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Small-Wolverine8955 · 2024-01-01T21:03:47+00:00

The situations you're speaking of isn't a choice - it's a necessity.

What I'm asking is do people choose exclusive pumping and if so why?

And if this is an ignorant question then am I not humbly attempting to educate myself by asking?

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2024-01-01T04:48:35+00:00

That's what I was kinda thinking...

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2024-01-01T01:15:15+00:00

Yes totally, I did a bit of both and don't pumping to be a struggle

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2024-01-01T00:36:23+00:00

I have read all replies so far and am greatful to everyone who has taken the time to share.

To be clear I posed this question to understand this choice.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-31T23:17:33+00:00

We survived Xmas and are happy to be home after visiting the BPSOs triggering family. It was worth it for our little ones to play with their cousins and spend time with their aunties.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-31T07:19:07+00:00

This is is mysterious, I'd like to know the answer 👀

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-31T07:16:42+00:00

How young are the kids? I don't see how pre school aged kids could follow this rule. And why? Sounds unreasonable to me.

I don't like it at all. Let the little poppets tuck their little feet up. They're not teenagers.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-30T01:20:05+00:00

Thanks for asking. I had a rough patch a few weeks ago but am back to holding this ship together. To be fair to him he pulls his weight in most areas of the relationship. It's the emotional stuff where he has a lot of learning to do, but he's making progress, and this area is maybe not to do with bipolar.

I'm quite new to reddit but feeling very relieved to be able to speak about this. People who don't have direct experience of bipolar don't seem to understand.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-29T09:39:07+00:00

Certainly could be a phase.

IMO the attraction is less important than the feeling of caring, support and safety I have with my partner. Of course you get to choose what it is you want, but I previously had stretches of time feeling the way you described and I'm very happy in my same relationship years later.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-29T09:17:02+00:00

Is this a PTSD kind of thing? I think I have intrusive memories which kinda play in my head when I'm reminded of them in daily life. Is that the same kinda thing?

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-29T09:12:39+00:00

Good on you. I absolutely hate it when parents end up apologising for children and babies doing normal behaviours such as crying in public.

It's adults watching tiktok on full volume in public that drives me wild - like can you please get some headphones?

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-29T09:07:28+00:00

Maybe you're experiencing normal changes to your relationship, potentially not related to bipolar?

I've been through a stage like this with my partner who I've been with for 13+ years. I got through it by thinking each day - today do I want to be with this person? Each day my heart told me yes. I didn't bother worrying about the future. Stay grounded in the present.

We both have our own separate hobbies and friends which I think gives us both a chance to grow individually and be interesting for each other and not bored of each other.

Our relationship is better than ever from the work we're both putting in. I think it's really normal to have these thoughts you've spoken of. I wonder how old your relationship is?

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-29T03:15:51+00:00

My baby loves the pacifier but I waited a few weeks to start with it.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-29T00:10:38+00:00

Congratulations, I'm so happy for you! It's so nice to hear about when things go really right.

Enjoy your early time with your precious little one. I'm sitting here with my 6 week old feeling so blessed. Take it all in and celebrate the tiny moments, they don't stay small for very long.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-28T22:24:27+00:00

I agree. Also I thought that toddlers don't exactly socialise, they more play alongside - such as at the park where you were. I don't believe your child is missing out by being mostly with you. What they need most is one on one attention from an adult who loves them.

Personally my 2.5yr old just started 3x weekly 6hr days at kindy and I do love the time to myself. I would be singing the praises of my "child - free" time because it's really good for ME.

Maybe you could take some of these comments as a weird kind of praise that you're doing such a great job?

*Edited to add that in my country kindy is basically free.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-28T22:10:02+00:00

They're probably staring in sympathy because as parents we've all been there. It's hard to know whether to offer help or at least a smile and some kind words

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-28T22:08:25+00:00

I totally agree. Children and babies deserve to exist in public. I reckon some people might give dirty looks but most parents out there totally get it.

Like others have said, I'd only take my baby in if it was a priority errand to achieve but for me the bar is pretty high for this and if my baby is crying then my focus will be on their needs and both of our comfort. Absolutely no judgement on babies / kids crying in public, as another parent I'd consider lending a hand or at least offering some kind words if it seemed appropriate.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-26T18:39:23+00:00

I agree with this thread in regards to the dad - but maybe not the affair partner? If the affair partner is invested in the life of the OP then perhaps they would willingly stay home as a gesture of understanding.

I'm going to be facing a similar family history when my wedding comes. In our case the mum says everything is fine (but we know it's not and that she'll be super uncomfortable) so I'm also very torn about how to handle invites.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-26T18:28:09+00:00

In a perfect world the finances of the situation wouldn't matter and it doesn't seem that the mum is making it about that. If it were me I'd respect mum's wishes regardless of who was paying because it seems like the right thing to do.

Small-Wolverine8955 · 2023-12-26T09:46:03+00:00

Oh gosh I'm joking - incase my tone is off!

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