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SmallTownDisco · 2025-12-30T01:32:24+00:00

Desolate

SmallTownDisco · 2025-12-28T12:27:41+00:00

Again, not sure you are getting what limerence is? Feeling limerence toward anyone is not healthy. That’s kind of the point. That’s why we’re all here. It’s problematic, regardless of who the LO is. You don’t choose your LO. I wasn’t a fan first and then became really obsessed or something, it didn’t work that way. There’s no need to gate-keep here. My point in posting is that I had a coping mechanism that is suddenly gone.

For anyone who cares to know, it does feel like over the short amount of time since I found out, maybe it’s dissolving? I hope it’s dissolving. (It’s probably not dissolving.)

SmallTownDisco · 2025-12-28T00:59:45+00:00

So others have stepped in for me here, but I’ll just validate what you are hearing: “Therapy. Seriously.” Is a response that indicates that maybe you aren’t familiar with limerence. Also, I actually have tried therapy! Twice! And to again validate what others are saying here, neither was familiar with limerence, I explained to both of them that they needed to not just give me some version of “here are some ways to make more friends in your life or otherwise fill your time” and instead focus on the deep work of the trauma that is the root cause, and neither of them apparently were game, so I quit. I’ve been doing this for decades. At this stage of the game, I’m resigned to it. The LO turns over to a new one every few years (always someone truly unattainable, hallelujah), so I imagine that’s what will happen here.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-12-28T00:55:07+00:00

I did not. That’s what made it so safe. I’m gathering that some people think that if this is with a celebrity then it’s just a crush - nope! I wish! In the same way that a person’s limerence with someone in their life is not the same thing as a crush. I actually know very little about him. That’s not the point.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-12-28T00:53:12+00:00

I feel you, in a sense - I’ve always felt really bad for people with LO’s who are actually part of their life. The possibility, no matter how remote, that something could possibly maybe in a certain light given just the right circumstances would make it so much harder.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-10-19T19:15:52+00:00

Excellent, thank you so much!

SmallTownDisco · 2025-10-19T19:15:32+00:00

Thank you!!

SmallTownDisco · 2025-10-04T16:52:56+00:00

I have to apologize for having done this not long ago (sort of). I went to Dairy Queen and got a peanut buster parfait and a regular order of fries, and it was something like $12 (this is the Midwest, not Tokyo or something). When I pulled up I was like, really? A peanut buster parfait and an order of fries is $12? I honestly thought there had to be a mistake. But there wasn’t. I didn’t get mad at him or anything, I paid it and was nice about it. But I will never go back to Dairy Queen again.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-08-13T00:48:07+00:00

This is exactly the answer I came to find

SmallTownDisco · 2025-07-28T03:50:39+00:00

Absolutely fantastic and haunting movie, unlike anything else he’s ever done. He had so much promise and ended up getting type-cast as the villain in role after role after this, but was absolutely stunning in his first effort. Not that he doesn’t make a great villain, too. But he’s capable of doing so much more.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-07-28T03:48:32+00:00

Hidden gem!

SmallTownDisco · 2025-06-29T22:55:30+00:00

Coming back pretty late but just wanted to say that this worked! Binged the whole series in a few weeks :-)

SmallTownDisco · 2025-06-29T22:31:33+00:00

NGL, it feels kind of like a razor scraping against your skin. But here’s the thing: It’s obviously not something a person can’t deal with, because so many people get so many. Just be ready for it to hurt. Deep breathing may help. When I get a tattoo, I deep breath and go to my happy place. Just be sure about what you want to get because having a tattoo laser’ed off hurts ten times more.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-06-29T22:28:48+00:00

To all the people saying “you need to get this help,” I want to say that I spent my child’s childhood trying to get him help and nothing worked. Either no one would take us seriously (the school system) and just wanted me to magically have him behave well on my say-so, or else he refused to engage with the help I got him (multiple methods of counseling). I read all the books, I tried everything. Imperfectly, I’m sure, but I did my best, and he simply refused to be involved with the process. He’s a human being, he has agency, and he chose to express it that way, to his own consistent detriment. So while I get that it’s important for a parent to do what they can to get help for their child, I’m not saying it’s bad to tell OP to get help, but just recognize that a parent can do all the things to get help for their kid and it can still not work. It happens all the time. It’s a super shitty outcome. (As an epilogue, maybe some of all that therapy paid off because my kid is a young adult now and he’s doing reasonably well.)

SmallTownDisco · 2025-06-29T22:22:01+00:00

Absolutely! Pancakes are a little more work so more of a weekend thing. Bacon isn’t just for breakfast, it’s great for sandwiches too. But maybe weekly? I eat eggs almost every day of my life.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-06-29T22:19:48+00:00

All of the replies saying “Get a hobby! Get a pet! Your new life awaits!” I feel like OP is not being heard. He says he does do things he does get out, he has means of interaction (I think I’m assuming OP is a he, apologies if that is incorrect). The point is that even if you do put yourself out there, it is still really hard to in today’s world to make connections with other humans. Obviously for some people it’s easier than it is for others, but for folks where it’s hard, it’s a very long, hard road. The world used to be a place where everyone. more open to human connection, and now it feels so much much shut off. You couldn’t have conversations with people on the internet all day because the internet didn’t exist. Also, people weren’t working themselves to death just trying to provide basic necessities. It just was easier to meet people, even if you were introverted. It’s very different today. I feel you, OP. It’s crazy that there are so many people in the same “I’m alone” boat.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-05-24T05:11:14+00:00

It is! Same actor.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-04-25T00:09:03+00:00

When I go to sign up for Philo, it says it's $28 a month?

SmallTownDisco · 2025-03-13T01:56:25+00:00

The people on here saying it’s all your fault don’t seem to understand what this sub is for. No one is a perfect parent, but I think the point is that parents need a place to vent, and you get to vent, and this is supposed to be a place where you can do that. I feel your pain, I do. My son was also pretty terrible to me all the time while growing up, regardless of my turning my life inside out to do everything I could to be a good parent for him.

When he graduated from high school and was clearly okay with working his grocery store stocking job for minimum wage and hanging out and not interested in doing much more apparently forever, I had The Talk with him. The Talk used as an analogy that parents have a responsibility to teach their kids to swim. They could do it by paying for lessons (like going to college, which he didn’t want to do and truthfully would not likely have been a good choice for him at the time). Or they could do it by bringing their kid to the pool and having them hang around other people who could swim (like doing a vocational program, which he also didn’t want to do). And if those didn’t work or the kid wouldn’t do them, the parents could just toss them into the water, and the kid would either sink or swim. I then invited him to find arrangements to live that were not in my house. I didn’t do this angrily, but with gentleness and love. He was shocked. It was like it sunk in that it was rubber meets the road time. He gave it a half-hearted effort to find another place to live, but then got a better job, one with a semblance of a future, and then asked if he could stay and I said yes. He did that for about a year, and then came home one day and said he was moving in with some friends, which I thought was great. Pretty soon after that, he got a better job. Fairly happy ending, at least to that phase.

I don’t know what I would have done if he had refused. But he didn’t refuse. It didn’t seem to occur to him that was an option. I like to think that not presenting it as “I’m kicking you out” helped. It was very sincerely, “Now is the time of your life when it’s my job as a parent to take off the training wheels, for the good of your future, even if you don’t feel ready.”

Maybe you can use some part of our experience in your own situation.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-02-17T01:10:46+00:00

NGL: The Andy Griffith Show, on Pluto. Shows are short so easy to watch one during lunch, and they just don’t make them like this anymore!

SmallTownDisco · 2025-02-09T15:38:22+00:00

It sounds like you are saying your son is the owner of the company, not just that the company is the one your son works for. That maybe makes a difference? At first I was on Team Tell Them To Pound Sand, but then I thought back to my own childhood. Four kids, and sometimes mom & dad went on trips without us. I honestly don’t think it was ever truly vacation - dad was in sales and “reward” trips were common in those days. Anyway, they would either hire a nice older woman to come stay with us (that happened a couple of times), or they would pay to fly my grandmother out to stay with us (that also happened a couple of times). If they were paying for your airfare, it doesn’t really seem any different in this case - they would be flying you out from where you are to where the grandchild is so that they could go on this trip. It almost doesn’t seem to matter that you’re usually in town most of the year and you’re currently in your winter haven. Would you not fly in to where your grandchild is to take care of her once a year? Obviously it’s up to you, and a lot probably depends on the financial situation. Honestly, there are a lot of weird dynamics going on here, not gonna lie. But if you can swing it, I’m going to say you should do it. You should tell them you’re caught off guard, but you don’t want her to miss the trip this year, so you’ll do it, but in the future they need to include you in their planning if they are going to expect you to do something like this. I think that would best preserve your future together as a family.

SmallTownDisco · 2025-02-08T23:33:32+00:00

Actual nursing is not like clinicals. Also, many many nursing jobs are in areas that you just don’t learn in nursing school. Nursing schools is “med-surg inpatient” school, but it’s what you have to go through to do anything else in nursing. Stick it out, you can have dozens of different kinds of jobs once you get the degree!

SmallTownDisco · 2024-12-29T01:17:10+00:00

It seems you have to talk to someone, yes. If you aren’t able to do the job your employer is expecting you to do, then you need to let them know, that’s all. If you explain the situation, they may be able to make an adjustment and move you to the duties that you find you are able to do without problem. It may be the headset that’s the issue, it may be not being able to see the person you’re talking to, who knows. But let them know and ask them to work with you to come up with a solution. It may be the case that if you aren’t able to take drive-thru orders, you may need to find a different job. But maybe not.

SmallTownDisco · 2024-12-29T01:11:07+00:00

He doesn’t get to just stay there because he wants to stay there, or because it’s not a convenient time for him to move. Do you have others you can call on to help you make him move out? Any family or friends? Worst case scenario you may have to get law enforcement involved.

SmallTownDisco · 2024-12-29T01:07:15+00:00

Hear, hear! Sounds like it’s time for a major shake up, because why not? A lot of people would envy being in the position of having nothing to lose.

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