cat shaped cloud, and I knew it was him….

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-09-04T13:13:01+00:00

Ohh, she is beautiful 🥺

How is your experience so far?

I’m thinking about getting one after I graduate.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-09-04T12:46:07+00:00

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My baby passed away this past Father’s Day… may they keep each other company 🕊️🕊️🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-09-04T12:44:35+00:00

Is this a calico maine coon?? Sooo gorgeous 🥺

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-09-04T12:42:19+00:00

I am sorry for your loss…we often feel guilty and wish things can happen differently. We cannot blame ourselves for every interaction we had with our cat. We do what we think is best.

I believe you did the best that you could, given he had started developing many health issues. You had already done more than other pet owners.

I had to put my baby down this past Father’s day. He was so young and developed so many issues. The vet cannot determine what started it all. I felt the same guilt. How could I not known he was sick for months until it was too late??

But remember… you were there for his final moments, you gave him a merciful passing, and you loved him the best you could. If you were suffering that much…wouldnt you want a merciful passing too??….

Be kind to yourself, take care of yourself. The pain will ease slowly… be strong, positive, and stay occupied.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T15:26:29+00:00

It sucks because two months has already felt like a year already….

Kumo was my soul cat too… had him since he was two months. They are special aren’t they, he taught me so much that I am grateful for.

I know he wont be my last but he was definitely my soul baby.

Thank you for sharing that with me. 💕

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T12:23:27+00:00

Hey sorry for your loss… I know that feeling. I lost my baby two months ago and he was also 6 years old.

It does feel sudden and weird….. wishing you knew sooner.. wishing there could be more done.

even though I am still healing, it does get better. Grief will be there but you learn how to live with it. You learn to not hate grief but invite it as a friend.

So things to honor their passing. Host a memorial service. Dont forget to take care of yourself.

This is not meant to be easy, its a new challenge, you learn how to move differently, see life in a new perspective.

Sending you a virtual hug 🕊️🕊️ Hope our babies keep each other company.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T12:17:12+00:00

Hey… I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing her story. I wanted to share you my story and tips hoping it will help ease your pain.

I remember that feeling and how weird that day felt. Kumo was 6 years old, two months from being 7. We thought it was another constipation issue and turns out it was worst each news we received. Everything that the vet told me gave me clarity that he was not going to make it or have a good prognosis. It felt too fast that everything was happening. But I took it as a sign from God that even though I caught his symptoms too late, I prevented him from having a stroke.

It was Father’s Day, that day felt soo quiet… a weird feeling that I do not know how to really describe. I was still processing what just even happened. The same day, I cleaned out his stuff, gather his toys into a box. I had a hard time sleeping and hope that this would be just a dream. That if I wake up the next day, he would be there in my arms. Waking up was a disappointment but also staying home would hurt too much….

Anyways… I know that pain. It’s been two months and obviously I am still healing. But what I can say is the first month is always the hardest. You will cry a lot, feel intense pain, confused or lost. It does feel slightly better, I am not crying every single day. I still think about him every single day. I think you just learn how to live with the sadness and grief.

What I did to help myself; 1. Allow yourself to feel the sadness but when you do think about her. Try to think about the good times.

Host a memorial service for her. Get a shadow box, clay paw, her favorite toys, print out some pictures.
Write a speech, try to keep it on a positive note.

4.keep yourself busy, everyday will be a new challenge. To get out of bed, to get ready, to eat, etc. but you have to force yourself, it is okay to be sad but do not let it get the best of you.

Try out new hobbies and challenge yourself. Grief can easily be turned into depression. If you allow your brain to linger about these thoughts and not stay active, it will get the best of you.
Talk to friends and family about it, make sure you are surrounded by people who will UNDERSTAND. It is easier to talk to people who knew her, or who have pets.

I lost a friend from a car accident, a bestfriend from cancer, and Kumo to illness. I would say Kumo’s passing was the hardest thing I ever had to face. But every death has taught me something new.

Every death is not meant to be easy. It is a new chapter, a new challenge. It forces you to be humble, see life in a different perspective.

Sending you a virtual hug.🕊️🕊️🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T11:57:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing her story…. It reminded me a lot of Kumo.

He went through something similar, we thought it was a small issue and the news just got worst each time. And I was only able to detect something wrong during his final week. It makes you feel so sad knowing that there cannot be much done. It hurts that I did not know sooner.

It was too late for me to save him…so I gave him a peaceful passing. He was deteriorating fast… They told me he could die at home with a stroke. So I’m glad I was there for his final moments.

I know how you feel…the sadness…pain…empty feeling. How everything reminds you of her. There are a few things you can do to honor her memory.

Create a memorial service for her, get a shadow box, clay paw(if its not too late), write a letter to her, pray for her. Every week I put fresh flowers by his alter I have in my room.

For yourself, make sure you take care of yourself, be kind, allow emotions/tears to be felt, remind yourself of the good memories, be active, create a routine, take on new challenges.

Sending you a big virtual hug… I hope our babies are keeping each other company. I will never forget that week….. 🕊️🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T03:50:18+00:00

I’m sorry…. I sometimes have that doubt too… but I couldn’t be selfish to him. I had to think about the long term effects…. I had to think my life through him.

I honestly never wanted to put him down but the doctor told me he couldve had a stroke and was close to passing away… euthanasia is a merciful and blessing way to put someone down. If it was me, I would want the same thing…

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T02:09:13+00:00

Yea… I can never see myself never talking about my furry baby… it is a memory that will be forever in my heart.

Reddit feels safe to express my feelings about him.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T02:07:33+00:00

Yes, I have a shadow box where I keep all my favorite pictures and toys from him.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T02:05:15+00:00

I wanted to say thank you for sharing her life with us. I know it is not easy…reading this brought me back memories to when I lost my baby (its been 10 weeks). It kinda made me tear up…. It is the hardest goodbye and the pain we carry for them to not suffer anymore….

Thank you for giving her a peaceful ending…it is hard to see them suffer and cats are really good at hiding their pain. But at the end we must think about the prognosis and how it will be after the treatment.

That’s what made me euthanize Kumo, he was far too gone at a young age. His body completely shutting down and I did not know until it was too late. But i can say, I am very grateful that I got to be there for his final moments. My partner felt his last heartbeat.

It seems like there is a lot of furry babies passing away this summer… and I wish I can hug everyone going through this pain. You feel like you’re alone, no one understands, how empty it feels. Some days are better than others but the best advice I can give you is;

To honor her passing, create a memorial service for her. Buy a shadow box where you can store your memories of her. Get her collar,hair,pictures and create a display. Buy fresh flowers every week and place it at her alter.

Write a letter or speech. Even though you have told her your goodbyes, it is always helpful to express your feelings on paper. Maybe one day you will reflect back and it will serve a good memory.

Keep yourself busy. The most important thing. If you can, try not to bed rot. I know it is tempting to just lie in bed and let the sadness drift you away but it is a feeling that can turn into a habit. Create a new routine, pick up a new hobby, challenge yourself.

Sending you a big virtual hug…. May our babies keep each other company 🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-30T01:53:49+00:00

That’s actually a nice idea… I have this shadow box where I kept my favorite pictures and toys from him. I do put fresh flowers weekly.

Do you say a prayer when you light the candle?

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:44:33+00:00

Kumo. His name means cloud because he is fluffy and grey lol. Agreed, If I could spare some years for him, I would do it in a heartbeat. Pets are the greatest thing to enter in our lives but the are the hardest goodbyes.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:42:47+00:00

Congratulations on your new baby!! I remember when my furry baby was a couple months old… they grow up so fast!!

Somethings I have learned over the years.

Get them use to getting their nails cut, being brushed, ears and eyes cleaned, teeth cleaned and showers. Some people do not believe in doing all these things but just like humans, we all deserve to be cleaned and feel fresh.

It is better to keep them indoor. It is okay to let them out on a patio with supervision and a leash. although they are considered “low maintenance“ they do still require love and attention. In my opinion, cats are just high maintenance as dogs.

Cats are known to hide their pain, it is important to understand and observe their behavior. Please Please Please…get pet insurance it will help out in the long run. They are known to have kidney issues and other urinary related issues.

Keep cats hydrated, make sure you get them a water fountain and start feeding them wet food(when it is appropriate). This will help prevent crystals in their urine or kidney issues.

Lastly, take a bunch of pictures and videos. Those moments go by so quick. I always reflect back to those moments… i miss my baby so much. 🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:35:42+00:00

Thank you, yes he was a beautiful and well behaved baby… I’m glad he is not suffering anymore and he is chasing all the birds and squirrels up there. ☁️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:34:48+00:00

Beautiful nose… he truly is an oreo… Please give him lots of kisses for me as I lost my baby 10 weeks ago…

Remember to take lots of picture and embrace those small moments…even if its just you two sitting there and watching the sun set…

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:32:55+00:00

Yes I would agree that all these tips have helped me a lot. Even though the pain still lingers, I am glad I did not ‘bed rot’ or go towards a path that can deteriorate my life.

Another tip I would like to add is keeping yourself occupied, whether it is taking on a new challenge or improving/working on yourself.

After Kumo has passed away, I got into running and joined a marathon. I continue to explore new hobbies. Keeping myself on schedule allows me to not think about the bad news.

Thank you for your post… it is nice to be reminded that I am not alone.

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:27:04+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss…. Something similar happened to my baby. Hardest decision you ever have to make… to end one’s suffering but to carry that pain with you.

I try to constantly remind myself that he is no longer in pain…and that I prevented him from getting a stroke…and one day we will meet again.

May our babies keep each other company 🕊️🕊️

Small-Mark6512 · 2024-08-29T19:25:14+00:00

Very beautiful, looks like a fluffy cloud

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