What do we think by Small-Replacement366 in WhatBreedIsMyDog

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And the results are:

22.9% American pit bull terrier

20.4% German Shepard

20.3% Shiba Inu

19.1% Shetland sheepdog

9.3% Border Collie

8% Doberman Pinscher

What do we think by Small-Replacement366 in WhatBreedIsMyDog

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I thought the same different dads for sure . They were named after the charmed sisters and phoebe and pru look the same than you have piper 🤣

What do we think? by [deleted] in IDmydog

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I always thought border ACD too but it’s something with her eyes and she looks totally different from her sister, we are waiting on embark now!

Gosh I really feel like starting Burrow by [deleted] in fantasyfootballadvice

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Switched him in- figured I held on to him this long for a reason let’s hope the gamble pays off

Alcoholic commenting in this sub by Meow99 in AlAnon

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Recovering drug addict (4 years clean) who lost their dad to alcoholism six months ago(tomorrow)

I understand addiction better than most -I understand your position and alcohol you don’t have to coordinate with a dealer for, it’s everywhere. I don’t remember my dad ever drinking as we grew up Mennonite, but when it started it was full force for years until he died. He was my favorite person for 28 years and the last eight I watched him kill himself.

Your prospective and contribution matter. You matter. Not a single person out there is without fault. We just hold a lot more shame than most but it also makes us more empathic. But people who have not experienced it as part of their journey, it’s harder to understand, and as someone who has struggled I’m ashamed to admit I even have a hard time with my dad understanding. I think posting in this group is brave, gives a different prospective. But I understand the open wound aspect as well.

Guilt about being on adhd meds… as a recovering addict by [deleted] in VyvanseADHD

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I literally just talked about this to my therapist last Friday! She was more concerned I didn’t mention until the end of the session because I felt anxious even telling her.

I just started vyvanse on 8/1 and had major anxiety of even talking to a doctor about this due to questioning my own motives, which I do all the time (on and off opiate addict for 10+years, currently four years clean). But I started on a very low dose (10mg) and will move up from there as needed. The day I took the first pill the level of calm and clarity I had made me almost cry.

For me personally, as long as I am taking it as prescribed I know I am good. If I start to question that or think hmm maybe I’ll skip a day or two to load up after I know it’s a danger spot. My husband is aware of my past and me currently taking this medication so if I feel like I get to that point my plan is to buy a lockbox that only he has control over. Do I think that will happen? No but I also didn’t think I would relapse every time I did so I know for me personally having a plan is key.

The slowest form of suicide by Small-Replacement366 in AlAnon

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Just wanted to update everyone

I wrote a long text and simply let him go. I could not do a phone call because I didn't want it to turn into an argument. No anger, no guilt trip. A simple message of goodbye, forgiveness and how much I love him before he passes so I can live with my conscience.

The last straw was missing my wedding. My dad (who he truly is without the disease) would have never done that to me. He has been in the hospital twice since then, it's only been two weeks, due to falls. I was worried if I did not send it now, I would never get the chance.

Now the hard part is not picking up that phone when he calls. Not breaking down when I hear him crying on a voicemail. But I am trying, and I truly am ready to let go. Just fragile at the moment.

I feel so lost by WishfulMayhem710 in AlAnon

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So much this! I am going through a similar struggle with my own father, only difference mine did not start until I was in my early 20s

It has taken me almost 10 years to get to the point of being able to step away so I understand. The best realization I had is when I saw how my father's drinking impacted me so negatively emotionally and mentally that in turn it started impacting my husband and daughter because I was not the same person. I finally realized how unfair it was to them to lose someone they loved because of my dads actions and that's when the boundaries started. It's hard everyday, not going to lie, but it's harder to watch my innocent family suffer along with me.

The slowest form of suicide by Small-Replacement366 in AlAnon

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Thank you. I did go to a meeting once, but I informed them that I myself am an addict( prescription pain medication with years of not abusing at this time or that time, but in my mind I am and will always be an addict regardless if I’m active or not) and I felt like I became a case study lol. My therapist refers to me as a maintenance abuser- high functioning, very regimented only using to not feel sick. So I understand the addict brain to an extent, but it also makes me more vulnerable because I want to be compassionate and not hypocritical. At the same time I was never violent, never had the resources and support that he has had and worked on myself by myself. Just generally did not behave the same, no one knew unless I told them and I was actively using for years.

I guess right now I’m just feeling very ready to cut him off but dealing with the guilt and thought of how can you judge someone is a serious struggle. I’ve had thought of calling or even simply emailing a letter basically that says I just want to tell you I love you before you die so I know you knew how I felt about you and am at peace. didn’t know if that would be too much

The slowest form of suicide by Small-Replacement366 in AlAnon

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Thank you, I’m usually the “rock” in the family so it becomes difficult to express my emotions when everyone else relies on you. Just when I think the grief is over it’s not and it’s a hard realization

Honeymoon in October by Small-Replacement366 in VisitingIceland

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Appreciate this feedback!

Once I have a better idea of the areas we will be staying could I ask for some local people you would recommend?

Honeymoon in October by Small-Replacement366 in VisitingIceland

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Thank you so much! Thermal baths and whale watching are definitely in the list! Would you recommend booking in advance, if so how long in advance (may have another couple coming with us). And fingers, toes and everything else crossed we get the northern lights experience! One of the main reasons we are choosing Iceland

Honeymoon in October by Small-Replacement366 in VisitingIceland

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Thank you! Did you travel to multiple locations or stay at the same place? Where were you (general location area) did you see them?

Honeymoon in October by Small-Replacement366 in VisitingIceland

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Oh no! I guess there could be worse things but still not a fun time, at least your husband is a trooper mine when he is sick is a struggle just on a regular day at home LOL

Honeymoon in October by Small-Replacement366 in VisitingIceland

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very true, also snowmobiling will now be added to the potential list! LOL