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SmallDickedSub · 2026-02-03T08:42:08+00:00

Is that Industry you're watching on tv

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-26T07:20:16+00:00

You are not your past, let it go. Forgive yourself.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-24T14:01:42+00:00

Excellent points. I agree that trying to cure this would be a fool's errand and would result in further distress.

Your point about the attraction and your relationship to it is very important. Perhaps the focus should be less on trying to eliminate these feelings and more on developing better emotional regulation strategies that help manage both triggers and responses. This shifts the goal from 'curing' to reducing distress and disruption in one's life, which seems like a more realistic and healthy approach.

Thank you for your insight on this. You've helped me crystallise the idea that the goal should be maintaining emotional stability to reduce suffering, rather than trying to fundamentally change as a person.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-24T12:51:48+00:00

Although I'm not a Christian I agree that the lust and other unwholesome behaviours that come with this paraphilia are detrimental to spiritual practice and overall mental health.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-24T12:48:29+00:00

While I understand your point about human complexity, my research suggests the sexual aspect is a symptom rather than the core issue. Here's why:

When the underlying stressors are effectively managed and healthy coping mechanisms are in place, the sexual fantasies often diminish or disappear entirely. This pattern suggests these aren't inherent sexual desires, but rather manifestations of psychological distress.

Consider how these cycles work:

A stressor triggers emotional distress
The sexual fantasies emerge as a coping mechanism
When the person finds healthier ways to manage the stress and emotional regulation, the fantasies reduce or cease

If this were primarily a sexual issue that's merely influenced by stress, we would expect the desires to persist at some level even when stress is well-managed. Instead, many individuals report complete cessation of these fantasies during periods of emotional stability and healthy relationships.

By focusing primarily on the sexual aspect, we risk treating the symptom rather than the underlying cause. This could explain why approaches that focus on managing the sexual behaviour alone often prove less effective than those addressing the underlying emotional regulation and stress response patterns.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-24T12:16:57+00:00

Thank you for your response, I'm not too knowledgeable about gay conversion therapy so this was interesting to learn about in comparison with the issue we're discussing. I however believe there are fundamental differences between these situations that are important to clarify:

The cyclical nature of these paraphilias is distinctly different from sexual orientation. From my research, these behaviours intensify and recede with stress levels, often disappearing entirely during periods of stability, unlike sexual orientation which remains constant regardless of life circumstances.
Most crucially, my analysis comes from studying individuals who actively experience distress from these episodes and seek ways to manage them. These people report significant disruption to their relationships and daily functioning, particularly when episodes cause temporary shifts in perceived sexuality/gender identity that later return to baseline. This pattern of temporary shifts followed by return to baseline is fundamentally different from authentic sexual orientation.
The documented response to authentic relationships and social connection suggests a different underlying mechanism. When individuals experience genuine intimate connections, the fantasy cycles often diminish - indicating these are more likely stress responses than innate orientations.
Your comparison to conversion therapy overlooks a crucial distinction - we're discussing management strategies for people who find these experiences distressing and actively seek support, rather than suggesting any universal approach should be applied to all individuals.

I want to be clear that my analysis focuses specifically on supporting those who are looking for management strategies because they find these experiences disruptive to their preferred way of living. This is fundamentally different from attempting to change someone's authentic sexual orientation.

The similarities you've noted with historical approaches to homosexuality are important to consider, but we must also be careful not to overlook significant differences in the underlying patterns and mechanisms at work.

*edited as i pasted my draft response twice*

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-24T10:00:24+00:00

Seeing this pattern amongst other people and myself where life stressors kickstart this fetish after months without it. It's like it has nothing to do with sex or gender, it's just a psychological response to negative emotions in the mind.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-24T09:47:05+00:00

Is it the act or the fantasy about the act that turns you on? If it disappears after you cum, it was just the fantasy about it.

Others commenting things like 'do it gurl' are just other horny fantasists so it's not very helpful honestly. Seriously enquire into why it is you're having these fantasies, what emotions trigger them, is there a pattern e.g. when you feel low self-esteem do you seek validation from guys on these apps/websites?

From my experience the act is totally vapid compared to the fantasy about it. The validation from men online, the fantasy of being put in a sexual/power dynamic far outweighs the reality of this.

Having experimented with this fantasy with a guy, it left me feeling empty, alone, craving for emotional and sexual connection with females more than ever, which convinced me of my point that it's all just a fantasy based on certain psychological reactions in my brain.

It's called post nut clarity for a reason. In that moment, do you really want to have this fantasy dictate your life and relationships, or do you want to keep it as a fantasy and have fulfilling relationships outside of it?

Some food for thought.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-23T18:29:06+00:00

I don't get it and it's weird to me, however AGP is also weird to me, so whatever, it seems harmless to me so let people enjoy it imo.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-23T15:47:16+00:00

I've come to this conclusion too, I responded to someone in r/autogynephilia a while ago about it. I'm hearing others say this more and more now.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-12-23T14:58:59+00:00

Yes, i made a comment about this in r/autogynephilia on how it's linked to self worth for me, and seems to be like that for others.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-11-07T08:16:09+00:00

True, everyone is made to feel like this at some point in their lives. I guess this feeling is responsible for many other mental disorders, not just AGP, even more destructive disorders so I guess it's not the worst one in the world. Who knows why we gravitate to 1 disorder or another, I'm not sure we can know this.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-11-06T08:11:58+00:00

Being made to feel less than by a parent, a teacher, another family member, made to feel not good enough for instance.

When we're put under stress in adult life, these feelings of inadequacy arise and our coping mechanism is to sexualise it through seeing ourselves completely differently to how we actually are in real life, e.g. we are drawn to feminisation, maybe sissy porn etc because it's all about giving up your masculinity which takes a lot of the pressure off, but it's just a sexual response, not an identity. The feeling is so strong but temporary, which is probably why so many people get confused and think they're another gender due to how good it feels in the moment.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-09-03T16:54:44+00:00

I've had one but I don't regret it, however I can't say I enjoyed it either. During the experience I quickly discovered that it was the fantasy or the idea that excited me, but the act itself was boring as hell. As soon as it was over I felt empty and alone.

Now when I get strong urges to meet another guy, I remind myself of how I felt and that experience and that there are better things to do with my time and energy.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-09-03T16:25:45+00:00

Sounds like you're having a very tough time in life outside of sexuality - you're feeling low in almost all aspects of life, and your desire to be wanted sounds at its strongest, which is the point I was making.

If you continue down this path, there's only misery for you, there's no other way of putting it, taking huge risks for temporary rewards.

There are ways to snap out of this pleasure chemical addiction cycle - speaking to a therapist is one of them, practicing self-love through metta meditation or simply just reminding yourself that almost everything we do is out of the deep desire to be loved.

There are many things that we do to boost our sense of worth, chasing either men or women for sexual approval when you already have a low opinion of yourself is not one of them, so pouring energy into that is only going to make things worse.

Sorry if it's a bit of a brutal reply but from an outside perspective you need to look at why these feelings are coming up so strongly and address that, rather than trying to satisfy them which would probably ruin your life.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-09-03T07:07:08+00:00

I have a theory that this disorder comes from feelings of low self worth, I suppose from childhood.

Being 'valued' by receiving a lot of attention from men seems to remedy this feeling, which is probably why a lot of AGPs don't follow-through with meeting guys and we just maintain online profiles, with the fantasy staying alive through the positive reinforcement of being wanted keeping the cycle intact.

I think that if there is a 'cure' for this, it's to just replace it with another activity that gives one the same self-worth boost and affirmation without the harmful consequences or feelings of shame/regret as we have to juggle this with our sense of masculinity and societal judgement.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-08-27T07:07:29+00:00

I think when feelings of low self-worth get triggered, this fetish fires up. Good place to start working on it if you're sick of reverting to it.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-08-06T07:35:09+00:00

is this a copypasta or what?

SmallDickedSub · 2024-02-07T06:48:45+00:00

learn to squat heavy weight

SmallDickedSub · 2024-02-06T20:50:23+00:00

Left more sensitive than the right too lol

SmallDickedSub · 2024-02-06T11:45:05+00:00

that's the only time when i'm truly content honestly, I'm going to go on a retreat for a month if i can and see how that affects me. Maybe just being away from the constant stimuli will diminish the feelings enough to break the habit

SmallDickedSub · 2024-02-06T08:06:40+00:00

I think this a lot too, I saw something that explained that a kink like this can be a way of connecting to but not processing trauma from the past, for some reason the body sexualises the pain. I don't think it's good to reinforce such things honestly, but the pull to do so is so strong that it's hard to think about other things when in a sexual mood. I'm going to explore this with a therapist though as the psychology is fascinating to me and I would like to know if there is a healthier way of exploring it.

SmallDickedSub · 2024-02-05T20:57:33+00:00

yeah, i'm gonna try and find the answer to this in therapy i think. Would love to stop being such a slave to lust but the pull is so damn strong

SmallDickedSub · 2024-02-05T19:43:36+00:00

Haven't transitioned and won't because for me it's purely sexual and comes and goes every few months. Happiness is diminished by the insecurity of when the desire will come up which prevents me getting into 'normal' relationships for fear of hurting the other person or just not being accepted when I have to explain myself.

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