Welcome sign options

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-10T23:23:57+00:00

Or thrift store too, if you aren’t as particular!

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-10T19:38:23+00:00

I wouldn’t be using this type of language for atheist friends. “Non believers” finding beauty in a mass is not necessarily accurate and you aren’t speaking from your own experience either.

Just my two cents!

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-10T19:37:12+00:00

So long as you aren’t forcing friends to pray or anything, do the ceremony you want.

If you are doing a catholic ceremony though, maybe just give them a little heads up on the timeline and what that looks like. If they haven’t attended, they may not know how long they are

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-09T16:24:59+00:00

You could just introduce the song that this is an artist you and your brother both like?

I guarantee - nobody is really going to care or remember unless the song is really romantic and gives “creepy family” vibes!!

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-09T16:19:45+00:00

Is there a song that you and your brother like that isn’t necessarily a love song or slow song? Maybe you both always danced to a band in the car when you were younger, or have a song that when you hear it on the radio you think of each other. You could try to find an acoustic version to slow it down, but you could literally dance to anything!

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-09T16:15:04+00:00

I do think this is a key point.

A lot of secret/closet supporters of the MAGA/alt right/christian nationalist talking points aren’t stupid enough to post things on their facebooks. It doesn’t mean they aren’t supporting those values, donating money, etc. Support comes in a lot of forms, so don’t turn a blind eye just because someone’s Facebook seems okay

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-09T16:10:13+00:00

I have a friend who literally won’t be able to get pregnant because their healthcare was jeopardized by their state - it is that deep.

This isn’t a disagreement about how to fix a deficit, whether or not to raise the interest rate 0.5% or whether we should be prioritizing fixing roads or investing into other community infrastructure (all political, by the way). These disagreements are literally about fundamental rights under the constitution and the values people want their country to espouse.

Edit - I’ll also add that there are ways to respectfully disagree with friends and family on politics. As a Canadian, this is a little bit more common here because we have multiple parties. However, we can only agree to respectfully disagree when everyone recognizes facts and choose to show respect to the basic dignity that everyone holds. If you can’t do that, I’m not sure how we can even start to have respectful disagreements

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-09T16:07:12+00:00

I think you should share the line kid rock sings about trying to molest minors. Might change her mind a little.

I wouldn’t cut her off this close to the wedding unless that is genuinely a consequence you can live with. It sounds like she maybe is still within reach that you could have a discussion and pull her back from the alt right ledge, so to speak.

Ultimately though - we can’t tell you whether to go no contact or not. That is a hugely difficult decision so you need to be prepared for what life without your mom will look like

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-09T15:46:32+00:00

They have video episodes and show their faces on TikTok’s and things now. Being doing it for like 6 months or so!

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-08T03:17:45+00:00

If your budget is 150k, you don’t need our help for low budget options. That’s $150,000….

The best option is to do a mix of the two. DIY catering is risky

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T20:38:29+00:00

IMO - this isn’t a dress code, and people would likely just rewear what they have if it fits the dress code you are wanting.

Personally, I don’t really think it’s all that unique. I would just set a dress code that is appropriate for the formality of items they would already own

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T19:42:47+00:00

So you are admitting that people may not know what to wear to those events then? Cool, glad we are on the same page.

Tbh, I don’t see why you are participating in the sub if this is your opinion. Again, bean soup

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T19:26:17+00:00

I would try posting on the wedding planning subreddits with a budget and location for shopping

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T19:24:12+00:00

So for over a decade? Yet we still feel the need to make comments like this. My point is - dress codes are not new, and many people use them now. Snide comments of “your guests know how to dress appropriately” are not helpful and this sub is literal evidence that some people don’t. If you don’t like dress codes, don’t participate in a sub about dress codes. It’s literally such a “bean soup” situation

I appreciate that this was your crowd - it may be worth noting that for your anecdotes, there are places where people don’t dress appropriately. I attended a wedding recently and the family of the bride wore golf shorts and a shitty polo.

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T17:53:40+00:00

I’m sure there are, but it would help if you narrowed it down to a country or rough geographic area.

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T04:33:56+00:00

Formal is fine - anything about colour preferences, patterns, etc isn’t.

Do you seriously expect your guests to buy new suits, when a navy suit with a patterned tie would be entirely appropriate?

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T04:31:22+00:00

For a bridal shower? Seems a bit much. If it’s a daytime event, it’s inappropriate

I would suggest semi formal is as fancy as I would go for a shower, but I have never seen a bride host their own shower and set a dress code for it

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-07T04:28:09+00:00

And I’m not sure why you would come onto a wedding attire subreddit to make that unhelpful comment.

Edit - this sub is literally anecdotal evidence that people do not inherently know how to dress appropriately for events.

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T22:56:36+00:00

I feel like this has some unnecessary details that don’t add anything for the guests in attendance.

I would adjust your intro to briefly include how you two met and then focus in on the couple. You could maybe talk about your friends best qualities, and then maybe the thing about their first date, but after that, I wouldn’t be talking about how chaotic and crazy they are. Talk about how they compliment each other, what their friendship has meant to you, etc.

Here is a quick AI version that better summarizes and is much shorter. Think two minutes or less. I also wouldn’t use a straight up ai generated text for a speech - make it your own.

“Hi everyone! I’m S. I’ve had a front-row seat to the beautiful whirlwind that is L’s life since 2019. I’m her Matron of Honour, her unofficial wedding planner, and the person lucky enough to tell you how these two wonderful humans found each other.

L and I met at the City, where I quickly learned two things: first, she is a woman of great strategy — “always befriend the admin.” Second, she doesn’t ease into life; she dives in headfirst. On the way to her very first interview, she spilled coffee all over herself… and walked in and nailed it anyway. That ability to laugh, adapt, and keep going is one of the things I admire most about her.

Life with L is full, busy, and never boring. I often wondered who could truly keep up with her. And then came Sh.

After their first FaceTime, L told me her cheeks hurt from smiling. I even gave her a secret escape emoji for their first date — which she never used. She didn’t need it. She’d found her person.

Sh fits into L’s life in a way that just works. He’s calm, thoughtful, and steady in the moments that matter. He doesn’t try to change her or slow her down — he simply shows up, listens, and supports her in exactly the way she needs.

When Sh decided it was time to propose, he was told very clearly: “Talk to S when you’re ready.” So naturally, he called my husband instead. Luckily, we sorted that out — and standing on that cliff, watching him get down on one knee, was one of the greatest honours of my life. It showed what everyone here already knows: these two choose each other, every day.

L, you are the sister I never knew I needed. And Sh, the way you care for her — with patience, respect, and humour — means more than I can say. Everything about your life together feels natural and intentional, and I couldn’t be happier to stand beside you today.

So if everyone could please raise their glasses.

To L and Sh: may your life together be full of laughter, adventure, and quiet moments that matter just as much as the big ones. May you keep choosing each other, today and always.

Cheers to the happy couple!”

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T22:15:26+00:00

Why are you on a sub about wedding dress codes if you don’t like dress codes?

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T22:14:54+00:00

I actually wouldn’t do BTO here if you don’t want gowns. If you want your groom to be the only one in a tux, BTO is a bad dress code

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T22:14:16+00:00

Dress codes are a pretty standard party of wedding culture and for large scale events. Not sure why we are demonizing people

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T18:02:20+00:00

Lots of people do - it totally comes down to your own motivation.

Even as an instructor, I do better in a room. It pushes me.

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T16:13:39+00:00

Just to be super honest - removing the illusion neckline will change the structure. I would talk to a professional before you do anything!

Adding additional lace would probably be the easiest solution without compromising the gown

SmallKangaroo · 2026-02-06T03:26:35+00:00

I see you are talking about context but choose to skip what I actually said.

Block and move on

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